Why would a guy shame a woman for a normal thing she does like having casual sex?

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Some men on dating apps shame woman for having casual sex and multiple partners but in reality it is normal for woman to have a lot of sexual partners and to have sex so why would a guy shame a woman and block them for something normal like this? In my town, causal sex is the norm and I see it all the time. I see a lot woman get into random guys cars and they go somewhere. So why can’t guys understand that this is what woman do?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because sadly that isn’t considered normal behavior , that’s considered selfish behavior , Having sex with multiple people is considered dirty and degrading, that a person is allowing themselves to be used that way , it shows that person lacks moral values within themselves and doesn’t have any respect for themselves. It also shows they are at higher risk of catching STD’s and AIDS. And it shows that person can’t really be trusted , because they only care about themselves. And nobody else. They gain a reputation of being a slut or a whore. Yes it’s your life and your choice but understand you will eventually suffer the consequences of your actions. Most guys’ will not commit to a girl that runs around spreading her legs for multiple guys’ he might fuck her, but he more than likely won’t commit to her , because he doesn’t trust her , or respect her , because she lacks in moral values and respect for herself . Guys’ that lack moral values get treated the same way, if he gains a reputation of not being trusting , and easily gets around , most females won’t sleep with him or commit to him and won’t trust him , if he has a reputation of getting around , he will be considered a whore as well and more than likely , he is at higher risk of having STD’s or AIDS for getting around like he does. People that can’t remove selfishness from within themselves will never experience true love , they will only experience being a convenience or an option , they will never be a priority. Because they are considered Selfish people , that only care about themselves. Love only grows when you give to someone the same way you want to receive , if you can’t give what you want to receive, you will have nothing , you will just be a convenience not a priority. I don’t like pushing religion on to anyone but if you ever choose to open the Bible and give your faith to God , you will have a better understanding about Love and relationships and marriage. Again that is your choice , if you choose to trust in God. That guy blocked you, because he more than likely doesn’t like the way you allow yourself to get around and be used. like a whore or a slut Most males are very territorial over a girl that he gives his heart to , most males don’t want a girl that spreads her legs for anyone but him , So that guy considers you a slut or a whore that can’t be trusted because you lack respect from within yourself by allowing yourself to be used for sex. Again, I am not judging you , I am just answering your question as to why that guy more than likely blocked you. .

Inbox · Accepted Answer

Another sexist, double standard, etc type of question again by GAG lol. I’ll just copy and paste the same answer I got an MHO for a while backed :

…. Yeah, it’s always the young 20s girls who complain about this, including the whiny Feminists. Let’s keep it simple though:

1. Men and women are NOT the same.

Men want women who have low body counts. Whereas women want men who are financially successful, tall, handsome, etc - men don’t care if you have money, career, etc. Men have NOT changed, but women do because they’re always the ones whining and making big deals out of nothing.

2. Double standard fallacy argument

I understand that it sucks not being able to sleep with everyone as men can, but you’re making A LOT of assumptions: 1) getting laid is difficult for most men (the old saying is for every 18 #s a guy gets, only 1 will sleep with him and that’s assuming he plays his cards right). 2) even the average looking girl has options where most men do not, 3) why don’t you come up to me and ask me out and do all the work to the bedroom - whereas all a woman has to do is say “yea” to talking to him, giving out her #, a date, letting him kiss her, back to his place and make a move —- oh, if the she’s not feeling it at his place she can walk away and any experienced man will tell you that if you let a woman leave your place without sex, she will never contact or respond to him again DESPITE all the effort he put into this.

The point is, the double standard is a circular argument and like I said before, it’s not men complaining about the double standards, it’s only women.

Lastly, the average body count for a man here in the USA is only between 5 - 7, whereas for a woman it is 6 - 8, so it’s actually women who are being hypocritical lol.

3. My advice after getting hundreds of #s, dates, etc in this life of mine.

Be the woman (or man) that makes your boyfriend or girlfriend WANT to stick around and keep you because relationships are not easy - you must adjust yourself to the “market” shall we say, without selling your values or soul.

