I'm a white girl with a brown/black vagina. Is this gross or a turn off? Answer honestly please?

[amberbyrne]

I'm a white girl and my vagina, skin between my anus and vagina, anus, upper thighs and slightly into my bum crack are all a dark brown colour. I don't just mean slightly darker like most women they are literally a completely brown different colour than my skin. I was born normal but this developed shortly after when I was a small baby. It used to be much worse and run further down my legs, it has shrunk as I've aged. No doctor has ever seemed to have an answer as to what it is or a solution for me. I only have sex with the lights off and I am TERRIFIED of anyone ever seeing it. I want to be able to have sex with the lights on and do more things sexually but I am just too afraid to let anyone see. When I think about it and my future, it scares me so much that no one will ever accept it no matter what even if they love me or whatever. Honestly if you were with someone and you loved them and eventually they showed you this completely discoloured disgusting looking vagina what would you do? Honestly? I hate my body so much and literally no one knows about it other than my family really. When I really start to think about it it upsets me so much. Please answer this question and if anyone knows what it might be or a solution or if anyone suffers similarly please let me know. Thanks

[ArrowheadSW]

I'd say relax and don't worry about it. It is most likely just simple discoloration of the skin. You've seen doctors and apparently nothing is medically wrong or they most likely would have mentioned it. And I think you're more worried about the cosmetic appearance anyway. I don't think any man will notice or care anyway.

Also to help ease your mind, you might want to see a dermatologist and see if there is any type of skin bleaching procedure they can use. But really I'd say not to let it bother you. I know, easier said than done! Best of luck.

[amberbyrne]

Yeah it is not affecting my health or anything it's simply just the skin in that area is a completely different colour to the rest of my body. Men would definitely notice it's not something you could miss it is super dark like black skin. I have seen a dermatologist before and didn't really get much from her, I plan to find others who may have different options for me. Thanks for answering!

[ArrowheadSW]

Medicine is practiced differently in different regions. Even one part of the US compared to another. I see you are in Ireland. You might want to see if any dermatologists in your area use lasers to correct certain skin discolorations. If so, you can go in for a consultation and see if in their opinion it might work for you. But as we all are saying on here, don't let it bother you too much and really none of us guys on here think it would be anything.

[datgirl]

There is no need to worry. A vagina is a vagina and they come in all shapes and colors and sizes. Not every woman has a perfect pretty pink vagina.
Do NOT send your pic to ANYBODY who asks for it even if they say they have to "see for myself" to judge properly. They are not trying to help they are just being disgusting and trying to trick you.
When or if you find a man you're intimate with you can discuss this with him and I'm sure he'll love it regardless if not dump his ass.

[Anonymous]

It's probably just a birth mark. My sister didn't have any big birthmark when she was born but a few months later she got a huge greenish birth mark on her butt. The doctor said it was just a normal birthmark and she still has it to this day. Her wasn't as big as your but was really quite noticeable.

[amberbyrne]

Yeah I'm not worried about it affecting my health I know it's just the colour of the skin. It just affects the way I live and I just wanted to know what people thought or if anyone had a solution. Thanks for answering! How does your sister feel about hers?

[Opinion Owner]

She used to be very uncomfortable about it but now she doesn't really care if people see it

[Cmasterson]

Its natural for these places to be a little darker because they are where skin creases and they're capable of being stretched etc. So its fine as you age. Men won't care realistically as long as you're clean, we all even men our southern regions are a different colour than our skin that shows.

[joseyyywhales]

Yeah I have a brown dick where the rest of me is olive color.

[amberbyrne]

That's what I'm saying though it's not just like on other women where it's slightly darker like it's basically a black vagina on a white girl..

[Bvroon]

The color of the vagina can vary widely from woman to woman, so I really wouldn't dedicate as much worry over this as you have. It is really just a matter of genetics, which you have no control over (which doesn't mean something is wrong). It is just the way you are made. When you are with a man who likes you for you, all these little things really won't matter to him, unless your personality changes dramatically over the course of time. The best advice I can give you, is to talk with your partner about it before you have sex or sexual activity, in the sense that you are self conscious about it. Again, if they really value you for who you are, they will respect you all the more for being honest with them about something so private. I have never felt that I was all that big "downstairs" it is something I have worried over for a number of years, as such prior to sex or sexual activity I have mentioned this to my partner, in the sense that I'm not huge (I'm about average), pretty much every woman I have been with has been very accepting of this and really I only ever got the impression from one woman that my size was not what she would have preferred, so lets say I have been with 10 women, and only 1 out of those 10 didn't like what I had that means I have a.01 disapproval rating. My point is, most decent guys won't be all that critical of your vaginal color, and in all fairness if you happen to run into the one guy who is, well my friend honestly you are better off without him in your life.

