Do guys care about a girl's sexual history?

i'm not trying to clump all females together, but of the ones I know, they obsess to the max. they want to know a guys sexual history in great detail; who they lost their virginity to, her cup size, how many women were one night stands, how many did he love, etc... my friend has been in a relationship with a male for about 8 months & she still obsesses over his ex lovers, curious about how she measures up to them. sure, it's all part of being insecure, but while talking to her, he never asks her personal sexual business, ie: have you ever had anal, how many guys have you been with, have you ever had a pregnancy scare, etc.. i wouldn't say he doesn't care, but as to my knowledge, he lack of knowledge about her sexual history doesn't seem to interest him. do you males attempt to compare yourself to your partners past lovers, do you want to know their history, or do you only care if they're clean. input appreciated.
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  • I am iffy on whether knowing a person's sexual past is important but I would say that I can determine character. Like how many one night stands a person has had. Personally I agree with one of the responses. If a person doesn't look at sex as being meaningful and intimate then I don't want no part of them so I guess the sexual past maybe does matter to me. To women it is just in our nature to wonder if we measure up to their guys fantasy and desires. We can't help it because we know that men are extremely sexual but there comes a point where you either can live with it or not and leave it alone. You can't change a person's past but it all of depends on how the person treats you and your relationship.

    • Same with women. Women have higher standards in bed, and have way more options when there younger.

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  • I only care about a girl's sexual history because I want to know if she's clean and doesn't have any STD's. I don't compare myself to the other guys she has dated and been with because I'm secure with myself. Also, the reason why your friend's boyfriend might not want to ask about your friend's sexual history is because he might be trying to show her that he trusts her and doesn't care about her past. I am the same way except with the things I mentioned at the beginning.

  • I'll definitely want to know if she has any STDs and if she's ever cheated on a boyfriend in the past and if so why/under what circumstances. Also if she's ever been engaged or married. Beyond that, I'm good.

    Definitely don't need to get into the gory details of sex with each of her exes. Don't need to know how big their d***s were, don't need to know who she's blown and who she's done anal with, etc, etc, etc. Not sure what good comes from any of that.

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  • For me I can accept the fact that the girl I care about is no longer a virgin and if she had several BFs before me that's totally fine..what am curious to know is how and why she ended those relationships..you can't judge a girl just because she had several sex partners in her past for as long as she was loyal and committed to them one relationship to the next..

  • I think some guys will be concerned over how many previous partners a girl had, and what she did with them. But I think these topics are the ones best left to "ignorance is bliss". I really could do without hearing about another dude boning my girlfriend.

    • Yes! Exactly my thoughts!

  • Couldn't care less about her past partners. Would knowing make me a better lover? More skilled? More attentive?

    It's useless information unless I'm into guilt trips, which I'm not.

  • I don't care. If I'm sleeping with her now, that's all I care about.

    I suppose if she did something particularly amazing in bed, I might ask "Where the hell did you learn *that*?" But I'd have no interest in what the guy was like or how big he was, or anything like that.

  • I understand what you are talking about. I think that its hard to compare as every girl is different some do certain things better than others. I just tell her the past is the past.

  • I would ask in the beginning of the relationship. Because I am a virgin i expect her to be as well. (I dont want comparisions)

    If she lies red flag, if she ask and complain and doesn't answrr question red flag.

  • well, yes I would care to an extent... and how I react to it would depend on how much I loved/liked the girl. If her sexual past is too much (high number), then I'd probably leave her unless I'm madly in love with her.

    My ideal partner would be someone who looked at sex the same way I do, which is to share it with your significant other in relationships.

    • i'm not really talking about the number, but if she's loved any of them, how many were one night stands, her longest relationship. stuff like that.

    • well I would care if most of them were one night stands.. because then it shows she doesn't look at sex the same way I do (which is not wrong.. just not for me)

  • Yeah, I care. I wouldn't want her to have had casual sex. Not because I think casual sex is 'wrong' or anything. I just like being with a girl who sees sex as an emotionally intimate thing, not just a hobby.

  • std free and all that I think then its okay.

  • im obsessed with knowing my gf's sexual history.

  • As long as she is std free and didn't have like a dozen partners and won't cheat I'll be fine.