My current girlfriend I wish to marry is because of a number of reasons and one of them is because she is a good girl. Therefore I do everything I can to support her dreams and treat her well because I know she’s worth it.

if you want to sleep around that’s your choice, but all that I ask is you accept the consequences because no matter how hard the Feminists start wars, bitch, etc, they won’t be able to change men (they’ve been trying for the past 2000 years and still have not succeeded).

Puppystarfish23 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't shame a woman for it I just think you need to honest and up front with those your in a relationship with personall and can take responsibility for your actions and feelings. I think it takes a very emotionally mature person to live like this without getting hurt or hurting someone else.

The only thing that annoys me is like when people talk to you about there sex life like I'm really interested or something like its personal and its disrespectful towards the other person in that situation as they might not want everyone knowing. Not everyone needs to know everything about your life and that's something a lot of my fellow gen zs seem not to realise. I don't come out the toilet after taking a massive shit and then everyone about it in detail because I know its gross and no one asked or wanted to know and I'd find it strange if someone did want to know just as if someone was asking about my sex life

Jennandanthony9 · Accepted Answer

My husband doesn't even shame me for the few times he's caught me having casual sex. It's a part of life. In my opinion, there isn't, and likely never was, real monogamy. We are animals. When sexually stimulated we use the mid brain, the primordial region. It's responsible only for instinctive behavior. Such as, eat, procreate and maybe protect. Fight or flight it's refered to. The frontal cortex is rarely used at all. . So, I don't punish him when he has slept with other women and same on his end. honesty... That's the critical component. Own it admit to it and we're good. Im freaky so, details will probably excite me

MrOracle · Answer

You can do what you like - HOWEVER - your choices will have consequences, and you should not complain when you suffer those consequences, because you had the power to make different choices with different consequences.

Men and women are very different. One of those differences is that women value men who are well-educated, successful, have high status, and lots of resources, all of which men have to work long and hard to earn. The vast majority of men start their adult lives at essentially zero value, and must EARN every bit of value that they eventually have.

When it comes to women, it works very differently. Men do NOT care about a woman's education, career, money, or status - none of those things get her "points." Instead, what makes a woman valuable is her YOUTH (because that's closely tied to her fertility), her CHASTITY (low body count), her LOYALTY, and her FEMININITY. And women start their adult lives at virtually max value (her value potentially peaks at age 22) without doing much of anything - but the difference is that she can only go DOWN in value from there. Aside from aging, the main way a woman can lower her value to men as a potential relationship partner is by sacrificing her chastity and loyalty - having casual sex and running up her body count.

Now, this part is important, and many women don't understand this part: all of this only matters if she want a serious relationship. Women can be promiscuous and still get male attention, and lots of men will want to sleep with them and will give them attention (for a while, at least) as long as they're getting sex out of it. But those men do NOT take such women seriously as a relationship partner, even if they pretend to. Promiscuous women are seen as "for recreational use only" and ultimately will be treated as such. As long as a woman is okay being used for sex by an on-going string of men, hey, it's no problem.

If she ever decides she no longer wants that, though, and instead wants a relationship, she's going to be devastated when she finally realizes that she's squandered her "relationship value" by having casual sex, and that even though she could get the attention of (and have sex with) higher-value, more desirable men by giving them casual sex, she's not going to attract either higher-value OR even MID-value men as a relationship partner - the only men who will take her seriously as a relationship partner will be low-value men - men who are desperate for a relationship and who thus must accept a lower-value woman with a past.

This exact situation plays out ALL THE TIME. YouTube and TikTok are chock full of women in their 30s and 40s complaining that "all the good men are gone." What they mean is "I used to be able to attract higher-value men by giving them casual sex, but now that I want a relationship commitment, I can't attract those men anymore - or even men I value considerably less - aka average men."

I don't shame anyone - but I think people need to understand that their actions WILL have consequences, and they often are NOT going to like those consequences - yet the consequences WILL come regardless. Nothing in this world is free.

EmyyWolf · Answer

….  Perfect, I made a video about exactly that ….

blueonblack22 · Answer

And you don’t think women to shame and quickly assume the worst about men they meet online or elsewhere as well? It happens to us all the time. But I know just complaining about it will won’t magically change people’s minds. Instead I just have to grow a thicker skin and not waste my time listening to antagonistic people.