[Xfitchick]

Sex is about stimulation and admiration. During sex you rarely look at a vagina or a penis when the other body parts are lovely. You just use them.

[BaileyisDarcy]

https://m.md-health.com/Vagina-Turns-Black.html

This site may help you. Good luck!

[dogbert444]

it's a very small issue that you are blowing up into a major catastrophe. Believe me, most guys wouldn't even notice. The decent ones would accept the way you are WITHOUT question.

Please stop worrying about someting that is not a problem, and never should be. Any guy that doesn't like it is not worthy of your attention.

[amberbyrne]

Trust me you couldn't not notice it, but thanks for reassuring me I really appreciate it

[dogbert444]

Every girl is different! It's not important enough, even if noticed, to warrant a comment. You're welcome, as always!

[Seawoman1]

Sin sage
Porn look up some porn
And you will see your now the only one

[lightingrod]

It depends on how bad it looks cause it might not even be that bad.

[amberbyrne]

It is bad it's not just dark like its a different colour completely

[lightingrod]

I gotta see for myself if your okay with that, if not I understand.

[amberbyrne]

I nearly would show a picture but I'm literally so embarrassed and ashamed and afraid of what people would say

[lightingrod]

Message me and relax I don't planned on hurting your feelings and you shouldn't be ashamed of something you have no control of.

[ShaeNielson]

Girlie don't send strangers pictures of your genitals, that is the worst idea ever.

[lightingrod]

@ShaeNielson if she wants an opinion on how it looks, she has to show some people. She ain't gotta show everybody though. Like I said its her choice if she does or not, I ain't forcing her to do anything.

[ShaeNielson]

You're asking an insecure girl to send you nudes, it's manipulative.

[lightingrod]

@ShaeNielson read her post cause Obv she wants to know if it's gross but she can be overreacting and it might not even be that bad. Instead of letting her be insecure maybe if she showed some people and it wasn't that bad and they told her it was nice than she was accept the fact that it may be dark but there's not wrong with that. You are so closed minded to think I just wants nudes. It's not manipulative since I'm not begging she send it. Ain't nobody tricking her into sending it. Like is said its her fucking choice is she sends it to someone or not.

[ShaeNielson]

No, you're exploiting her insecurity to get nudes. Don't tell her you can't help if she doesn't send nudes, just don't reply at all then. She should not share nudes with random strangers because she is insecure.

[lightingrod]

@ShaeNielson you don't get it. It has nothing to do with her sending nudes. It's the fact that she needs to know that's it's fine and she won't know until someone tells her that. So what happens if she had a boyfriend and he wants a pussy pic and she feels so insecure about it that it makes her cry. I'm trying to help her, not take advantage because she said she wants to fuck with the lights on but if she's insecure about how it looks it will drive her to push people away cause she will be scared they will talk bad about her and she ain't gotta send nudes to a stranger she can send it to someone she trust. I said other people as in, I know she has friends and close ones aswell. She needs feedback on how it looks, it's simple as that or she won't be able to accept that it's fine.

[ShaeNielson]

How about she doesn't send pussy pics if it's gonna make her cry? She could go to a tumblr site and see other normal genitals instead of taking a huge risk of spreading her nudes.

[lightingrod]

@ShaeNielson that's dumb cause then what she invites him offer and he freaks out? I think it's best she don't send nudes in a relationship for like 6-8 months cause if her being dark down there is a deal breaker. I don't want her getting feelings hurt real bad because of something she can't control. I'm saying it would be good for her to find someone who likes her for her.

[ShaeNielson]

Oh so she should send intimate pictures of herself so he won't freak out over something natural and normal, right. A lot of girls are darker around the genitalia, men too, if that's a deal breaker then he can go date a bleached porn actress.

[lightingrod]

@ShaeNielson That's true but I think it's best she at least tells them. She ain't gotta show them though.

[ShaeNielson]

No, that's ridiculous. It's normal and most people have it, you don't have to warn your partner about that.

