Would you wait a year or two before having sex with your s/o?

[stardust101]

The next I enter into a relationship, I’m planning on waiting.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't put a time on it. Just go with the flow and when it feels right for you. Every guy and relationship is different and time isn't going to necessarily "guarantee" anything for you. Having said that, if I was really into her and it took that long for her to feel comfortable, yes I might wait. However that's a long time. What would you be willing TO DO in that time? But dating with the mindset already that you are waiting that long is going to be a deterrent for a lot of guys for sure. And it's not just because of sex specifically. As we get to know you and become more and more attracted to you, the desire to be physically closer with you (ie sex) is going to grow and grow. It will be really hard to go that long waiting. And not just for us probably either, but you as well if you really like him?

I was with a woman for 2 years with no sex, but she was waiting for marriage. I really liked her so I respected her choice for that (even though I don't believe in it personally). We never did get married, it ultimately ended for various reasons, but it was also hard to not want more with her as well. We would have long make out sessions for example and it was very hard to not want more the more turned I became. It was frustrating sometimes for sure.

[stardust101]

That’s why I want to wait is because you never really know the person until after a year or two. I don’t want to sleep with every guy I date before I re-marry

[GreenGold1992]

I would

Sex is important, but it's not everything needed in a relationship. There are still plenty of other things we can still do that are fun and intimate and tender.

[stardust101]

That’s so sweet 😃

[GreenGold1992]

Well that's what I think and how I feel about it.

[stardust101]

I appreciate it 🤗

[GreenGold1992]

Thanks

[Anonymous]

I love how most of these men are saying no they wouldn't wait: I figured as much.

I have and am currently in a relationship with a guy where we have not had sex for 4 years. Yes, four years. It is a ldr and while we have met three times, it didn't feel right so we waited. I am thankfully he is patient and willing to wait as by the comments here, I know most guys would have dumped me after a few weeks!

If someone is special and you want to be with them, the wait is worth it! I'm not saying that is the case for everyone, but you have to do what feels right for you. There is no need to rush right into sex just because you are dating someone.

[stardust101]

Awesome

[morimeme1]

Sorry but he is probably getting his physical needs taken care of elsewhere then.

[Opinion Owner]

@morimeme1 Haha, no, he's really not. Usually I would think so too but I can tell by his hormones, he is (im) patiently waiting for me, lol. Believe it or not, there are still some faithful men left out there

[morimeme1]

I don't feel like a person who is torturing another just because and disregards their "loved ones" natural needs really deserves to be waited for to be honest.

[Slokes]

How many times has he had sex in those 4 years?

[Moonchild714]

I kinda did, but we weren't dating each other. In fact, I was seeing someone else trying to get past the time until he got a Year Sober. But ended relationship because I realised tge guy really had feelings for me so it wasn't fair to him ecen though I was Honest about just seeing him for sex and past the time with, hecsaid he was cool with that but he knew he could turn me around I sai doubt it but ok if you think so... Anyhow, once my fiance and I got clearance from both our Sponsors to break the One Year Rule, we jumped on each on other right away there was no waiting for sex. We knew each other completely...

[Wonderer89]

No chance. Sexual compatibility is a huge factor in the success of a relationship and I wouldn’t want to go two years without sex anyway

[MrOracle]

No chance. A couple of months? Sure, that's reasonable. A year or two? Not happening.

[PrudentGuy]

I waited 9 months and as a guy I deemed it very long and challenging.

There are benefits like knowing him better and build affection even commitment.

But be cautious because 2 years is a very long time. He may just move on after months.

[stardust101]

Congrats to you for waiting 9 months 👏😀

[PrudentGuy]

LOL thanks. Like I wrote a fee times here: The wait was hell, but the day was heavenly 😝😝😝

[Rapidash]

I did but only cause it was my first and I didn’t feel ready. Now I wouldn’t wait that long again though.

[coolbreeze]

Only if the girl was worth the wait You can do other things besides sex like kiss, cuddle oral sex and other stuff. Depends on a lot of factors.

[OBanana]

No way! Unless its because of a medical reason or something.
Sexual compatibility is important to me and I'm not gonna wait to find out later that the sex is bad... I'm living right now and I wanna share my love and sexuality with my partner.

Its something different if you're a virgin and a young teen, then I think its good to wait 1 year

[MittenstheGlove]

I wouldn’t. Everyone has needs in a relationship. If you can’t compromise on something as important as sex, then it stands to reason the relationship is bound to have other problems.

There are reasons that I would wait; however, arbitrary reasons like “I feel like it,” or whatever aren’t valid.

