Without sex in a relationship it's just a friendship/roommate thing. True or Fase?

[Anonymous]

[Peter_Penetrator]

Very, very true. The very point of romantic relationships is to have a healthy relationship and that begins with intimacy. How else would you connect with your partner. It is when either or both partners allow other activities/issues to interfere with that connection or use sex to hold power over the other and use it as reward and punishment. “Pick up your dirty underwear, and then we will have sex.” “You spent too much money on fishing gear, no sex for you.” You spent too much on that new dress, no sex for you.” “I played 18 holes of golf today, l am tired, no sex for you.” He drank to much alcohol and is as limp as a wet noodle.


Now the marriage or relationship begins going south.



With big Pharma introducing medications that will help with medical conditions that discourage either or both partners from wanting to be intimate, intimacy can continue as we age. And if for some other medical reasons, sex isn’t possible, there are other forms of intimacy that two can share.


Healthy relationships and marriages don’t have to hinge just on sex. But without some type of intimacy, two people lose that romantic connection that releases oxytocin and when you are flooded with it, that dirty underwear will find its way into the hamper. That grass will get mowed. That 18 holes of golf will be reduced to 9. I will watch the kids while you go to the spa.


If those medical issues can be treated with pharmaceuticals, then invest in them.


Why is courtship sex so exhilarating? How many healthy marriages are linked to intimacy. What is it that is so special about that “honeymoon phase”? Why is it when that honeymoon phase is over that the problems begin.


That “Spark” just isn’t there anymore.

[Benjiman19]

False. Sex doesn't need to be the center of your relationship. Does it even need to be part of the relationship at all? Probably for most people, yes. But it isn't in everyone's relationship. You can still kiss, cuddle, sleep together at night. Still have love for your partner even if sex isn't involved.

[Anonymous]

if you're married and there's no sex then that marriage becomes a roommate marriage which sucks!

if it's just boyfriend/girlfriend and there's no sex, it's still a love relationship because not all people jump into sex so fast, some take time to build the time and tension there which makes for the best sex because you likely both want it, both desire it and just not ready for it so the cravings rise and when you finally have it it's most often than not the best orgasms or hardons or vibrating pussies ever.

no sex sometimes it's not so bad but in a marriage it shouldn't ever last so long without sex because then one of you will find sexual interest elsewhere.

for early relationships, no sex is normal and likely best for a lasting relationship.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I'd say false. A lot of people seem to forget that there's the romantic attraction in the relationship, which wouldn't make it platonic. You've also got other intimate things too: Kissing, cuddling, sharing a bed together naked, etc. These are things you don't do with someone you're platonic with either.

[kylee2437]

False. Relationships are based off of love and building, not sex.

[SolitarySolace]

It is? That hasn’t been my experience… all of my exes cheated on me because I wouldn’t have sex with them so in my experience women care more about sex than love.

[kylee2437]

@solitarysolace not excusing cheating here at all, were you withholding sex with them even though sex was the standard? Pretty ironic that multiple women have done this to you

[Billlewis]

Exactly!

[SolitarySolace]

I wasn’t purposefully withholding sex from them I just am not interested in intercourse. That’s all they seemed to want and led to them cheating on me. Of course that’s my fault though right? That’s what everyone tells me.

[Sasha0426]

@SolitarySolace Lack of sex is one of the main causes of relationships ending or having your partner cheat. You need to find someone on your level so that doesn’t happen again. Just because someone wants sex doesn’t mean that’s all they want from you. Sex is normal to have in a relationship. So, yes it is partially your fault because you expected those women to be ok with a relationship with little to no sex. As for their cheating, they should’ve broken up with you instead.

[Sasha0426]

Now, if those women were truly only with you for sex and nothing more, then that’s on them. Are you up front on what you want? If not, then that’s going to cause problems.

[kylee2437]

@solitarysolace but why hold no accountability towards yourself when it seems like your partners weren’t aware that you aren’t into sex? I mean it’s multiple partners, that tells me you didn’t tell them out from the start becausefear of being rejected by these women. They are wrong for cheating but there’s an obvious pattern that you aren’t addressing

[kylee2437]

@sasha0426 exactly I don’t believe for one second that he told these women all from the jump that he wasn’t into sex and they just all happened to cheat. He’s not telling the whole story

[Sasha0426]

@kylee2437 I’m completely opposed to cheating. No one should ever do that because I’ve seen how it hurts people. But, you are correct. Communication is another main cause that destroys relationships. If you don’t communicate, you’re not gonna get anywhere.

[kylee2437]

@sasha0426 oh I don’t condone cheating ever either - people just tend to leave out so many details to hold no accountability of when a pattern is happening in their lives.

[SolitarySolace]

“You need to find someone on your level so that doesn’t happen again.” How many women do you know do not want to have sexual intercourse if not right away than eventually? “Are you up front on what you want? If not, then that’s going to cause problems.” What kind of a woman would believe a man when he says he isn’t interested in sexual intercourse? 😂 If I were to tell them that they wouldn’t believe me for a second!!! At the end of the day, this was all 8 years ago. Starting next year I will have been single for 9 full years. And honestly that doesn’t bother me. If anything, I’ve grown far too content being single over time and the mere idea of having a new relationship makes me sick to my stomach.

[Sasha0426]

Well, I got nothing else to say. I’m out.

[Billlewis]

@SolitarySolace I've always believed that one of the most beautiful things in life is to say to a beautiful woman, 'I know I won't be getting any p_ _ ssy, but I just want to treat you like royalty and worship the ground you walk on'. I know this isn't for everyone, but whenever she needs to experience intercourse, she can engage in truly satisfying sex with one of her boyfriends, and I'll be thrilled every time she does.

