Why would my boyfriend rather watch porn and get off than even try to do anything with me?

[Anonymous]

I know this is a bit weird but whatever. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, and we’ve had a pretty active sex-life since we met. But lately he’s been going to “shower” and I’ve caught him pleasuring himself to other women online. This is after seeing me almost completely naked but not saying a word to me or really touching me after he got home from a long day at work. Am I doing something wrong? I just don’t know what to do anymore..

[Finchie40]

Dump him , that’s what you need to do , if a guy rather beat off and masturbate to porn over having sex with you, then he doesn’t value you and appreciate you, he only values and appreciates himself , you are just a convenience to him , he doesn’t hate you but he doesn’t appreciate and value you , so you are best to kick him to the curb where he belongs , because it’s just a matter of time before he cheats on you, if he hasn't done so already. Don’t waste your time with someone that doesn’t value you and appreciate you , you will only be hurting yourself , find yourself a guy that only wants to make porn with you , that doesn’t need to watch porn period , When I am in a relationship with a girl that values me like I value her , I don’t even waste my time watching porn or checking out other girls’ I invest my time into her over everyone else , the only porn I want is the ones I am making with her , shit I don’t even jerk off when I have a girl that wants me like I want her , Do yourself a favor and kick him to the curb , you can thank me later

[aceleon]

mate, could you get more sappy here? i agree that he should have been cutting porn off if he is in a relationship too but this whole aprreciation and value thing sorry but makes you sound like a sissy, porn addiction is real and he probably suffers from it, whether to dump him or stick with him through his rehabilitation from it is the girl's choice but treating the guy as a piece of shit makes you look exactly like one too you should know that.

[Finchie40]

Not when you have a girl that wants to have sex with you consistently and you are choosing your porn addiction over her , she has every right to walk away from that relationship period , How would you feel if your girl was masturbating to other Guy’s and denying you sex? So , it needs to go both ways or that relationship is doomed , Fuck addiction , that’s just a lame excuse that selfish people use

[aceleon]

İ already on the same Page wth you here but your over sappiness ticks me the wrong way yes he needs to drop the addiction and she has the right to leave but treating the guy like some big evil for an addiction he has actually has too little control over and victimizing the girl looks pathetic when coming from a guy. Drop the cheesy oversensitiveness and you are absolutly valid.

[Finchie40]

Not being sappy man , I am being honest ,, most people don’t realize what they have right in front of them until it’s gone

[236color]

What happened the last several times HE initiated sex? Did you shut it down? If a guy gets told no often enough, he quits asking. The fact that a guy masturbates doesn't mean somethings is wrong, if that's all he does, yeah that's a problem. Also, don't use sex as a bargaining chip, "I will give you sex if you..." Women sometimes think this is the only way to get the things they want in a relationship. The problem is inflation. You begin to increase the value of sex from take out the trash to build me a house. If it gets too expensive, he can't afford it. Now you're mad because he's using counterfeit currency of porn and masturbation. It's possible none of these is the case, but porn and masturbation are not the cause, they are the symptoms.

[catarecute]

men are more turned on by fantasy than reality. the love what they can't have. i would brake up with him. he is a waist man tbh.

[TdotRep2023]

Disagree both men and woman watch porn they just know how to hide it better. What woman doesn't own a vibrator? Is she cheating too?

[catarecute]

@TdotRep2023 not about that anything is ok i it doesn't upset someone else. he made her feel unattractive by leaving her alone naked. he has no emotional inteligence. he sounds trash.

[devilish-cutie]

maybe he did it just to relieve stress... and sex with you may require more of him, preassure to please you and so on...

[Asker]

He’s done this multiple times in the last 2 months

[devilish-cutie]

you should talk to him and tell him how you feel, without attacking, just trying to understand him. could also be he is not happy in relationship, its bad he isn't able to communicate with you if tehre are any issues

[aceleon]

finally a logical response and it coming from a girl is even more valuable since even guys acts like dumb relationship know-it alls here.

[madhatters4]

i really don't know. i think you should ask him.

it could be as simple as masturbating being extremely low effort. maybe he just wants a quick and easy release. or it could be something more significant. but i think, in a civil way, just ask him what's going on. ask him if he is ok or if something is wrong that he is choosing masturbation over you

[integrale77]

Maybe your being to subtle to him hinting that you want his sexual advances and he's being too polite to come onto you. Some times you just have to stick your hands down his pants and tell him what you want!

[Gent207-2]

Real world sex will never compete with the highly edited, scripted and commercialized fakers that is in porn.

This will only get worse from here

[EmmaMary]

REPORTED...DUPLICATE.

[Asker]

Not a duplicate just an addition per say

[glennos89]

Sex can be pretty exhausting if you are the one on top so maybe he just isn't in the mood to deliver performances although it's not really a good solution to watch porn instead and leave your woman dripping by herself ❌🫣

[patrick994]

Maybe in porn he likes to vent fantasies that he hasn't revealed to you yet and is afraid to tell you, if I were you I would talk to him, make him aware of the situation.

[JacobJordan]

It sounds like he has an addiction to porn. Have you 2 been intimate? If so then you may consider when he comes back take a shower with him and have some fun.

[sheikalana]

He's addicted to porn and masturbation.

[Nikki1989]

A better question is why is this loser still your boyfriend?

[aceleon]

well he can't be more of a loser than you so if you can have guys or girls with you he sure as hell can make them stuck with him too mrs. high horses.

[Massageman]

Have a good sit-down with him and see what his excu, er, I mean explanation is.

[stratford]

Find out what he is watching, what he is into, and explore that with him in real life.

Also, let him 'catch' you masturbating to porn (even if that's not your thing). It might unlock some discussions.

[RedInnocent68]

Agreed he likely has a porn addiction, and it’s time to say good bye. I mean, you’re young and have only been together 2 years… I was insatiable at that age, like at least 2-3 times a day. More like 4-5 when we had more time together, like on weekends. If you’re having these problems now, do you really think he’s the one? Stop wasting your time.

[DiegoO]

Some of us know what it is to be in a sexually dysfunctional relationship. We stay with the sensation that there is something wrong with we; that it doesn't matter how hard we try to seduce our partner, our partner is never in the mood, and if she is, there'll be something that is gonna ruin the moment.

[DextroShade]

Are you fit and willing to put out?

[Wise4myage]

Because he's addicted to porn and needs professional help.

[LiamJHayden]

He's possibly/probably addicted. He needs help, and you need to leave if he thinks it is fine.

[Darkside2543]

Ok no there are a few things that are going through your head trust me is nothing you did wrong.

[ReverseCowboy]

Your love language might have changed. You two need to have a talk...

[Luckycharms12]

Dress up tie him up tease the life out him then fuck him like crazy blow him away

[Piratecuba]

Very strange indeed are you sure he isn't cheating on you with someone else too