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Women faking the big O: Guys, how do you feel about this? Ladies, why do you do this?
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It is a fact. A lot of women cannot have orgasm just by intercourse alone. Although there are alternatives. Girl on top works all the time ;)
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77 201Discussed many times. Faking orgasms does no good. You are lying to him which should make you feel bad about yourself. You make him think that he's doing good so he will continue doing even though you are not satisfied with his performance. You will never become satisfied if you don't tell or show him what to do. Communication plays a big role in sex, and finding what works best for both of you is the result from good communication.
It's the Stupidest thing a girl can do... next to talk to/keep seeing a guy that raped or beat her.
They are only hurting themselves.
I'd love to hear the shit-logic of those downvotes lol.
How is that even comparable? 🤦♀️🤦♀️
@ktdec "Next to" doesn't have to be relative. He's saying the effect is similar in that it has a lot of backfire for very little upside.
@ktdec "How is that even comparable?" They are both Very stupid things girls do... which makes no sense to guys.
@FýrdracaDócincel "I'd love to hear the shit-logic of those downvotes lol." Obviously there are STUPID girls that do this, Fake it... or they are the Stupid girls that stay with assholes that treat them like shit. This just shows how many of these DUMB girls are on GAG. They are probably the same ones that ask, " My boyfriend said such and such" what does it mean"? posts.
"Obviously there are STUPID girls that do this, Fake it... or they are the Stupid girls that stay with assholes that treat them like shit. This just shows how many of these DUMB girls are on GAG." Oh dude, don't even get me started on that. I dare say that if 100% of my experience with women came from this site, lord knows how I'd treat the girls I get involved in. *Shudder*
It's a lose-lose situation. First of all you're basically lying to your man who thinks he has been successful in his endeavors. And second of all, since you're not able to communicate normally to your partner that he's not hitting all the right spots, you'll never have an orgasm. Lose lose.
I've never faked it no way! .. cause I'm a virgin😂
There you go - the first women from whom I read, that she never faked an orgasm (strictly speaking 😜)
I've never faked it if I ever did the guy would know straight away I'm not good at faking things
I don’t fake orgasms. Faking it doesn’t help anyone. I want him to learn my body and how to make my cum. If he thinks I’m getting off when I’m not, he’s never going to learn.
In my relationships we've always had an agreement to not fake that. It's ok if it doesn't happen 100% of the time, and I'd rather know the truth.
I'll be honest, I've faked the big O. It's easy to do with a condom. For the same reason I imagine women fake it, I do. So I get it completely. It's probably counter intuitive, but if we're being honest, who really cares. Most people aren't going to be thrilled to hear they suck in bed, and almost always will meet such honesty with aggression or tears. None of which I want to have to deal with, especially when I can avoid both by simply catering to their ego.
And if she always takes the orgasm how are you supposed to make a difference and change something which obviously doesn't work. Your way you can suck forever because you don't even know that you suck. Orgasms and sounds during action are sign that your partner likes what you do and its bad for both of you if that sign is false or misleading.
As long as the girl is happy, no problem.
If she feels disappointed afterwards it's time to talk and see if we can work on it :D
I only fake because it takes me a very long time under very specific ways of being touched for me to come and I don’t want to deal with the emotional fall out every time we have sex. Besides, I like the whole experience of sex and the orgasm is just one part of it. I can make myself come any time.
0 drama I like it
Do you prefer masturbation to sex since it makes you cum morecl easily? And if you are masturbating to say lesbian porn, but not getting off with your boyfriend, you should consider that you are more into women than men.
Where the hell did I say I was masturbating to lesbian porn? That’s a total fabrication. I rarely watch porn and usually just masturbate to fantasies of men I create on my own. It’s not that I’m not attracted to men it’s that I care about them enough not make them try for hours without getting anywhere. It’s an anxiety thing. I can’t relax enough during sex to just come.
Do you cum easily through masturbation though? You aren't going to cum if you don't tell him and work together at it. Try more oral and stuff.
And in your profile you mention you being sexully curious, that sounds like you have some attraction to girls.
I don’t like oral, it’s over stimulating. I get off by giving pleasure to my partner and by the noises they make and the reactions that have.
But it sounds like that isn't making you cum so... oral would probably make you cum.
