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For example, I match with this guy and he shared he was into crazy sex stuff with his ex. He literally told me he used to pee on her, of course with her consent.
It's just too much for me. That one thing alone is enough for me to stay away from him. Although he said he would never do anything that a girl doesn't like, he even said that his ex was the one to initiate this.
I do feel like it's not fair to judge people based on their past when they didn't forced or pressurized anyone but I can get over the fact that this used to pee of his ex.
What Girls & Guys Said
11 32I don't want to know my partners past. It doaent matter to me
A high bodycount with lots of one offs would bother me. If she was a former drug abuser would bother me more.
I would never ask about it and I wouldn't expect to be asked about it either. It has never been discussed in our relationship, and we have been together for over 8 years. The past it the past.
I mean as long as they said they wanted to step away from whatever life they had in the past, I would think that the past is the past.. But many times our past does affect our future like other users have said.. But that doesn't mean somebody won't take on whatever effects comes their way with grace.. It's fine that you are concerned with that.. It means he's a level of freaky that you aren't comfortable with.. heed that..
I feel it is good to know about ahead of time but I would not judge them
No I don’t try to judge. But I occasionally get bothered , maybe because I have no past to relate to or understand it. But it can always quickly be alleviated by talking to him.
Peeing is too much for you? That's one of the more mild kinks. You're going to have trouble finding someone if you are limiting yourself this much.
Only if it included child molestation or similar things.
Absolutely certain sexual things are not for everyone and we as men get that or at least a lot of us do. And I know that for me there are things I want my wife to do but am I gonna push into doing them no it’s just something I like. However it is not my place to judge what people do or don’t do in there relationships and that’s the hard thing people need to realize is that we are all different and you don’t have to be rude.
it also does not make you a bad person or someone bad to be around. If this is bothering and making you feel uncomfortable talk to him and show him you care then fix it if you really like this guy don’t throw it away for something you can’t control
Duh.
It's a fetish, like a fair number of people are into it.
Yes, I judge. Doesn't always mean I judge her bad but many of the things about her past can be such a turn on.
Yes, why wouldn't I? I have my own values and things I tolerate.
Yes, there's nothing wrong with it
Should ask if can't handle people have a past. And could be in to anything
Not really unless it’s something they want with you and might miss doing those things
Honestly, yes. I don't quite understand how people can just shrug and say the past is the past. For example, if someone is a recovering alcoholic, they are known to relapse. This is fact. If I don't want to end up having to deal with all that time and time again, potentially, I might be the wrong person...to date them. Given your example, what if that guy can't live without doing that in the bedroom. If you know you're not going to ever be...that person, then he needs someone else. The one caveat in all of this is no one will ever be perfect, and have a perfect history, and no flaws and you CAN handicap yourself in your choices if you are so dead set on finding perfection or guarding yourself so hard that you've literally put up walls and seen red flags every single place, but I think a little judgement may save you from a lot of heart ache and wasted time.
I think you're over thinking this! He engaged in a sex act with his ex that you won't do. Big deal. How do u know he can't live without it? My boyfriend told me his ex loved anal sex... I hadn't really tried it at that point but if I didn't like it, it's no big deal. If you're looking for someone who doesn't have a past or someone who hasn't done anything you don't do or agree with, that's limiting yourself to potential partners
@Samantha36 literally what I said.
I know the social answer is not to judge someone, but you are an idiot not to judge someone, especially when it comes to extremes like this. If that's what makes him happy, he's not going to be happy with vanilla sex or whatever, either way if it's not something you are into you should avoid this.
It should have been a red flag for me when I found he had been downloading nudes with even being with his ex for years. I call that cheating. Then it escalated to admiring young girls and mentoring a few online and so forth. I finally broke it off. Didn't trust him totally.
No unless he had sex with someone much older as a minor because that could mess him up and I don't want to deal with people like that
Why? I had sex with my 40 years old auntie when I was 17 and it did me no harm whatsoever
@Tim2nice oh wow that's shocking and creepy. Sorry but that would weird me out. You must have had some sex issues later on or twisted views. It's definitely not a positive impact.
@Tim2nice do you mind discussing it in private?
Not at all.
@Tim2nice can you message me or follow me so I can message you