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Girl, why are you so self-conscious about your bodies?
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I'm growing frustrated with girls that don't like their bodies half as much as I do. It's a total sex buzz kill when a girl doesn't want you to see her completely naked. Girls, if you're with a guy then there are many good reasons he's with you. Why would you make it a point to highlight your faults and shortcomings? I'm going to scream the next time a perfectly attractive girl tells me she's fat. Arrrrgh! Girls, why do you do this to yourselves?
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36 7ya ik what you mean. I think my girlfriend is the hottest girl on this planet but she thinks she is ugly whenever I tell her she is beautiful she says she isn't but I know she is.
its complicated. I know how those girls feel.. I would feel incredibly awkward being naked in front of a guy.. we think that guys want the really skinny girl with a perfect body.. which is impossible to live up to.. and it makes us feel un sexy
i think they do it because they think if they have a flaw you'll dump them 4 a girl who doesn't
have that flaw but who really knows
well I'm guessing it also has the theory of a guy won't going out wit a "fat" girl so even though she's skinny. and also because she's insecure about how she looks and feels. I recently just stopped caring how look. basically I take care of myself without worrying so much about my "fat". I've gotten so much happier! lol but yea, it takes so much time and effort to get this far. I know its frusturating and annoying but it won't stop unless the girl thinks differently about herself.
Well its different for each girl...
myself, being abused physically mentally and verbally...
and also I'm Bi and I don't like my body,
another thing...
I just had a baby... and although I do get a lot of men that want me, and think I'm attractive,
I still am not comfortable with the way my body is.
Women find beauty captivating... they look at what is supposed to be sexy, maybe in porn, or a poster on a guys wall and they look at their own body and see if their beauty captivates the mind like the beauty of that women...
Its difficult to explain...
Just let the girl know she's sexy scream in pleasure during sexual intercourse, be dominating take her clothes off, hold her arms down and tell her to shut up because she is beautiful, and you LOVE looking at her naked body, It turns you on.
That would work for me, lol.
im really insecure about my body too, so I don't even let my boyfriend put his hands up my shirt. Insecurity is something that's really common in girls, so don't get frustrated if your girl is self conscious.
All girls want to believe that they're beautiful, but with celebrities and movie stars to compete with, its hard. It doesn't help that guys drool all over these super skinny, outrageously gorgeous women in the media, because it makes us average girls feel even more ugly.
These super skinny, outrageously gorgeous women in the media are mostly as fake as possible: either surgery or Photoshop... Look at this site: it's a photographer selling his "art" : https://glennferon.com/portfolio1/index.html Look at the different girls in the portfolio, open the pics, move your mouse pointer over them and you'll see how much photoshop contributed to their "charms & beauty" You want an average girl to become a beauty? look: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYhCn0jf46U
Cont'd Do you want a nice girl to become ugly? 123 Photoshop: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LxDft1M7r2A
Hahah, https://glennferon.com/portfolio1/index.html i loved that. so true, there all soo fake :)
Trust in ur man.Believe that he loves all of you and you will go a long way.
Haha... I understand where you're coming from.
It annoys me as well when girls call themselves fat, because they usually aren't. They like to exaggerate because it makes them feel good when people tell them they're not.
And usually girls get nervous about taking all their clothes off, because they don't know what reaction you're going to give them, or whether you're genuine or not. They've seen naked women before (or bikini clad) in magazines on TV and internet, and they know that they don't look like them, (which, lets say, who does?!) and think you'll be disappointed because you're expecting that. The problem is that we don't see enough normal women to feel confident in ourselves.
Plus, we tend to criticise every other girl we see, so it's only natural to expect the same in return.
Reassurance, and a indifferent attitude is the best approach. :)
maybe they don't think that they are good enough for their partner, men always big themselves up more than women. I reckon that half the woman that say this are just searching for compliments...
blame the media, blame magazines and blame guys who don't think like u. Guys that make fun od girls who don't look a certain way and also blame girls that make fun of girls who don't look a certain way. The most You can do is make the girl ur wit feel as special as possible...but just understand most girls will complain about something...no matter how "pretty" she looks
You can't really blame guys for not liking women for not having a "certain" look. It IS mostly the media's fault that is brain washing both sexes. Other factors are just evolutionary/biological.
the media
I'm afraid sometimes that I won't live up to "the beautiful girl" that my boyfriend calls me. It's nothing to do with him. It's just that sometimes I'm afraid that I won't live up to his standers (and I think this knowing that my boyfriend loves everything about me and my body).
So, for me, it's more of a self-conscious thing. But I do agree, it is a turn off when a girl says that she is fat or something isn't right. It kinda ruins the moment. That's why I try not to say anything. lol.
Lately, it's become much better because I'm learning to love with what I got and my boyfriend compliments me all the time and that's all I need :]
Sometimes I feel like a guy is with me because he can't do better. Just because he's with me doesn't mean anything. You might be with me but when a hot skinny girl walks by and you look at her, he's probably wishing I looked like that so of course I'm self conscious, who wants to be a consolation prize?
God idk. I wish it was different. I think it's because I've had images of prefect photo shopped women pushed into my face for the last 17 years. Advertisers want us to feel bad about ourselves so we buy their products. Profiting off of people's insecurities. Ain't life a bitch? Don't blame us girls. We don't know any better. I think it is starting to become that way for men too. I've anorexic for a couple of years now and I can trace my eating disorder back to seeing vogue magazines when I was younger.
A good amount of girls are like this because they feel like they aren't skinny enough. I know that I feel huge compared to everyone, even though I'm average sized. The magazines and tv make it seem like all men want are the size 0 chick with a DD chest. so yeah, some girls are a bit self-conscious due to that.
I do this because I have male friends who rag on girls' bodies and talk about their "muffin tops" and "meat curtains". Naturally I'm going to be self conscious. I'm incredibly skinny with big boobs so I love my body (and its all natural) but I hate my vagina, especially my larger outer lips (however I don't know if they're larger than most people's, they could be normal). I feel this way because of vagina jokes my guy friends talk about.
Honestly, there are so many reasons why we're self-conscious. It could be a past experience (like being teased when we were younger, or being told we're not good enough by a family member). For me, my dad used to tell me I was fat all the time, and I've just developed a totally bad self-esteem becuase of it. I don't think I'm anything special even when others tell me that its not true. Also, it could be a self conscious girl wanting reassurance. She just may be looking for someone to tell her she's not fat, or she's not ugly. Instead of wanting to scream or getting fed up the next time it happens, maybe try talking to the girl if its someone you care about. Ask her why she feels the way she does. She might just feel that much better that you care more about why she thinks these negative things about herself.
I'm very self-conscious about my body.
My guy hates my self-consciousness.
I was self-conscious because I'm a little curvy, and I know how much he loves petite girls.
It took some adjusting for both of us; but now I've learned to love the way I look, and he's learned to love my curves.
It's win-win!
Real women have curves.