Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I've been seeing this girl for nearly 10 months now, and our relationship has been great. We decided to wait to have sex until we got further along in our relationship, which was tough for both of us, but made us closer. We started having sex last month, after 9 months of dating. I only see her 2 times a week (due to work), but we usually spend all day together when we are together. So far, we have only had sex 4 times.
I'm 26, lost my virginity 2 years ago, and only had a handful of one night stands from Tinder. She's 22, and she has had boyfriends and one night stands, so she is sexually experienced and know what she wants/what she likes.
-When we first had sex with her, I lasted 25 minutes.
-When I had sex with her the 2 other times, it was after work, I was really tired and wasn't really to into it, so I lasted 2-3 minutes.
-When we tried to have sex tonight, we had a lot of foreplay (for about 20 minutes) and she began grinding her vagina against my penis for about 5 minutes and then I came. I tried to finish her off by giving her head/rubbing her clit, but she said she wants me to get her off through vaginal sex. So, I told her to give me some time so I can recharge. We then tried having sex again and I couldn't get it up this time. After we stopped trying, she was super quiet and when I asked her what was wrong, she told me that she was disappointed that the sex hasn't been all that. She said that I haven't lasted that long that last few times and she really wanted to get off through vaginal sex. She told me she loved me and would never leave me over sex, but we need to work on it.
If I'm tired or if I have a lot on my mind during sex or if I feel pressured... I am not going to last long. I feel like women put a lot of pressure on men to be extremely good at sex and women need a lot to get off.
Would you leave your man if the sex sucked?
What Girls & Guys Said
24 12Be more aggressive and go with LESS foreplay. Think of her like a delicious chocolate cake you want to fuck and you haven't eaten in days. Just go with a bit of foreplay until you are turned on and get down to it.
Trust me on this... stop overthinking the sex stuff. Girls can be bad and indirect at communicating.
Dunno how much harder she has to try and tell you where to put it!!!
:)
I don’t date or have sex with men. That being said my girlfriend and I were already having sex before we started dating. I knew what I was getting into.
I'd not leave my wife for stupid reasons!
When it's the right person you will forget all the flaws. If my future boyfriend/husband couldn't sexually satisfy me, I would just buy sex toys. I ain't no bitch. Sexual pleasure isn't as important I'm more about the future. Just sayin
... sex is pointless anyway
I agree to some extent. Whether it's foreplay or actual sex... we both get off either way...
Good point
They would
Visit doctor
Listen, sex is important. If the sex remained unsatisfying and bad yes, I would leave because I am an extremely sexual person. Try to be a little more sympathetic with her because she's essentially not getting off while you are, I get you feel pressured but you're not the only one suffering here.
You just need to find techniques and things that work overtime to maintain a little stamina.
I'm going back to the penis numbing spray. Lol... I won't feel anything Every time we have sex, but at least she will enjoy it
Big black cock?
No, if he's willing to work on improvement.
Make it a fun thing to work on ur sex skills or find someone who doesn't make u feel bad about it. I understand her point of view but maybee she needs to understand u dont need so much stimulation before sex if she wants u to last longer