Would you forgive someone who accidentally cheated?

Last weekend I cheated on my girlfriend Annie. The reason why I did it is because I've been convinced for the longest time that Annie is cheating on me. I've been on this site before with my relationship issues. Here are the reasons I think she's cheating:

1. She has lots of guy friends who she
admits wanna fuck her. She doesn't care
how I feel and remains friends with them.

2. We were hanging with her guy friend one night and he tickled her stomach. I found this very inappropriate.

3. Her guy friend Brad, his girlfriend thinks they’ve fucked. Annie also gets upset when Brad neglects her and doesn't text her as often as usual. She knows Brad from being friends with his ex wife. She's not friends with the ex wife anymore.

4. She tells me that I'm weird and no other woman is gonna want me even though I'm handsome.

5. Always refuses sex and just dick teases me. For example, she'll flash her breast and open her pussy at me and say "you're getting none". We only have sex twice a month. I'm definitely more into her than she is into me.

The reason I put up with Annie is because I do love her. She does lot of good things aside from the negative. Sometimes I feel like Annie is the best I'll get. I've always struggled with a low self esteem. I don't get love, affection, emotional support, and the
sex I need from Annie.

About a month ago I started talking to a girl on a dating site named Malia. I didn't think it was cheating since Malia lives 2 hours away. Me and Malia had an emotional connection. Talking to Malia made me feel good about myself. Last week Malia drove to my work to surprise me. We hung out and had sex.

After I cheated on Annie I ghosted her for a week. She called over 50 times from 3 different numbers during that ghost period. I talked to her yesterday and she was really sad. She also signed up for a 1 year passport because she was expecting me to marry her.
Now I'm feeling really guilty. I can't live with myself and what I've done😢
Would you forgive someone who accidentally cheated?
Would you forgive someone who accidentally cheated?
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  • Something cannot be accidents, one cannot accidentally cheat. You knew what you were doing, you just chose to ignore the guilt.

    Nothing you said about Annie confirms any actual cheating is going on. I've had boyfriend's think the same thing with me.

    Some admit they wanna fuck me, but I would never do it... EVER even if I was single as that would be weird with someone I see as a friend and would ruin the friendship.

    At the same time some guys have tried and succeeded in driving my friends away or as I call it Isolating me, so they can have me to themselves... it always to feeling like he is controlling me, so I would never give up a friend because of that.

    He just needs to trust me, although the teasing part is a bit annoying... wouldn't do that to my man, I'd want to be with him.

    Regardless of if she is cheating or not, and there is no evidence... maybe you should break up with Annie and go for it with Malia. After all you did have sex with her and you had a emotional connection. Otherwise you will still be unhappy with Annie.

    If you are not ready for marriage tell that to Malia but don't be a dick and ghost her.

  • You don't "accidently" cheat. It is a willful act. Plus, as you have heard it said, "Two wrongs don't make a right." Sounds to me there are some trust issues, for which you might have valid reasons. And also some teasing and mental abuse issues by your girlfriend. Why don't you save yourself all this and just dump her. Sounds like you will be coming back here time after time about her if you don't.

Most Helpful Guys

  • There is SO much screwed up in this tale!

    1. You didn't accidentally cheat. You intentionally cheated. You meany to whip out your dick and stick it in her pussy and that's exactly what you did. No accident involved. It is childish to claim this was an "accident." Horribly, horribly childish.

    2. Your relationship with Annie is so screwed up that one of you would be fling for divorce within 30 days if you got married.

    3. A good long term relationship requires lust, love, trust, and respect, and each of those much be mutual.

    4. Annie probably is cheating. She also sounds quite psycho.

    5. I'm not sure why you can't see how ucked up this is but this is WAY beyond a little problm that you can work through. This is years-of-intensive-psychotherapy kinda fucked up!

    I'm sure you're not going to listen to anyone who tells you to leave her so, at the very least, make sure that you don't get her pregnant bring an innocent little baby into the middle of this insanity!

    • Thanks for MHO!