Yeah, some attraction. But believe me, nothing serious. I’m not interested in dating women at all, actually, they’ve typically been nothing but cruel to me my whole life. I’ve only considered giving up on dating in general because men are too inconsiderate of introverted submissive these days.
Who you want to date by very defintion has nothing to do with SEXUAL orientation, it deals only with SEXUAL attraction. If you are more aroused by the female body than the male body, and cum with a girl, then you are closer to being lesbian than straight. Eitherway you are bisexual.
I’m not more aroused by the female body. I haven’t at all said that. But even if, On the spectrum of sexual attraction, I were equally sexually attracted to men and women why would that even matter? Believe me, I like men. I just prefer to please rather than be pleased.
Just to make sure, the male aesthetic, his face, arms, back etc. Sexually attract you more than the female face, boobs, bum etc. ? Attraction to personality and the non physical doesn't count toward sexual orientation, as they aren't gender specific traits. Sorry just trying to make it clear for myself.
Actually they do, because a lot can arouse a person sexually. Intelligence, kindness and spontaneity actually turn me on sexually. It really isn’t all about looks and I’m sorry to burst your bubble. Yep I am attracted to all those things you mentioned. I just need more than just a sexy body. :)
Yes they can, but they aren't gender specific, so to define your sexuality or at least place you on a spectrum, those things wouldn't count. So does the male aesthetic by itself arouse and sexually attract you more than the female aesthetic? Sorry I studied this at university, and am anal about correct terms and process.
Preach sis. "Besides, I like the whole experience of sex and the orgasm is just one part of it."
Sexuality exists on a spectrum, much like other human experiences. And I believe I already answered your question so attempting to bully me into telling you I’m not attracted to men just because it isn’t easy for me to orgasm is out of line and I won’t be constantly raked across the coals in the implication that I am for some reason lying to you. You went to uni? Whoop de do, Basil. I went for cultural anthropology and English lit.
I simply want you to tell me if you are more sexually attracted to male gender specific traits or female gender specific traits.
I already did.
Thanks pinay_ako! Also, I already told you oral is overstimulating and doesn’t do much for me. So I’ve answered all your questions, dude.
Is your line "actually they do" mean you are more sexually attracted to male gender specific traits? You through me off a bit as you said "because a lot can arouse a person sexually" then mentioned intellect and the such. By saying because straight afterward, it isn't a standalone statement anymore, it now can't be referring to just gender specific traits.
I would never want a women to fake it, or feel she has to for me. I know (and I think most guys do) that it doesn't always happen (it doesn't for us guys all the time either). I would be more upset to know you've been faking it, rather than it just not happening. However, if there was anything I could do or change to make it happen for you, I'd hope you'd tell me this as well.
Bad idea. Better to let the guy know what you need to actually achieve orgasms. Faking makes him think he's doing the right things.
Never had sex and not yet have orgasmed but I still get hyper when I do see my boyfriend.
People do that?😳 what's the point then lol
yes people do that... :)
I love sex just as much as my boyfriend does. so it only makes sense that they both get equal enjoyment out of it. I have no reason to lie about it.
Honestly it sucks. I rather her helping me do better for her so we can both enjoy it. Honestly, I don't see why you would do that.
there are many reasons why some women do. some men don't even gaf if she even does. that sucks as well.
I mean some men don't even gaf if she even gets off at all. :/ that sucks too
I️ only do that if the sex is really bad and I️ want him to come fast or if my pussy hurt after round 3 and I️ need to rest
when it's swollen and stuff but nothing happening to you
Lol you kno the deal..
Never faked it really.
I have in fact interrupted the "act" if I wasn't feeling it and tried to switch positions or just go with oral or digital to turn it up... That really helps put me back in the mood!
I haven't seen this Q. yet. I feel like it is their own puragative to do that if they want. What it tells me is we have no communication. The first time I have sex with a woman it's probably like the heat of the moment thing, not too many words. But I'll make it a point to find out if there was something else I could do for her sexually to assure she achieves orgasm. That's so much better than trying to guess & it's the doorway to being able to talk about anything.
Honestly, I'd prefer they at least tell me if I'm not giving them what they need, so that I can try something different or do something under their direction so they can enjoy it as well.