Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I’m in a sexless marriage. We don’t even sleep in the same room anymore. My husband told me a few years ago that he’s aroused by women and their bodies, but he’s not aroused by women’s pussies. (We didn’t have a very good sex life, and that totally explains a lot.)
He still loves me and wants to stay with me, and he pushed the idea of an open relationship. I love my husband, but having a no intimacy relationship (like no sex, no cuddling, no sleeping with each other) is taking its toll, and honestly I feel deceived and stupid.
I finally say okay, signed up to a site, and found someone. I’m only interested in sex. I tell my husband and this other person every step of the way that I’m married, I’m only interested in a sexual encounter.
Husband says no. Now that someone else is interested, he’s not okay with it. We got into an argument over it, and he said that if I chose to proceed to not tell him. I’m so frustrated.
Would you go through with it anyway?
Would you sleep with someone else anyway?
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So, in answer to “Why did you even get married” he still had sex with me, we still cuddled, and slept together in the beginning. I love him, and now there’s no connection. We don’t go on dates, we don’t hold hands, we don’t cuddle, we don’t have sex, we don’t even share a room and haven’t for a long time. I get a kiss and a hug when one of us leaves for work. That’s it. I can’t get a divorce RIGHTNOW because of various reasons. I just want some intimacy. It’s really demoralizing.
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What Girls & Guys Said
4 52If you're in a sexless marriage, cheat: that's the way this mindset works. Ultimately, it won't work; it will only create problems or complicate existing ones. The Bible can help. If you read it, it says that you should talk together about it like a pair of adults (Proverbs 15:22), make changes if you have to to cater to each other's needs (1 Corinthians 7:4,5), and act unselfishly in general (1 Corinthians 13:5-8; Philippians 2:4).
I did. Lost everything
Yes. He isn’t willing to do things with you/take care of your needs and he offered up the open marriage option to you. The only way I wouldn’t go through with it is if he said he would make an effort / change his behavior to do things with you (and actually do it, talk is cheap).
I would definitely have another man in my life
A relationship is a 2 way process and if he can't give you sex you have right to move on. It is fact we all need sex in some form or other some way or other... and its your right to have it.
Yes sleeping with other men is not a crime for you.. and sleeping with you is perfectly comfortable for me.
Denying you from this is what he wants to prove is his manliness of not letting you go. Love is in freedom and satisfaction and not boundation.
If you don't want a open relationship then get a new guy
Just divorce, what's so hard about it? You love him but the you can't be with him anymore because he doesn't want sex or anything else with you
may be, I would ask him for a men as a birthday present see what
i wouldn't be in that marriage
So he's o kbb sy if you do but don't tell him?
Is he okay if he finds out? I guess the question is does he not want to know, or not want you to tell him? Fact is, if you do it he will eventually find out.
Either divorce him or be in open relationship if you don't want to leave him. No more options
Fuck no. You should of tried a chick instead. Another dude? Really and then discussing it with your man? No wonder why you two don't bang..
I/m in nearly this exact same position. it sucks
Hell yes. If he’s not going to fuck you, you need to find a man who will. If you lived near me, I would offer my services.
yes, be discreet, have fun... you have his permission, but it hurts him that he cannot provide what you want...
Just divorce him and move on
such a dilema
prob have sex without telling him seen as he is the one with the issue and won't try and sort himself out and have sex with you. sexless relationships suck
No, I wouldn’t
İf you need sex and your husband didn't give you what you want of course you need to please yourself with somebody else, that is his fault not yours darling..
Have sex and enjoy your self.. why should u suffer for something u rightfully deserve.. in case u r from India let me know.. I don't mind coming and satisfying you.