Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Like does it hurt to go some days, weeks, months, years without sex or are you quite content? Do you stay distracted by partaking in other sexual activities like oral, sexting, masturbation, etc? Or do you just focus on work/school/hobbies and manage quite well? Or are you saving yourself for marriage?
—MY ANSWER—
If i have sex outside of marriage, i end up feeling religious guilt and struggle to stay sexually active. So what helps me get by instead is occasionally having my tits sucked or getting fingered or having phone sex. I honestly need to be mentally and aurally (not orally) stimulated as well as emotionally attached rather than physically. I dont even like to masturbate myself. So the struggle isn't too real to withhold from sex as long as i partake in the mental stimulation.
I work like 7-6p most of the time and then i watch shows 7-10p daily, so thats also a good distraction. I don't know the sex itself doesn't cross my mind as much. I do love to joke dirtily and discuss sexual things but I think my sex drive is quite low UNLESS im legit having sex. When i start, i struggle to stop. And i hate that feeling. I hate feeling addicted outside of being married. Once im married, then of course I won't mind doing him all day, every day.
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Would/Do you struggle if not sexually active for a while or is it quite easy to distract yourself?
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14 53Anywhere the wind blows, doesn't really matter, to me.
I deal with the hand I'm dealt. I'm basically horny 24/7, but masturbation does the trick if nothing else.
Wait... aren't those first two lines actually lyrics from a Queen song?
Yes, good catch 😁
Lmao
Lol.
Not I do not feel guilty or anything I only worry that someone might walk in on me because I love with other guy's who are not gay an do not know that I would fuck another Man but me fucking another Man here wouldn't happen it's must the masturbatin part I do not know if that would make them feel some type of way.
God Bless
Well y'all may not call yourself gay but you’re participating in a gay act so others will likely assume you’re not straight. Do whatevr makes you happy but make sure to let future partners know that you enjoy both genders so that theyre not surprised
Yes it is the wright thing to do an I do. God Bless
I see your struggle, for me I'm not religious and there is nothing holding me back. I have found though that I have and enjoy sex more if I resist masturbation and focus more on the next time I'll be with my partner. I find if I have someone in my thoughts and I'm fantasizing about them it like a continuous experience. I have also been trying to focus more on the moment when I'm with my partner and less of the outcome. trying to alter my mindset a bit from the end result and just taking the journey with someone I care about.
that being said I was sick last week and with no one around and nothing to do I jerked off 7 times that day. haha
Wow haha! Do the kids get in the way of yout Sex life?
YES!!!
wait till you have kids. your sex life will grind to a halt. at least for awhile
Nahh i multitask. I’ll fck while making em breakfast. They won't realize lmao
it's not the multi tasking it's the sleep deprivation. lol
With the guys i dated, i only get 3-6 hours of sleep anyways so its like having a kid anyways haha
ha. it sounds like it. the last couple guys seem kinda high maintenance. you'll find someone Diz. I think you have a lot to offer
What made them see high maintenance?
the dude that woke your ass up at 4:30 and then didn't want you to get off the phone. just wanted you to go about your day so he could hear you breathing and shit... that dude. lol
Thats high mainenance? I thought hat was desperation and stage 5 clinger 😂
haha. code red. defcon 5! press the red button and run for your life!!!
I would cope but also would like to end the dry period
I feel ya
What's the longest you have been without?
7 years and by choice. I didn't like how i lost my virginity so i set goals to remain celibate in terms of sex even though i still liked little foreplay stuff
Wow thats very very long... your still not having any sex or you started again?
haven't since 2018
Wow thats different... hope you enjoy it very much with lucky guy that you do say yes to at some point
Sometimes if there is nothing to do it can be painful. But if you keep busy you manage. Or just service yourself.
I pay attention to tv and stuff and dont really think about it
That's good. Stay busy reading, or doing something you like. But don't feel bad if you just need to have the release only masturbating can provide. It is healthy. I used to masturbate up to 8 times a day. But you grow up, get busy, and have less time. Now I may do it once a week if that. But it is harder a d harder to do it on my own.