[OnlyYouKnowThat]

Skin pigmentation can vary and especially on the sex organs. I wouldn't worry so much, it's not a big deal. Labia come in all different shades and shapes. It might make you feel better to check out the Labia Library where you can see that normal female genitals can vary in appearance:
http://labialibrary.org.au/photo-gallery/#

[sbnalenon]

I agree with MHG @ArrowheadSW

I do have things to say & ask few, would like your permission to privately share my opinions & query.

[AEther]

no, i really don't think that's anything to worry about.

[Artist20]

Not a problem, everyone doesn't look like a porn model or models either. The media wants you to look a certain way but reality is different, people come in all different shapes and sizes. Not everyone has a supermodel body, some people are not in perfect shape even tho they work out or are physically active. Some people have scars around their body, some have stretch marks, some have birth marks, etc.
Only stupid insignificant worms have the mindset that everyone should look like a supermodel and judge people based on this or what they see on tv.

[Mesonfielde]

I think you shouldn't be so conscious about it, that's not what makes a vagina ugly when it's ugly

[BeerFarts]

It doesn't bother me one bit. No need to feel self conscious :)

[abundantlyrich]

brown isn't black

[amberbyrne]

Well in my opinion I would say the skin in the areas I have mentioned on myself is black skin. It isn't just brown as in a bit darker than the rest of me, it's completely a different colour. I just didn't know what way to word it.

[abundantlyrich]

You prolly had African in u

[malachimccoy824]

I agree that black women vaginas are not sexually attractive.

[Intraluminal]

Two things:

1) Do you have African blood in the family? I'm not being racist, just curious.

2) THE most beautiful vagina I ever saw, and I've seen a few, was a black girl's vagina. It was colored somewhat like a reverse peace rose, only with brown instead of yellow.

www.google.com/imgres

[amberbyrne]

No I don't take it as being racist at all! Not that I'm aware of, if I do have African blood in the family it would be quite distant, I'm Irish and the only foreign blood I'm aware of on my dads side is Romanian. That's reassuring to hear and you put it very nicely! I just think it would be nicer to see a black vagina on a black woman you know..

[Intraluminal]

I wouldn't ordinarily it, but professional skin bleaching is an option.

[naturaldeven4]

the best option^

[amberbyrne]

Where would I go for something like this? It has never been offered to me. Does it work well

[Intraluminal]

It's too large a subject to capture in a paragraph or two. I suggest you Google "skin bleaching" Then Google "skin bleaching" AND "side effects" I know that it's done, I am not sure how permanent it is, but I'm sure it lasts for months at least.

[Dtegesd123]

if its a birth mark and not a disease, I dont see anything wrong with it.

[amberbyrne]

Yeah it's not a disease like it's just normal skin that literally turned a different race somehow

[guyngals]

Definitely not a turn off. I've "known" women as you describe and was not at all turned off.

Relax and enjoy yourself.

[ShaeNielson]

Relax that's normal.

[LifeChoices]

My ass has black discoloration, it's a birthmark

[joseyyywhales]

Pics?

[DaddyRollingStone]

Bold.

[joseyyywhales]

@DaddyRollingStone lol I like living on the edge

[Afrochick]

LMAOO

[Walrus_au]

It doesn't sound like a turn off to me.

[Regulatus]

There is nothing at all wrong with your vagina color. Requiring lights out for sex is a bigger tun-off for guys than a little extra melanin between your legs will ever be.

[amberbyrne]

That's how I always feel, like I'm ruining if by needing the lights off but I just don't have the confidence otherwise and I don't know how to help that

[Regulatus]

I wouldn't say you're "ruining it." LOL. Really, though, most guys won't even notice the color difference. And even if they did, they probly won't mention it. None will be turned off by it. To build your confidence, maybe before getting intimate with a guy, try making a joke about it. Say that you have localized reverse-Michael Jackson syndrome. Or, in conversation, ask him what he dislikes most about his own body. Then tell him about your dark jellyroll. When you finally grant him access, he will most likely give you complement after complement about it. It actually sounds kind of sexy.

[amberbyrne]

Haha I like that Michael Jackson one, sounds like an alright idea I just need to work up the confidence to ever even hear myself say it out loud to someone! Thanks for the advice

[DaddyRollingStone]

I think it's normal. Majority of men won't care.

[Guanfei]

I'd fuck it all the same.

[Polocrew]

Lol most chicks have vags like that OP, its normal

[MustLoveCats]

I have the same problem!

