Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I’m gonna go on a cross country trip with some guy I just met. I’ve only known him for a few weeks. We are gonna take his car and travel to another state far away. Then we are gonna stay at a cheap motel. We are gonna sleep in the same bed but of course his feet would be on the side of my head. We’re gonna sleep opposite from each other.
I know it would work for me but I’m not sure if it’ll work for him. Guys are horny. I don’t wanna have sex with him.
Would sleeping with a guy in the same room be safe?
nelly83 Xper 6
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I met him in Craigslist a few weeks ago. He seemed like a nice guy. He wants to go on road trips and said he has a car that can fit 4-5 extra people. He asks me if there’s anyone else who like to come along. I’ve never been on a road trip before and I really wanna do it. Do u think I should take a chance? How about I take another month to get to know him better?
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11 41I'd suggest meeting him in person a few times before this trip and get a feel for him and see how comfortable you are with him. If those go well, then go, but also before you go, make this clear to him before hand, that you are going for this trip, and nothing sexual is going to happen yet. If you're wondering how to bring it up, say that you just want to make sure you're both on the same page and that you are fine sharing a room, even a bed, but you aren't comfortable with anything else.
Also let friends and family know you're going and who with. You maybe want to keep him from them, but this is for your own safety, especially when it's so far away. Check in with them often.
I'd say don't do it. It sounds like a bad idea. If you were in separate rooms and cars I would say it's fine, but under those circumstances you are under a grave risk. Please don't do it for both your sakes.
That seems dangerous one several levels. Best to get your own room.
Getting to know him better is a good idea.
uhm why are you traveling with some guy you barely know cross state to cheap hotels?
hopefully you give the poor guy at least a blowjob or something
Sick
I mean don’t assume he’ll be bad. Worst thing I think he’ll do is ask.
don't forget contraceptives in your backpack
Then... maybe not. I cannot judge your social intuition. Some women are very good at sensing whether there is a danger or not, but even the socially competent risk takers i have met have had some close calls.
Actually, since you are asking here in general terms and do not appear to trust your own judgement, I do not know... Better not.
Also: You are 25 and still do that sleeping the other way around thing? Sorry, but that is not age-adequate. Either you trust him or you dont. No need to talk to his smelly feet before falling asleep.
I have met a woman on a hiking vacation and shared rooms / sheds with her. It was clear she was not interested but we were ok with stripping down in front of each other before getting into our sleeping bags. That woman would certainly have kicked my face in, though, had I attempted something (not) funny.
If you cannot manage the risk, do not go there.
EDIT: Since you write he offered to have some other people come with you. That would be a lot safer, but only if they are YOUR friends, not HIS. Also: Is craiglist still used for dating? I think that was shut down years ago...
Yeah that’s not going to happen.