Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Would you ever consider being in an open relationship so long as you have to tell the other person and you have to be safe about it?
FreeThinking Xper 4
So I've attempted many times to convince guys that want to date me that we should have an open relationship. That way if he wants to fuck another girl he can so long as he's safe and gets checked every time afterwards (as would I) but they always turn me down for the idea or randomly decide they want to be monogamous... some of them even cheated on me afterwards which I don't understand because they had the opportunity to be able to do that but they declined! So, would you go for this idea or do you think I'm just a loner here?
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Thanks for all your responses! I think I have a pretty good understanding of the odds of having what I want.
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22 33I've been through that relationship with my Ex wife and thought it was great, only to years later realise that I didn't truly love her. Open as they come and swingers, meeting other couples and women listening to them how much they are in love and love each other.
Married again and have so much love in my life with the perfect most amazing woman for me and we do have an honest but closed to just the two of us relationship and we wouldn't dream of cheating or sharing ourselves and this time I know it's true love because true love is cherished and not shared in my experience.
We get up to all sorts of fantasies we turn to realities, most of them socially unspoken ones but all just the two of us and legal. We love playing with ideas and doubt we will ever run out of fresh twists or get sick of the ones we often repeat because we love it.
No chance in hell.
No. There's no point in having a so-called relationship and then continuing to date/sleep with other people. It's like having appetizers then ordering dinner with MORE appetizers. There's no point.
In your opinion.
Lol. I suppose not in YOUR opinion.
no, never
Possibly, depending on certain conditions. The problem is a lot of women use this as a "shit test" you know "I dont care if you want another woman." than if he says ok she drops him like a ton of bricks. This is most likely what happened with you.
When you say open relationship do you mean for both of you or just your bf?
I mean both of us. I don't do that, it's just in my experience they can't seem to understand the base line of me being able to do it as well so they turn it down.
Its that most guys take it as a shit test. It could also be they want you all to themselves.
I believe it's the second one
Its both.
I'd consider it, but it wouldn't be ideal to me.
TBH, I'm doubtful i'd stick with it long term.
Not something I would ever consider nor accept
Me and my girlfriend have an open relationship. We had it from the start I asked her to date me. And she said the only way she would is if we had an open relationship
How is it going m
Its going good I have yet to sleep with anybody else but she doesn't quite often
But it's functioning normally? Like you two don't fight a lot or anything? It's just for fun? If so, thank you so much I'm so happy it's working for you!
No we get along good and are open about everything. She has sex with somebody she always tells me first and told me about it when she gets back I don't get jealous or anything actually kind of get turned on
This helps so much, thank you!!
Nope!
I know two people in an open marriage. It's fucking ridiculous... and they still get jealous... WTF?
I don't understand that... but then again I don't entirely understand jealousy so...
It does exist. Many people are in jail, the crazy house and the graveyard because of it...
I know it does. I just don't understand the concept. Why? I feel like it stems from turning your s/o into an object instead of a free thinking person and that you some how have possession of them instead of sharing their life.
It also can be issues from childhood... or mental illness...
I don't know, a lot of people have that issue with not being able to accept that humans naturally wonder and crave others, love is who you care about most and want to spend your life with, not who you fuck one time because you were alone and horny.
The jealousy stems from the fact that you're doing something that's considered to be the epitome of a relationship when it comes down to the physical stuff and is considered to be a romance-based act with someone outside of your romantic relationship. This triggers the concept that you want romantic affairs with other people, which leads to people being concerned about how good their relationship with you is. It's a fairly logical progression past the 'sex means romance' part, but that's fairly engrained into us because every time we ask about sex as kids we get the 'when a mummy and a daddy LOVE each other very much' thing.
Um... Asker, if you are having sex with someone else because you are alone and horny that says there's something terribly wrong with the relationship your in... Is it really that hard to understand the fact that people don't want their partner to have sex with other people? Just thinking about that makes me exceptionally angry.
@Mekkalyn I don't get jealous of the thought. I don't get jealous of it happening. I get mad and hurt when I'm told they want the relationship to be monogamous but they want the freedom of having sex. It's ludicrous to think that your significant other is able to be with you EVERY time you wish to have sex as you both have your own lives and do your own things. So I see it as inconsiderate to expect them to sit and wait around until they can get to them to be satisfied, especially if you're away or busy a lot. I understand people have the feelings. I just see it as petty.