Don’t misunderstand, I’ll try to be patient and wait out of respect for nub parter, but I can only wait for so long.

[MittenstheGlove]

*respect for my partner

[CreativeMumble]

I would never wait that long.
And what if you find out your bit sexually compatible with each other? Then you've waisted a whole year or two...

I would rather just go with the flow. When dies it feel natural. If I wanted to have sex with the person, then I would. It's not something you can plan.

[omanitsdan]

Too long. I can't say because I don't know you personally, but generally speaking nobody is worth waiting that long for. At least that's how it would feel after a couple months. Maybe you'll find a guy willing to wait that long but proceed with caution or you might end up a lampshade or a nice pair of loafers

[stardust101]

I’ve been abstinent for almost 2 years. Could you wait two years if you didn’t have a girlfriend?

[Daniela1982]

Well it definitely would weed out the guys just looking for sex from you.

[MittenstheGlove]

I’ve seen these situations. The guys just had sex with other women in the mean time.

[Daniela1982]

@MittenstheGlove And is the type of woman you would really want?

[MittenstheGlove]

Me? No. In those situations the woman he’s seeing on the side is just for fun until the woman he wants has come around.

[stardust101]

@MittenstheGlove lame

[MittenstheGlove]

Lolol. Well it’s just the way the game goes sometimes.

[stardust101]

@MittenstheGlove game? Sex isn’t a game unless you’re a PLAYER and in that case, I’m not playing with players and you all expect women to put out within the first month! Lol yeah... this is why I’m waiting

[MittenstheGlove]

Game is an analogy. Life is a game we are involuntary cast in for example. I mean Lady Gaga has a song called LoveGame for related to the analogy. “Love in itself is a game and sex is just apart of it” is an analogy. You waiting doesn’t change the facts of the matter. I’m giving you the honest truth, because I want you to be able to see both sides of the field and know that things can definitely happen unbeknownst to you. Also you projected my words onto me. I didn’t say I expected women to put out in the first month. But there are a ton of guys that do. I’m ex AF. Those guys made sex a game. I can tell you though that every woman that didn’t have sex within a few months with me, ended up with someone who they really “vibed” with that really hurt them.

[Debs1]

I don't think I could, Sexual tension would be unbearable

[Lliam]

That's too long. There are issues at work if you don't have sex for a year or two.
A few months isn't unreasonable. It gives you a chance to get to know each other and see if you like each other as people rather than mere sex objects. There's a school of thought that believes if you have sex right away, you can fall into romantic infatuation that blinds you to each other's true personality, faults, quirks and bad habits until the infatuation starts to wear off. So if you don't want to get stuck in a relationship that is bound to fail, it isn't a bad idea to get to really know each other before having sex.
But I am not a believer in holding off on sex until marriage. I think you have to have sex in order to see if you are compatible.
So, sex after a few months, stay at each other's places every night, hang out and and do lots of things together for about another year before deciding if you really want to get married.

[stardust101]

I’m not interested in playing “house” with anybody and there’s no way in hell were spending the night with each other every night. Lmao to be honest I would want my own bedroom even if I do end up getting married again but that’s another topic

[PondyPand]

Hell nah.

[cheapshotbob]

yeah i would i dont see the why rushing it would change anything.

[Cryostatic]

I’d maybe wait a month or two.

[Mädchen]

I'd wait a year If we'd still do other stuff. Or maybe half a year

[Cactusqueen]

I’m sure if you find a partner with a low sex drive that shouldn’t be a problem. However most people today, part of getting to know each other, intimacy and fun of being together is the sex. There’s plenty of people out there though and I’ve heard of unlikely thing occurring before.

[stardust101]

People rush into sex too soon these days

[Cactusqueen]

I understand you not wanting to just jump in bed only to break up shortly after. Communicating that could help a man understand your perspective

[stardust101]

Of course. I’m not going to just leave him hanging

[Cactusqueen]

That’s good then you can both be aware of where you stand so if you don’t agree you won’t waste each other’s time

[stardust101]

Right

[KeziL]

Nope. I'm not official with the current guy I'm interested in but we've been on a couple dates. I learned from experience that if you want it to last you probably shouldn't have sex with a person on the first night you hang out, but now I've known this guy for like a month and I'm absolutely done waiting. He is too so it's okay.

[ohshee]

No I wouldn't wait. Are u saying no sex at all or with there be getting each other off in different ways

[angecandy]

If i am not 18+ then i wouldn't have sex.
I am 16 so i would wait 2-3 years. Even i was 18 i would still wait 2 years, of the guy gets bored for not having sex, oh well life is life so. To wait long is a good wait to see if your partner is good at being patience/calm and loyal