How many times have you been married? I've been married once.
I've ALWAYS been hypersexual, but especially after my old nymphomaniac girlfriend. Fortunately my current girlfriend is also hypersexual, and she keeps me tired, but wanting more!
I haven't been…
Well i have no relationship at all so i masturbate which is nice but not the same
Yea it has its moments
Yeah but want to do it
I can easily distract myself. As I said earlier , I'm a Music Producer , so I can invest a lot of time in it and firget anything stressful that's going in my life until I close my PC or Laptop.
Thats amazing
I always distract myself with videogames, YouTube videos, webcomics, chores, hobbies, exercise, hanging out with friends... etc. when your sex life is near nonexistent, you focus on other stuff and work on improving yourself.
True
I am going crazy if more than 5 days!!
I don't mind masturbating though pleasure is on whole another level when you have like minded partner. If one enjoys giving other enjoys receiving and such. And yes with emotional connection is lot more fun. Not that I have done with very many people without emotional connection.
Thats good
I am getting sexually frustrated a lot more recently and even frequent masturbation isn't helping. I have distracted myself by playing valorant but i don't know for how long till i get bored
Are you waiting til marriage or just waiting for someone special
Someone special, a real relationship of love
Good good
If you are sexually frustrated, then frequent masturbation doesn't help. It actually works opposite, because each time you do this, your body produces hormones, that makes you want it more. If you don't want it, then you should actually limit masturbation. Then your body would unleash less testosterone, and your libido would go down.
Naw I don't need sex
Well last time gor me was 2009. Shit i need you
Haha
It has been a long time since I had to go without sex, but I probably would feel sad after a while if that happened and not sure how I would handle it TBH.
Ah i see. Whats your fave part about it
About not being active? None! I don't like that at all.
ill give ya some o. g. game outta love in response to that im not sure but i think from what ya said concernin that issue that ya gotta sex addiction now concernin the issue of sex itself and im not sayin this to ya for ya to go out and binge fuck i just want ya to get the correct perspective on sex ya gotta understand that due to the fact that God made sex that automatically makes it spiritual it's really the way it's done that makes it sinful or not so again from the most easily understandable version of the holy bible the new living translation accordin to the holy bible sex equals marriage proof of that is in genesis 4:1 polygamy is also biblically permitted for men what makes sex sinful is if the sexual practices are homosexual bisexual sodomistic in nature and if the sex is casual in nature and not commited because accordin to the holy bible casual sex on the man's part is whore moungin and on the women's part is whorin so bottom line hypothetical if we were to fuck each other and not commit to each other by default that's what we'd be doin now gettin back to the chapter and verse of the holy bible that exposes the fact that sex equals marriage genesis 4:1 now adam had sexual relations with his wife eve and she became pregnant im tellin ya all this because i love ya and i wanna see ya win in the datin game also understand that legalized marriage and marriage liscences was originally designed in order to keep black men and white women seperated it used to be illegal from 1661 to 1967 for black men and white women to be legally married that's the real reason marriage liscences exist to begin with not because it's sinful to fuck before gettin legally married every couple in the holy bible were considered married after and as a result of fuckin which is spiritual not legal just like animals and if ya wanna save ya money fuck a man ya love and then if ya make kids with em write out a will in order to legally protect ya money peace and blessins sister
I see sex more as a means to procreate. The pleasure is secondary for me
understood nothin wrong with that
I'd like to know what the real thing feels like.
I sometimes rp with a specific person I know, but that's more for said person.
Yes i would
To be honest, I've never had sex before. that's all. I continued my life with only masturbation, I even did it 12 times in a row. As for porn, I haven't watched it in a long time. Sexting is nice, I tried it a few times. Even reading is very pleasurable.
But in the end, I thought, what if I can't get enough of sex with the girl I'm going to marry one day? That's why I decided to hold myself back. This is not easy either. When I don't masturbate for 3 weeks, I ejaculate twice in my dream. When I wake up I have to take a shower.
Wow 12 times! You’d be good for marathon sex
hahaha :D Faster than me in the grave.
if not having sex I need to mastubate