Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Guys, would you date a girl who has no genitalia, but is submissive to your needs?
Anonymous
So, since I'm posting this anonymously, I'm going to include more details. I'm a transgender girl in my early 20s. I'm pretty feminine and I don't look like a guy. I don't wear makeup and my voice is androgynous. I try to be nice and show compassion to others. I have high functioning autism and loyalty means a lot to me. I'm submissive when it comes to relationships and would please him in whatever ways I can, if we were both mutually interested in one another, although I'm single and a virgin so I guess my words haven't really been practiced in action. Unfortunately, at 18, I had sex reassignment surgery and everything came apart due to "complications" (he botched me, but he says different). No other plastic surgeon is willing to even try to fix me due to lack of tissue, so I'm in the process of undergoing genital nullification surgery (the complete removal of my genitalia, "smoothie") because it's time I move on with my life. I'm chronically in pain as it is. I'm also really tired. But, at least I don't have a penis anymore, and at least I no longer produce testosterone. It's only etrogen now, which feels a lot better. Anyway, if you came across me and we shared common interests, what would be the likelihood of us having a successful and long-term romantic relationship? Would you even want to talk to me? I'm very curious to see how low or high my chances of finding love are.
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(15)I wouldn’t. I also would like to point out that you are not a woman. You are a dickless aspie now. You had better kept your cock and just had an orchiectomy. Would have been better for you. I think you might eventually commit suicide once it kicks in how badly injured you were.
I may not be a biological woman, but I'm still a woman because that's my whole gender identity. Walks like a duck, talks like a duck, is a duck. But I think you're right, I should have underwent genital nullification surgery in the very beginning. All of this could have been avoided. Also, it's pretty rude of you to suggest that I might eventually commit suicide, but you struck a nerve. You're probably right about that. The only thing that's keeping me alive right now is my medical marijuana. We'll see what the future holds, I can only take it day by day.
You are not a woman. You don’t have female genitalia so you are not even a post op trans woman. You are a botched eunuch. You are not a woman at all. You come closer to nullo. No surgeon would have performed a nullification surgery from the beginning. Nullification is ethically questionable because it removes perfectly healthy sexual nerves. You should have sticked with an orchiectomy and left the rest like it is. Now you have a wound that needs to be closed. I feel for you. So young and such a ruined life. I’m actually pretty sure that if you applied for euthanasia you would be taken into consideration because your suffering is endless at this point and can’t be sufficiently alleviated with what methods there are today.
I guess we're going to have to agree to disagree. I don't base manhood or womanhood on genitalia. There's a lot more to womanhood that you will never understand, so debating it with you is pointless. As for euthanasia, I wish. I live in the United States, the "beacon of freedom and democracy", where I can't even die with mercy because my government says I don't need mercy. Yeah, I can't even die with dignity in this country.
You don’t understand anything more about womanhood than I do. You are not a woman. Autism used to be a contraindication for transition until a good 15 years ago. Nowadays under political pressure from the LGBTQ community it is no longer considered a contraindication by therapists because they are afraid for backlash. There is a term coined for autists who think they are transgender. It’s called autigender. Autists are often falsely under the impression that they experience what the opposite sex experiences. It’s because they have difficulty processing external impressions. You were not a good candidate to begin with for a gender transition. Both in the MtF and FtM population autism is frequently present in patients nowadays. These same patients wouldn’t have been approved to transition medically 15 years ago because they don’t qualify as actual transsexuals. They are mental deviants who transition because of secondary underlying mental disorders ( i. e aspergers ) . I really do feel for you. You were misled by politically correct health care providers. Your only way to live a normal life at this point would be a phalloplasty. In Belgrade you can have it with dr Djordjevic. There was an extensive documentary about reversal in transsexuals not so long ago on TV. For now I would encourage you to start the process of detransitioning socially and medically by having your breast tissue removed surgically and by starting testosterone injections. If you continue living as a botched MtF you will end up committing suicide. In Switzerland euthanasia laws are much suppler. If you really want euthanasia try to contact a Swiss major hospital and a Swiss therapist.
I'm not going to further respond to your derogatory remarks. It's quite offensive and backward thinking. But, it wouldn't matter if I presented you with facts that proved your thinking wrong, biased views rarely ever change.
Gender is a social construct. The primary deficit of autism includes difficulties interpreting and understanding social constructions. This means that we have a disability that inherently makes understanding gender part of our disability. Because of this, we can have exceptionally complicated and unique understanding of what gender is, how it affects us, and how we express gender. Autigender is a word that describes this unique, complicated relationship. So when a person is saying that they are autigender, what they are saying is more or less that their understanding of gender is fundamentally altered by their autism. So what about a person who says they are autigender, and that IS their gender? Well, I think this still describes the relationship with their gender - Specifically in this case, their autism affects their understanding to such a degree that they just can’t be any more descriptive with regards to gender. That leaves the only word they have - autigender.
No, sir, psychiatrists excluded people like you applying for a gender transition until a good 15 years ago. Yet here you are now, a couple years after having had a mutilating surgery that was botched, considering to get another abnormal surgery that will leave you with the crotch of a Ken Doll. Early 20s and your body is ruined. You are not a woman. People with autism have actually more masculine brains than people without it. You transitioned out of misguidance. I wish you mercy. May there be a bit of mercy left for you. Another young life lost forever, irreversibly. What is left of your life even if you get another surgery? Nothing. You are going to struggle for the rest of your life with a body that was surgically destroyed.
Thank you for your input.
I would not.
Okay... Thanks for your honesty.
No I wouldn't date a transgender individual. I'm looking for a biological woman.
With that said please know & understand the I don't hate you. So many people want to be mean, but that's not my intention, just trying to be honest with you. There will be a lot of people who will try to hurt you with their comments. And even though you have gone through something that I can't understand, please know that even if there are different opinions, people like me still value you.
I hope that I have not caused you offence.
Of course you hate me. Everyone hates me. But it's fine. I don't care, really. I respect your preferences and thank you for sharing.
This guy doesn’t want to understand that the fact that he made a ken doll with a flat crotch out of himself means the end of his dating life. No human being is going to be attracted to something so unnatural that doesn’t even have sex organs. He really made an “it” out of himself. Sad. A young life lost forever.
@TeddybearRoosevelt Thank you for your valuable input.