[amberbyrne]

Really? Follow me so I can message you

[amberbyrne]

It won't let me message you because I'm not at a high enough level as I only joined this site today. But I would really like to discuss this further with you

[MustLoveCats]

Okay :) My English is poorly but I will try my best :)

[TonyRyanAgain]

Lol. We really don't care.

[lazermazer]

Normal

[Ash_Williams]

*shudder*

[amberbyrne]

Thanks that helps

[frenchtoast11996]

Lol. You have a brown bootyhole.

Pics of rear glute spread?

[biguyct]

very sexy!

[Trending]

It doesn't matter to me, your just making a big deal out of something small

[naturaldeven4]

yeah thats disgusting ddude

[amberbyrne]

Good to know thanks for the answer

[naturaldeven4]

no probs :D

[Gozero]

TMI WARNING!
I dated one woman that always wanted to sex in the dark (we met in winter time) and worked morning shifts. Eventually in spring/summer she couldn't hide it as well. Not going to lie I ejaculated very fast when I first saw it. I asked her why she wanted to sex in the dark and that was the reason. Apparently some ex wanted her to bleach it and she became very wary since. I told her it made me very arroused and we have to take it slow at first or I will instant finish.
In my opinion I wish there was more women like you because its my ultimate turn on I never knew I had until than haha.

[Annie09]

You know... It could be from vaginal discharges such as menstruation... You could use coconut oil.. Just add a tsp. Of ginger powder 😉

[Biash]

I wanna date you... 😍 Fb: inass biash..

[Chouka]

I have the same problem, i can feel that pain

[Willb2691]

I don’t even know if you are still active on here but I hope you have found someone who loves and respects you. Honestly after reading your question that I found by accident I had to join to add this opinion. The woman I love has the same sort of issue as you. She’s super white in the winter and tanish in the summer if she gets sun but all year round her vagina is dark dark brown as are the inside of her thighs close to the vagina and all the way back and up her butt crack. And then to top matters off her arm pits and her nipples. Are the exact same way. But I think her uniqueness is part of her sexiness to me she’s absolutely perfect I wouldn’t ever want her to change. She also has large labia that honestly say down a bit but I think that’s beautiful too. Again I hope you found a man that finds you as appealing as I find my woman. Until then don’t settle for less. If a guy treats you with any disrespect for it be gone with him because you deserve better! I hope if you ever see my statement that it helps give you piece of mind if you haven’t found it yet.

[tito_pablo_2030]

you know what , me as a man would go crazy with what you have described. i would ask you to marry me :) but really your confidence should be more positive about your body. accept that and love it. you are special dear
stretching marks cellulite and others are things that should make your partner feels he is very lucky.

[Anonymous]

There is a medical definition on this. It has to do with pigmentation in places where skin rarely moves or is subject to abnormal stress.

For example but cracks are dark because you sit on it etc. I'll look for a link.

[amberbyrne]

Yeah there's a couple of things I've seen online that sound similar to me, but pictures etc never look as bad as me and I haven't seen many solutions, if you had a link that would be great. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

LA face, Oakland vagina

[Anonymous]

Why do you care for silly trivia, or care about people who could care for silly trivia?

That's what it is.

[Anonymous]

By the time a guy can see it, the color won't stop him, guaranteed

[Anonymous]

No problem all vaginas are delicious lol

[Anonymous]

Ewww wtf man?

[ShaeNielson]

You should have been a blowjob.

[Opinion Owner]

@ShaeNielson What? How the hell can I be a blowjob?

[ShaeNielson]

Ohmygod did you even finish pre school? Im saying your mama should have swallowed you instead of giving birth to you.

[Opinion Owner]

@ShaeNielson I don't know what they teach you in Denmark, but they don't teach blow jobs in 'preschool' in England. Where you taught by prostitutes in your school? Haha.

[Opinion Owner]

*were

[guyabcd2020]

Isn't it normal to have darkish genitals? Many white men have dark brown penis and balls.

[ShaeNielson]

Im talking about your reading comprehension, but you're not bright enough to understand that which I probably should have realized you wouldn't be after reading your original post. Also, adding "haha" does not make your statement funny nor clever, it's desperate.

[Opinion Owner]

@ShaeNielson You sound like an angry person. You have to accept that some people have opinions which will on occasion differ to your own; this neither makes you wrong nor them because it's an opinion after all. Insulting people isn't the best way to get your point across. With hindsight, maybe I overstepped the mark.