[kylee2437]

@solitarysolace yeah the lack of accountability seems strong on your end and the fact that you play women as stupid and not so understanding goes to show you probably shouldn’t have been in those relationships anyways

[Billlewis]

I think you're 100% right.

[kylee2437]

@billllewis I know I’m right. People that can’t take basic accountability are serious weak links to society

[SolitarySolace]

I honestly couldn’t give a single fuck what you think @Kylee2437

[Sasha0426]

@SolitarySolace I don’t know why anyone would cheat on you. You sound like a delightful gentleman 🙄

[SolitarySolace]

Couldn’t give a single fuck what you think either @Sasha0426

[kylee2437]

@solitarysolace then take your weak ass off my comment and stop complaining about others when you are the problem. Can’t even hold yourself accountable for relationships that happened nearly a decade ago is so pathetic and low vibrational. Boy bye

[Sasha0426]

Yeah I’m starting to lose sympathy for him.

[kylee2437]

@sasha0426 I never had sympathy for him. The “all women are crazy” mentality is such a huge red flag especially when iPhones are more up to date than his dating life 🤢

[wolfcat87]

False, because the feelings and thoughts can still be romantic and sexual.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Um what happened to romance in a romantic relationship?

Romance and intimacy are feelings of connection that are different than regular friendship. It's wanting to come home, it's feeling desired, it's seeing the spark of passion in your partner's eyes. Its caring for someone's emotional well-being and seeing them through rose colored glasses. Its sharing all internal perspectives, instead of the few mutual interests or him drum logistics that often confine the he friend/roommate relationship.

Romance is putting someone else on a pedestal and promisijg them the best version of themselves.

Typical men confusing romance with their d*cks.

[Jbear27]

True. Unless you’re religious and waiting till marriage, Intimacy is super important in an adult relationship. It’s not the most important thing, but it’s important and helps build bonds as it’s a vulnerable act where you’re giving yourself to the other person and vice versa.


If there is not sex or intimacy then it’s kind of just a friendship.

[DannyUk2017]

Without sex that becomes a "sleep divorce" situation, which IF we don't have sex, then me /her we will look somewhere else... Is only "that much" that a body can take it... as the cravings, desire will start kicking, either she will simulate sex in the sleep, or he will wake up with hard ons most of the days. 🤷‍♂️

[MissStrawberry912]

False. Every relationship is different & has their own values each their own.

[Altheavas]

I’m my perspective
Romantic friendship - intimacy is a requirement.
Platonic friendship - that’s all it is, no intimacy should be expected.

[OlderAndWiser]

It depends on whether you are talking about a new relationship or an established relationship.

For a new relationship, if there is not going to be any sex, ever, then most people are not interested in cultivating an exclusive romantic relationship on those terms. Any relationship which does develop will be platonic, at best.

However, if a relationship is established, and it has had a relatively long course of intimacy - including sexual intimacy - then circumstances which might prevent a couple from continuing to enjoy sex will not erase the intimacy already established. And the romantic relationship will not fade unless one of the partners is very shallow and selfish.

[madhatters4]

i don't think this is true. i don't make out with, snuggle, fondle, etc, etc my friends so...

[EmyyWolf]

Yes lol 😆.

They have needs. Those needs are simply being met by someone else. Or toys, sex toys. Self release. Self pleasure.

Women rather masturbate for life. Before they fuck an undesirable.

[molonski2]

True 100% true , its just companionship without.

[lightbulb27]

False. There's other forms of intimacy that I wouldn't engage in with a roomate that I would with my wife. e. g. massage, gentle touching, etc..

[D_Bone_Steak]

I'm going to say true... But I'm assuming it's like a long-ass thing where sex just isn't going to happen tonight or any other night anytime soon. I mean everyone's sexuality urges fling around more or less, so it makes sense not to fuck like rabbits every day at least twice a day all the time. But if the relationship is reduced down to some basic utilitarian purposes and the sex isn't part of the relationship... I'm going to go ahead and say that's effing roommate status right there.

Maybe like really cool roommates because she doesn't get all that mad that I stick my dick in her mouth and take pictures while she's sleeping.

Really cool roommate?

[Billlewis]

Not necessarily. If the guy is content to simply spoil her rotten and worship the ground she walks on, he may very well be happy just playing a supportive role in her intimate relationships with her boyfriends and male lovers. For me personally, it's not important or desirable for her to have sex with me, but that she's having sex fairly frequently with another guy.

[NathanDavis]

False... there's a myriad of so many other things about intimacy and love that are not just sex

and these are not things you usually share and do with your friends, certainly not your roommates who sometimes are people you don't even like lmao...

[colaman94]

Sure i would say so 😃

[slatyb]

You have the only opinion that matters. What do you want?

[Finchie40]

True , if the relationship started off with a lot of intimacy and affection to the point it wasn’t an issue before but all of a sudden it’s an issue now , that relationship is facing some issues, it could stem down from resentments , or selfishness , or boredom etc.. something is missing in that relationship , if intimacy and affection is now an issue when it wasn’t before , You can either try to fix what is broken or give up and move on , it just depends on your decision of what you want to do , Most people will run to someone else thinking that other person will save them instead of trying to fix what is right in front of down , why so many people have affairs or cheat on each other because most people have a hard time admitting to themselves that they were wrong , they usually point fingers at their partner instead of pointing fingers at themselves first , the only way love will grow between 2 people is if both people choose each other over everyone else , and both people remove selfishness for each other , if you can’t do that for your partner , don’t expect them to do that for you , it needs to go both ways or that relationship will not survive , So if your partner is with holding intimacy and affection consistently from you , then it’s up to you on whether you want to try to fix it or tell them to go fuck themselves and move on

[Tharithi]

False , religious people wait

[exitseven]

No, but without sex it is not as intimate of a relationship as it can be