I am not saying that judgment is fair or right. But you have a choice on how to react to it. You have a choice to let it get to you or just ignore them.

In western society there are no legal restrictions on decisions women make with their careers, freedoms, dating decisions, promiscuity, etc. (middle east is a different story). It’s been that way for decades. But that isn’t good enough for modern feminists. No. They want to control how men literally think and say which is utterly insane.

Unless you had a man assault you, legitimately threaten you, deny you a job or wouldn’t lease you a room to you based on your sexual choices then you are not a victim just some random asshole made rude comments. That doesn’t make these guys okay or “right” but there is no (nor should there be) a law against what someone verbally says to you. Not when there is no legitimate danger besides hurt feelings.

It’s actually horrifying how some people want to restrict from of speech (in one direction). If feminists had it their way they would have men arrested for calling women sluts/whores but would be totally fine with women calling men “creeps”. In fact they usually cheer that on and encourage. They keep wanting to restrict how men express their feelings and hyprocritically encourage women to say the first thought that crosses their mind (Oprah’s “your truth”).

Samantha36 · Answer

Depends where you're from I guess. In Europe it's a lot more normal that in the USA.

spartan55 · Answer

Riiiiight.

Apple1996 · Answer

Those men are probably jealous that they aren't having as much sex as you are having 😆

tremendousfern · Answer

It's not normal and it is something you should be ashamed of.

Berethor · Answer

Normal where you live, not normal where you live, also people not always agree with norms.

Gent207-2 · Answer

Don't feed the trolls  Evil exists and expecting anything less from the web is foolish

normalice · Answer

Men are insecure by default. And the primary way we are driven to soothe that insecurity is by seeking the validation that comes from having sex with women. So, pretty much everything men say about women's sex lives is derived from our intent to make ourselves feel better about not having the quantity/quality of sex we believe would soothe our insecurity.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Because the accusers have insecurities.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Because it isn't normal. That is just a slut mentality lol. Just because "everyone is doing it" doesn't mean you should too smh.

Princesspd · Answer

Because men are insecure and jealous. When they can’t have you anymore they try to ruin you.

tzdc21 · Answer

It's actually not normal, and if caused more harm than good. When a man is looking for a relationship, the last thing he wants to commit to is a woman who's been ran through. That type of women is not qualified for a long term relationship and/or marriage for a variety of reasons.

boggboss · Answer

Because plenty of men and women are turned off and don't like casual encounters just find a guy that dont mind it

slatyb · Answer

Sour grapes. They can't attract a partner and want to punish women for it.

ManOnFire · Answer

Are you owning this? Because if you are I have to applaud you for being honest about it. You outright said "in reality it is normal for woman to have a lot of sexual partners" which I agree with you on, but the problem is that other women deny this and call men all manner of names just because we know it and confront it. They're getting upset because we say the truth.

However, men do try to shame women for having casual sex. I personally don't care that much unless she's constantly having partners all the time. But men don't shame them simply because she has it, but if she is having it more than he is. Men feel bad if a woman is getting sex more often than him with more partners - which in turn women want men to feel bad about and want them to envy. So it's a vicious cycle where women want to do what they want and want it to bother men and hurt their self-esteem or confidence with women, but then hating it when men strike back about it.

sean1234 · Answer

Ladies and gentelmen, the fallen world of Earth.  Jesus is INDEED Coming soon. Repent people!!!

jshm2 · Answer

It's called "negging" and is a common manipulation tactic.

They don't actually care about you having sex with everyone and their dog. It's the fact you are not having sex with them and their dog that is upsetting them.

So by trying to make you feel bad they are hoping you will either be angry enough to "fuck their brain out". Or be broken enough to think "ok it's just another dick to blow".

Either way they get sex, and you get a smack across the ass and passed onto the next guy.

AviatorTom · Answer

The women that get into cars and go off with guys are professionals... probably not your average woman.

Why would a guy shame a woman for a normal thing she does like having casual sex?

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