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Sexual Health Would you breakup if 2 months without sex?
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I love my girlfriend and we get along amazing. But in my current situation, only had one oral sex during that period. I had final exams for 1 month and girlfriend didn't want to visit just for the purpose of sex which obviously wasn't, because free only for few hours. For one month my girlfriend felt really lonely regardless we are calling about 5 times a day though arguing and she's socializing with friends. Whereas I'm at home cramming everyday non stop feeling horrible. After another 1 month passed, she keeps abstaining sex because we wants to build emotional connection again, which is fair. I'm trying my best while but secretly resenting her for so long without it. Now two months passed, still nothing ker kitten has died unfortunately, another week passed and period coming up. We are at work so schedules only suit weekend but she plans one day with friends only. She wants to make it work once all the hassle is over but isn't 2 months too long? We are 3 year relationship by the way in our early 20s. Sorry needed to vent
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9 38If you like someone yourself, how long would you be telling your partner not to have sex?
Unless she's cheating on u, then no.
You know is not for sex. It's more than sex. Your thoughs are wondering around the fact that she doesn't seem to find you sexually attractive, that your desire is stagnated in frustration, resentfulness, and deception.
Give it one more month, perhaps two more months, to fully comprehend if something unsusual is going on. Remember always: its more than wanting to have sex with her. It's a conection you are hoping to build or rebuild, with your partner. After all you want to have intimacy with her. It's understandable.
If nothing happens after months and long and meaninful talk about your concern, do not get mad at her. Just make sure to also remember, she will mostlikely not change, and there is only one life to enjoy.
Just ask her where is this going with us.
The whole situation sounds funny.
Something isn't right and it isn't the males task to please her or to make it work. It's a two way thing.
If she doesn't understand that. I would advise to question yourself if that's the kind of relationship you want to have when it comes to it.
someone else might be banging her (
Thank you. Why are most of the women on this topic lying or in denial about it?
No I wouldn't say thats worthy of a break up. You're horny and I get that frustration. She will want to again, trust me, but you should talk to her. Before you do you should figure out your hormones and determine which thoughts are driven by hormones and which ones are driven by what matters to your relationship (sometimes they're the same thing but not always). After you find the correct thoughts that matter for your relationship then you talk to her... now remember I'm only 23 so my advice may not be the best for you.
Women cheat. Simply put.
I haven't had sex since January. Granted we haven't had the chance to be together since then either, but still.
When a girl is not fucking you after she's already done it with you at least once she:
1. doesn't respect you
2. isn't attracted to you
3. Is fucking someone else.
4. Has crazy mental issues.
Its one or more of these reasons. There are no other options. I promise a kitten or school work has nothing to do with this. Her social plans with her "friend" might have something to do with it if he's good looking. Or maybe you being whiny about sex instead of putting your foot down are making her lose respect for you?
In this case I am gonna say 3 and 4 and those kinda make 1 and 2 true too
@friendzoned4life yeah there is some overlap for sure.
i assume you and her became a couple around 18 or 19
In your case I would.
But in general it depends on
HOw long the relationship has been.
How frequently we had sex before
And if I still have the feeling she loves me or not
You seem more red-pilled, so you know what's more than likely happening.
I Took the red pill ages ago. But in dating I Just started using it. I didn't get friendzoned for a year allready. Stopped participating in dating (the game women play ) Got back to working out I now clearly see wich women actually look at me. But now I don't give a fuck 🤷🏻♂️
And if I am not delusional when I still played the game along I set the bar way too low.
@otaku_owl_91 did you take the redpill allready?
I took it recently. It pains me to see men go through things like this because we've been taught that women are innocent and can't do wrong. I really think that they cheat more than men nowadays.
If you only discovered the cheating stuff you are not even close to being fully red pilled.
It will take some time, but I'm ready to fully embrace it. I used to be a full blown liberal. Now, I'm somewhat balanced politically.
@otaku_owl_91 try stopping with dating actively Just go cold Turkey on it.
The fact she's making a day for her friends and not you is a red flag
When meet her next drag her ass to bedroom
You are shallow. You've been dating for 3 years. If you want to get laid more, marry her.
There's nothing like getting married because your relationship is going poorly.
If she isn't the one after dating for 3 years, she isn't the one. Break up and move on.
They're teens to early 20s. It's pretty common to date longer without marrying given they're still in school etc. Anyway I think in some sense you're right : he's probably seen enough to know of this is what he wanted the next 60 years to look like.
You are too old to be giving this simp advice.
No If I truly liked her I would be fine with waiting atleasr a year.
@Joshua0213 you're young, so I'll give it to you straight: she's more than likely cheating.
Not true. I dont have one of those kind of girls lol. In this story she probably is yeah but not in all cases
Again, you're young, so I'll give it to you straight: all women have the potential to cheat. You have some that are more caring and would break up with you before that happens, but generally, women cheat. It's even more possible with social media now.
She won't though 😂
We've been together 5 years and live together for 4 so
It doesn't matter how long you're together. There are people who have been married 15+ years and all of a sudden the wife is giving another guy head. There are plenty of guys going like "not my girl".
It does though when you care for each other.
You've been together for three years and haven't done it in two months? She didn't want to because her "cat died". Either she's cheating on you or about to cheat on you. It's best to call it quits man, in your own way.
She is a whore! She loves being fucked by another guy! Don't lower your standards to her's. If she insists on having sex with you at a later time, let your dog fuck her in her stinky ass, freakin cunt!
No, I would want to fix the issue causing it. I'm loyal!
yes if it's for no reason and if she is cheating
but no if she has a reason it can be mental health or something other
Maybe you are not attractive for her. Maybe she is cheating on you and fucking other guys. I think you should definitely talk to her. Is she virgin by the way? If she was virgin, maybe she'll wait for getting married. Think about it.
In a relationship, everyone included should get their needs satisfied. But maybe she isn't comfortable with it. Breaking up with her isn't the best idea in my opinion. Instead you should talk to her face to face about your needs. Maybe somethings have happened in her life that make her feel uncomfortable with sex or she just isn't interested in it. As you probably know you can't force her so if your relationship keeps falling then you should break up. But sex really isn't the most important thing in a relationship. Give her space before you ask though. Imagine someone close to you died and your s/o said they wanna have sex. Maybe she needs some space because of things that have been going on in her Life. It can be stressful. Maybe you could ask her if you could go somewhere where you can get your needs taken care of. But if she says no then it's a no.