Wife wants to know what a big dick feels like should I let her do it?

[Anonymous]

[DanishSaint]

That´s not a question to ask, unless you can answer yourself honestly:

Would you be okay with it, or does the idea makes you feel bad? If the latter, then there is nothing more to consider !
If it is just a thing she wants to "check off" her list or something, and you guys really love each other, you might consider it. Still only if you didn't answer second on the former question.

[Asker]

No I'm not jealous or anything maybe even a little bit turned on by it she said she just wants to do it once to try it I mean I definitely think she deserves it. The only thing I worry is maybe she'll like it too much

[DanishSaint]

If the idea also excites you, and you feel like she deserves it, maybe you should go for it. Make sure that you have set some solid rules though and it is important, that she understands that it needs to be something the two of you can talk openly about after.

[Asker]

You think If it if I let her do it it'll be something she wants to keep doing

[DanishSaint]

I would imagine it is a thing she just wants to try and when having tried it, it will be back to "normal". Sometimes in life, some things just needs to be tried. But of course, you should both agree in advance, that this is just a one time thing! The best thing here is communication!

[OlderAndWiser]

Is she specifically asking you for permission to have sex with another guy? How log have you been married? Any children?

[Asker]

Yeah that's what she's asking. We've been married for 12 years she's 9 years younger than me

[OlderAndWiser]

Have you two ever done anything previously like swinging/partner swap or threesome?

[Asker]

No never

[OlderAndWiser]

The issue here is not just her wanting to experience a big dick. IF that was the issue, you could buy her a large dildo or vibrator as a substitute. It seems to me that she may be saying that she is bored with you or she may be telling you indirectly that she wants to move on from you. Are there underlying problems in the marriage?

[Asker]

No I don't think she wants to end the relationship or anything like that maybe just a little bored sexually

[OlderAndWiser]

You don't want her to go off alone with some guy. How would she respond if you suggested finding a couple for a group activity?

[Asker]

I don't know I don't really want to have sex with another woman

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you really want her to have sex with another man? Perhaps if you ask, she will realize the seriousness of what she has asked you to allow.

[Asker]

If that's what she really wants then yes I want her to be able to do it. The she said it was something she would really like to do but she doesn't expect me to give her permission

[OlderAndWiser]

You don;t want her to do it so say "no!" She may interpret "yes" to mean that you don't care so much about her.

[Asker]

Well I guess I have kind of mixed feelings part of me is really turned on by the thought of her doing it though

[OlderAndWiser]

So do you want to suggest a MFM threesome? I am not a fan of that in any relationship, especially a marriage, but it would be a compromise of sorts.

[Asker]

No I didn't maybe I should

[es20490446e]

The root problem is: you are easily intimidated by her.

[es20490446e]

You shall not take those things that serious. If I was in that situation I would simply say. "Well you can, buy for each big dig you have to bring me home three big hairy pussies."

[OlderAndWiser]

@es20490446e Have you ever actually done that? How did it work out?

[es20490446e]

When I say those things to women they always laugh. In this particular phrase I combined two techniques at the same time.

First one is exaggeration. By exaggerating I show I'm not intimidated by that. Also that there's no point for her to even add more to the equation, cause it's already too much.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dH6GxMrguH4

The second one is role reversal. I put her on my own situation, so she can realize how a person normally would feel in that, how nonsensical her perception is.

The problem is that most men these days are too intimidated by women's change of moods, when the reality is that women change mood all the time, as any other human being. Most of these have no real weight whatsoever.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pceJgtzNGLo

[es20490446e]

Sorry, the first video is wrong. It's this one:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LnSX_M-RLOY

[OlderAndWiser]

@es20490446e Okay, so. . . Have you ever actually done that? How did it work out?

[es20490446e]

It always worked. The intention is to make the girl self aware of their true intentions, in a jockey way.

[es20490446e]

It really isn't a technique. Rather is being aware of the nature of those comments, and clearly showing that you know.

[DakotaNorth]

She may enjoy it too much and you'll lose her.

