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I'm a mistress, why do guys have them?
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i met a guy at a bar a while ago and he took my number and we've been talking everyday since. when he added me to Facebook, his Facebook gave me the slight impression he had a girlfriend. after doing some serious snooping turns out he's like 6 years older than me, pretty wealthy, engaged and living with a woman and yet he talks to me like I'm potentially a love interest. i know what I am to him. a mistress. what do I mean to him? like why bother talking to me all day and doing nice things for me if you just want me for sex? is that all it's about for him?
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he wants to spend thanksgiving with me and introduce me to his friends. that sounds pretty intense to do with someone who's just for sex. or is he just showing me off? I know he has 3 houses, each in a different city. and I've only been to one so far
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19 27He probably got other women on the side besides you, do his wife a favor and give her a ring.
Guys have mistresses because they enjoy sex with multiple partners, no great mystery. If you enjoy the sex and don't mind being a simple plaything with little value then enjoy but don't invest emotionally.
In fact, you are, a guy will talk less about love if he seriously has those feelings! He just says that to give you hope that you might be his love someday so, you'd give him everything!
Men have mistresses cause they can. That's all !
If he has any other thoughts of you, he should leave the other girl! Ask him if there's a girl in his life, and give him a couple of days to see what he'll say. He might be showing you off but, if he really wants you, for YOU. Leave the sex on the side! No sex! Until you see where everything is going and not being his toy ;)
okay he probably likes you and he's interested in your looks and personality. but he has other girls in his life. so if you can live with the fact that your not everything to him and your doing stuff behind that girls back then continue doing what your doing. I would make him buy you something and then split!
WAIT WE AREN'T TALKING ABOUT TIGER WOODS ARE WE?
so his plan is to have one girl for each house that he has...so every time he's in town, he'll get a little somethin' somethin' FO FREEE.
well well well it sounds to me you are kinda in this guy take your time girl if he is hsowering you with gifts and lullabies take it but if you one day do get tired of all the bull cut him off obviously his soon to be wife is not doing right and he turns to you for comfort so comfort him back but warning do tell him how you feel and what is his intentions that the cons out weigh the pros let him go but can't know one tell you how to feel about him but you and p.s it sounds to me that you are a mistress but be a smart one and let him do the the thinking and wishing you are the goods to his goodies well if you need anymore advice hit me up okay don't be shy
Someone youmet at a bar a while ago and who's showing more than friendly interest might just be looking for some diversity in his sexual life, nothing more. On the other hand, he might just as well have clean friend feelings.
that's pretty much the definition of a mistress : a girl you see outside of your dating girl to fuck
Apparently he just wants you for sex
it sound like to me that he just wanted sex from u. I'm so sorry to hear that. you just need to move on with your life and forget about that loser. Did he tell you that he was the same age as you. Because if he did that's so f***in sick.most guys want just sex and that's it. maybe the women that he lifes with won't give him sex.
Something is missing in his life that makes him want more than one woman. Think about the 3 houses? People with immense wealth and or fame get bored because they can and do pretty much all they want so they are looking for the next (metaphorically) HIGH!
How long this will last between you depends on him. If you are too willing he will be bored, unfortunately you are only a toy to him and while he may say he loves you and he may in his own way of what love means, you are just going to last as long as he wants no what you want.
If you are okay with this then have a great time, but if you want more please don't fool yourself just like Summer ends so will this. Sorry to not have a better answer but this is life.
I want to be humiliated by a beautiful woman.
when being in a long relationship the passion goes and it gets really boring , he just misses this crazy time in every beginning of a relationship ...he will eventually break up with his finance and start a relationship with you!
You should end it - how would you feel if you were her? If he's unhappy with his fiance he should leave her and THEN find someone else.
I personally think that one of the main reasons if for excitement and the thrill of it., that you have to sneak around and mite get caught.
I think they like to know that they can do it and it is a male fantasy to have more than one girl on the go.
And he could genuinely like you but he is being an ars hole about it, and he wants to make sure he likes you if he was contemplating getting with you.
Most likely tho hun, HE just wants to have his cake and eat it! and you deserve a lot better than that. No girl should be second best. Or have to compete. Just do what makes you happy that is what counts the most. Just make sure you don't get to attached to this fella, he mite end up hurting you.
It sounds like ti bothers you some. But not enough to break it off. Maybe things aren't what they seem to be, or maybe they are exactly what they seem.
Now, maybe you are the person he has discovered after he met his fiance and it turns out (to him) that you are more than just a lay. Maybe he discovered that you are far more to him than he imaged, and really wants you in his life.
But for each guy, it is different.
Hope the best for you :-)
Hello there just wanted to add too this as well I have been this mans sex toy for 4 years now he acts like he cares at times but well we live like 4 hours away from each other when we started this fk buddy thing his wife had died and well I was there for him through all of it side by side well now he decides he wants a girlfriend and is going too marry her but still wants me for sex he confuses me so much this girlfriend has a good job going too school but he still just wants too have sex with me I don't know what too do I have grown too love him very much but I guess it will never be I am a hard worker and love what I do I don't make a lot of money but he still calls me texts me and still wants too fly here too have sex with me why in the world would he want too spend so much money on a plane ticket just too have sex with me any one got any ideas
Maybe you could swap yourself out for my ex girlfriend. She's a money grubbing Facebook whore who loves older guys and feels like she should be on "The Hills".
If this d*** has houses all over the place, is engaged, and you're sleeping with him.. What makes you think that he wouldn't do this to you if you did actually become a "love interest". He's all for sex, plain and simple. Just end it.
I like this. Well said.
eh you are a mistress. not just to him but everyone.
why are you still with him?! go and get some self-respect! get a guy who is SINGLE.
And yeah he just wants you for sex. why are you even surprised? he's not going to show you off to his friends he's only saying that to keep you happy and stop you moaning about wanting something serious. you sounds a bit like a golddigger when you say youve only been to one of his houses. would you be with him if he was just an average joe? I doubt it.
Also he is CHEATING on a FIANCEE-someone he is meant to MARRY.
why would you want to be number 2 in anyones life? it sounds like all of you mistresses have no self-respect or dignity as you put up with this crap. you make me cringe to be a woman quite honestly
My uncle was a married man with 3 children and had a mistress because he was not happy with his wife - it was an arranged marriage :(. The mistress gave birth to a girl, and he left his ex wife (the youngest of his children was 2) and married the mistress. Life is full of ssss...urprises!