Yes, it might raise questions of concern if it is something she never did before then all of a sudden she is doing it, then yes I see why he was concerned by that , especially when you really know someone and are comfortable with them in bed then all of a sudden they start doing these new positions leaving you thinking where did they learn this? So don’t be upset with your husband and reassure him you aren’t cheating on him and tell him you just wanted to try something different to spice things up and that you love him and wouldn’t cheat on him , A little insecurity in a relationship is a good thing , it shows that your husband loves you and doesn’t want to lose you , Relationships are tough and everyone gets off track sometimes when change occurs when you are so use to each other. so any sudden changes in a relationship can make insecurities arise especially now a days with all the stupid shit we read on social media destroying our brains to think that our partners are cheating on us or having affairs behind our backs , sadly we never know if they are or aren’t these days. So if you love your husband reassure him that he is the only guy for you , Now if he gets totally insecure then that can raise some red flags on your end to make you think he is cheating on you , Like I said it goes both ways , Why it’s best to wear your partners shoes like they should be wearing yours everyone has insecurities whether they say they do or not , so if you love him then give him a little reassurance that you aren’t cheating without getting upset about it , If you get upset thinking he doesn’t trust me you are just digging a deeper hole
Your husband's notion is very strange, and rooted in some deep fear that you will cheat on him. Often this comes out of some serious insecurity -- he may feel that you married down so he is constantly worried that you will realize this and see someone more worthy of you. I hope this doesn't become a major problem in your marriage. How long have you been together?
That is true and we've been married 6 years
Does he admit that he has a problem? if he does, then he could benefit from counseling. If not, this may become a big problem for you.
Context matters here. How long have you been together?
Maybe the first couple of times people are too shy to feel free to express themselves and once they get used to the person more they unleash their inner beast.
Maybe you practiced with toys in your spare time.
I wouldn't make assumptions without context. It's never black or white.
Nah. I’d assume they did research or watched porn. Shit maybe they practiced on a pillow who knows 🤣 But im not gonna assume they cheated just because theyve gone pro
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!yes this would seem suspicious... you know what your partners like and all of a sudden out of the blue, they become this different person, of course you would think something strange is happening and the natural thought would be, you experienced it somewhere else, or read a book/watched porn.
so where did the new skills come from?
I don't think sexual skills need to be learned from porn or reading up on it. Sex is natural and doing certain things just naturally come to a person overtime
but if you have been with this guy for a while and all of a sudden new things start to happen, where did they come from and why hadn't they happened before? i get that we change etc but that is usually slowly and over time where a couple will not see the immediate difference its only when looking back you see it. but to suddenly change, you must have got the idea from somewhere or you have suddenly awoken a secret part of you that you have kept quiet/secretive for all this time?
Very true I probably always had it in me to be that way but just recently brought it out
I'd assume she is just more comfortable or did some research to improve something. If he's suspicious of you cheating. That's a red flag that he may be cheating.
Maybe a tiny bit, but unless I'm dating a woman who's illiterate (and me being me, I have NO IDEA how that could happen), I'd probably figure she just read up on whatever it was she improved. You can do that, you know.
It would depend on what the particular skills are and your prior history of those skills with your spouse.
My wife and I try new things and see what sticks all the time. So, new "skills" could very easily just be "attempt number 197(a)" and that new thing just worked better than other attempts.
For a man oh yes it did start getting into shape and everything's going to change so if he's working out how are you feet doing something different with his diet it can only get better
I’m always open when I find a new idea, it’s attached when first shared. But then I’m open with certain people about everything.
That is so stupid. Who hasn't seen a move in a porn movie and implemented it with success? Your husband is being a moron.
lol maybe but I'd just say: Dude I got better through experience, if you want me to not be as good fine but you'll be missing out on great sex... your loss.
is he a teacher? lol
I used to ace every test out there, and at first... teachers always called me to the desk, to test me in person
but no, I would never assume the worst... from someone I love
also... many things are not actually a skill per se it's just a matter of trying new things and they will work well and soon enough, in the moment, right?
a litte suspicious
Hmmm,
So you aren't cheating?
Have you been reading up on it or watching some videos?
I'm assuming you aren't improving by doing it with him... otherwise why would he be suspicious unless you are improving at something you never practice with him.
What is it exactly that you are doing differently or better that are raising red flags for him?
Why does everyone think sex skills need to be learned? Like isn't sex just natural to us without needing to see or read about it
Your entire theme seems to be that you have "CHANGED"... you are doing something different than you did before. What is different than what you've been doing before?
How did you learn these new skills? I'm guessing talking with your girl friends.
It's suspicious if your husband knows you don't watch porn and he doesn't know how you learned these skills.
I didn't learn them from anywhere. It was truly random. And even tho I like watching porn I don't do it to learn thing
honestly getting some tips from friends, porn, and books can help you improve too so I don't know maybe he's just got anxiety or some deep-seated insecurity. so many people cheating these days I can hardly blame a lot of guys for this worry. But I dont think THIS is what should cause concern. Are you spending more time away from him as of late?
Nah if anything I've been spending more time with him
is he confident in his own bedroom game? Have you talked to him about it much? Maybe hmmm act out like you love it the way he's giving it? Act a little more sub temporarily and show him how into him you are? I honestly dont know whats bothering him so much though. Sorry you're going through it.
One can watch porn and get idea's or hear of things from someone else and think I want to try that.
It could also be that you just wanted to try something new and he thinks that is a new skill.
Where did you learn these new skills from then?
Not at all
Can be suspicious it would depend on your past and how you act around other men when he’s around and not around I wouldn’t let just that alone set off any alarms though your comment of not learning it from porn would ring some bells so the rest of that sentence should be you learned it from Oprah or a girlfriend don’t just leave as you didn’t learn it from watching porn
Okay- if you didn't have an affair and you were not watching porn then did you get these new skills by osmosis somehow? Inquiring minds want to know.
Cause I just tried something new
Okay- seems like a winner.
No sometimes you just get it. Things click.
I would wonder a little but then I'll ask him what made him better n would be happy that he put some effort in spicing things up
What are the best ways to spice up, if u would like to share
@HeyoFellas well trying roleplays, learning new ways, doing it at different places
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