  • Accidentally cheated that's like accidentally shiting your pants.

    It doesn't happen that way because before you start anything with that person the first thing in your mind is going to be my old lady my old man will kill me if they find this out and you say I don't give a fuk I want this I want this now and then you go home and you act as if nothing has happened and you act all lovey-dovey and the big manipulation of big lie and bunch of bulshit I say no I don't take that person back you premeditated it and you followed through thinking that you were going to get caught because you're so smart sorry it's just way it has to be

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  • 1) Cheating is not an accident. It is a choice.
    2) Setting boundaries is key. If you tell your partner specifically that you need sex, consistent communication, and that you do not want her to inappropriately touch others or to allow inappropriate touching in order to feel secure in the relationship, they have to abide by that or risk losing you. Assuming will also get you in trouble, but your gut will rarely tell you wrong. At this point the situation seems extremely toxic and I think you both should move on and figure out things alone

  • You can't accidentally cheat. That's just an attempt to avoid taking responsibility for your actions. You also can't explain away or justify your actions. It's called personal responsibility. We all have it and well all need to accept it. Even if it means eating a crap sandwich that we made for ourselves.

  • nobody "accidentally" cheats. 👀

    If you feel someone is not treating you the way you deserver be it emotionally or physically or both, then talk to them about it, if nothing changes. LEAVE. If they truly want you they will make amends ant try to get you back with a resolution. If not then they were not for you.
    People like you are awful.
    you should have left her not cheat on her. Sick.

  • You know what simp is? she's with Brad and your just her friend. You just got it all wrong bro. Somehow you think you are with her, you are her stepping stool.
    Hang out with Malia she's caring better chances to have good future there.
    If you chose not to, then hey you chose to suffer, its your choice free country do what you want.
    I would rather be alone than with Annie. I have self respect to let someone treat me like shit. You obviosly dont, work on that for starters

    • That’s what I thought. He has a better chance for a better relationship with Malia.

  • "accidentally"
    there's no accidental cheating.

  • You hung out and cheated. That is not an accident!!! You two were made for each other!

  • No, I wouldn't.

  • You can't accidentally cheat period. So no.

  • there is no accidentally so NOPE

  • Annie is toxic bro. Leave her.

  • Only reason you would start talking to another girl is that you are unhappy in your current relationship and that is why you cheated there's no accident. You should ditch Annie and go with the other girl, Annie sounds like a total bitch user and is probably cheating on you anyway.

  • You can't 'accidentally' cheat. You can't 'accidentally' have sex with someone. And if you thought she was cheating on you should have spoken to her about it in the beginning, like an adult, rather than sinking to the same level.

    • I’ve tried to tell her many times that in uncomfortable with her male friends. She tells me I’m insecure and jealous of her guy friends!

    • That doesn't excuse cheating. If she was dismissing your concerns and it bothered you that much, you could have left before looking for someone new.

  • "Could happen to anybody. It was an accident, right? You tripped, slipped on the floor and accidentally stuck your dick in my wife. Whoops!"
    - Joe Hallenbeck, The Last Boy Scout

  • There is always intent with cheating, it's never an accident.

  • Why wouldn’t you break up with this woman who disrespects your boundaries?
    You didn’t accidentally cheat. You chose that.
    Now both of you should move on and learn from this.

  • "Always refuses sex" -- how is she your girlfriend? She's just using you for an ego trip, pushing you around to see how far you will go.

  • 1) Sounds like Annie might not be the right person for you

    2) Do you think Malia wants a relationship with someone she knows will cheat? What does that say about her?

    3) You didn't accidentally cheat, you just cheated

  • There's no such thing as "accidentally cheated". You knew what you were doing, so just fess up to it, confess to your girl, and try to put it behind you.

  • Nobody "accidentally" cheats. It's a conscious choice. Just because you regret it, you were intoxicated or whatever, doesn't change the fact you decided to fuck someone outside your relationship.

    • And to answer, fuck no I wouldn't forgive it.

  • No such thing as accidentally cheating. It is always a decision.

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