[Asker]

Yeah that's the only thing I'm worried about

[DakotaNorth]

Worry. Big time.

[Asker]

But if I say no do you think she might do it anyway

[DakotaNorth]

A vibrator is less risky. If you get jealous then remove the batteries.

[Holsum]

I would let her do it. If she is curious she will satisfy that curiousity behind your back. At least you will be a part of it. You may enjoy watching.

[Asker]

@Holsum ya good point

[MrKinktastic]

Can you handle it? If you can then maybe trade that for something you really want.

[Asker]

Ya that's a good idea

[Anon-ymous1]

Like more pussy. See that's my point-- what's wrong with a fair trade?

[MrKinktastic]

@Anon-ymous1 Just as long as you're cool with it/can get over it then yeah its a good way to fulfill her fantasy and get her to agree to one of yours at the same time. More pussy is an obvious one but really its whatever you're into that she would normally be hesitant to.

[ecfresh]

Of course. Make sure you keep the receipt because she may not actually like the larger sized dildo after she tries it out.

[Asker]

It isn't a big dildo that she's wanting

[ecfresh]

Well she is your wife so it's not like she is having sex with another man. So the dildo is the logical compromise. If she wants another penis, just tell her no.

[Drumlin2001]

If you can handle her sleeping with someone else. Set the ground rules. Be clear that if she breaks those rules it leaves your marriage in a bad place.

[es20490446e]

If I was in that situation I won't.

[genericname85]

get a big dildo. that way you can both have some fun with that kind of thing.

[Anon-ymous1]

Sure, why not? Just tell her you want some other pussy as an exchange.

[Longshot1965]

I did and it has never affected us in ANY way.

[19irish76]

If you are both ok with it.

[Asker]

I mean I'm okay with it I think she deserves it but just worried she might like it too much

[19irish76]

Ok..

[bananathunder]

sure.. tell her you want to know what a tight pussy feels like though

[Anon-ymous1]

I don't see anything wrong with that.

[CT_CD]

let her do it

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She wants to cuck you

[Uncut]

Buy her a big massive dildo.

[es20490446e]

That could kill her.

[Uncut]

@es20490446e just put he tip in lol

[es20490446e]

That would be like putting in the tip of a train.

[QuietRunner]

just get her a dildo that is much larger than you so she can feel the experience

[Anonymous]

I'm going to sound harsh but you need some tough love my friend.

You need to stop being such a fucking pussy. The reason she wants to fuck another man is because she doesn't respect you. If you go through with this she's gonna have sex with another man, fall for him and leave you. You know why? Because the little respect she has for you now will disappear when you don't have the balls to say "no fucking way".

If my girl came to me asking to get fucked by another man the relationship would be over. She'd never dare ask me that. Your girl however felt fine asking you that because she knows you don't have the balls to do anything about it.

A lot of people talk about possessive boyfriends and how terrible that is, but to some extent it's actually attractive to a lot of women. They want you to be protective of them. They want you to want them all to yourself. You're not doing that.

Sometimes they even test you to see what you'll do in these cases, to see how you react - whether you act like a man or a pussy. Act like a man and their respect for you increases, and they become more attracted to you. Act like a pussy and it decreases, pushing them further away. You know which one you are here.

You've said that you're worried that if you say no she'll do it anyway. She knows you're afraid to lose her. Stop being afraid to lose her. Which would be more humiliating? For you to say "no I'm not interested in staying married to a whore" and you leaving her? Or you pretty much saying "yes you can fuck other men because I'm afraid to lose you and I have no balls" and then her leaving you anyway? The second obviously, so why would you do that?

If she's bored sexually, why is that? Why is it that the solution here is for her to get fucked by another man making you a cuckold, rather than you just introducing other things into the bedroom to make it more fun?

You really need to man the fuck up here. You need to tell her that it's not gonna happen. You need to be willing to leave if she goes with another man - before she leaves you. If you grow a pair she might begin to respect you more. If you go along with this you're gonna lose her.

[Anonymous]

Have some self respect, you dumb cuck.