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I was raped and I don't know what to do?
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I was raped quite recently, and I just don't know what to do! :((( what's worse is it was my boyfriends best friend and he doesn't know :( I told him I was raped and it took all of my strength to do that but he doesn't know it was his best friend and we still have to do things with him like go to town and stuff. I don't know what to do :((((
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Also I'm scared that if I told my boyfriend how he would react?
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My boyfriend has left me =( He was furious and stuff and he doesn't go near his friend anymore but I lost him =( I just with I never told him. I caant tell anyone else incase I lose them =(
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What do I have to live for. I feel like there's a demon inside of me tearing me down bit by bit. =[
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What Girls & Guys Said
29 26how do you even get into a situation where his so called best friend could rape you?
um any number of situations?
like?
That's not a girl's fault!
That's not a girl's fault! She's the VICTIM.
iam not accusing any body. just curious, and I haven't had any response thus far, so maybe their wasn't any raping. women totally victimize themselves, which could be the case here
what do you mean? It was at a house party if that's what your asking?!
well iam just making sure, there's a difference between cheating and raping
wtf!
I kind of agree with beastman...this kind of sounds like bullsh*t. :/
i just don't get how your at a house party with your bfs best friend, where was your boyfriend?
He was there too! He was in a seperate room!
weird, and you didn't tell him then? you must have not been very shaken up about it, I know if I was a girl and got raped id be crying and telling everyone, my boyfriend especially. was your life threatened? did you try to get away?
Is this 20 questions or something? Yes I tried to get away! When I got out I was looking for my boyfriend but I couldn't find him so I ran home.
Wow, you guys are assholes... Do you enjoy making a rape victim feel as if there lieing? Why don't you go an meet someone who wa raped and see if you question them in person? You disgust me. And for the person who posted this question, I'm sorry for what happened to you, and I sorry these people have no feelings towards what your going through.
gobble my knob , no wait you can't because your no longer a member, because apparently your the asshole. so whatever I don't believe everything I hear and you shouldn't either, despite what you may think not everybody is a naive twit like yourself
That is great that you are smart enough to realize that everything you hear isn't true. In cases such as this however its imperative to be suspicious only when discrepancies surface. There are numerous occasions possible for the bf's best frnd to rape the gf.
its not your fault...you should get professional help, there are phyciatrist who specialize in helping rape victims...they would be far more helpful to you than anyone on this site
im so sorry this happened to you and I hope you can move beyond it...dont hurt youself or anything this isn't the end of the world, even if it feels like it right now
If your ex was that much of an ass to live you for something you didn't do. screw him. You did nothing wrong. Tell everyone, they all need to know what kind of guy he is. No one who is a true friend will be mad at you...be strong, you did nothing wrong.
Go to your local rape crisis centre-if you tell me what town you are in Ill tell you your nearest centre.You will find a sympathetic ear, counselling and help with deciding your options.They are good people who can give you far better advice than I can.
Its terrible and the Guy should be in jail.I feel for you.
I don't want sympathy. that's the last thing I want. People just thinking I'm pathetic and stuff
no by sympathetic he meant HELPFUL. they will help you move on with your life, so you are not feeling beat down by this. um if you are feeling worthless than you are pitying yourself. its k its good to get help when you need it. Its an investment in you really. So you can heal and go on to other things and contribute t society. its not charity. its so you can be a full participating member.
Hey ma'am message me. I got something that might help you. I would love to help you and I have helped many dealing with this. It will take time due to experiencing depression. And dnt worry I will not inform anyone that is said between the two of us...
How are you doing? Did you inform the police?
juss by reading that yew were strong enough to tell your boyfriend says a lot ...in this case I'm sure yew knoe that tha best thing would b to let your boyfriend hear tha entire thing ..he has that right ..to protect yew nd stand by yew
First of all it's not your fault. Then you should go to the police and report this if you haven't done it already. I saw your updates and I think you should get some help if you feel like that...see an expert (psychologist). About your boyfriend...if he can't understand the whole situation and how bad it was for you then it's better for you, not to have a relationship with him.
My advice : Never give up...it's such a wonderful life...difficult yes but wonderful!
honey, I hope you have the common sense to go to the police. this should be the last place you go to for advice on what to do if you get raped. if your boyfriend left you, then apparently he didn't love you like you thought he did. and if you're feeling even moderately suicidal, honey, you need to get help. but first off, definitely tell the authorities. yes, I know that it is a difficult task, talking about such a sensitive thing, but they can help you. that's what they're there for. don't come here first.
go to the cops before you go posting about something this horrific. they'll know what to do.
Seriously.. I'm sorry for how you feel right now, I hope things get better for you. You should have called the cops on that jerk, and as for your ex.. he should have been wise enough to have understood the situation. Yeah he was scared, but he needed to be there for you.
You don't have to DO anything. If your boyfriend hangs out with rapists, then why
should you even want him to be your boyfriend anymore? Also, did he "Almost Rape" rape you, or I-might-be-pregnant-because-of-him rape you?
Whats almost rape? And the second option, I had to do a pregnancy test and all that
try and take hold of life from your side don't just let anyone get you as a trash...jus screw that bast*** wenever you get a chance... don't go out of your way...
First thing you need to do is tell your boyfriend who did it, and calm him down. Then go to the cops. If you don't he will rape more women. It's how guys like him work
did you go to the police yet if not call them now and get some help right a way don,t put this off because if you do the guy may just get a way with this he need to go to jail for this and have the police get you some help right a way and if you can point him out to the police do so because you don,t what him to do this to some one like he did to you
i am sorry about this. you need to realize that your boyfriend never like you and he should have been more supportive. I think you should make the rapist paid for what he did even if you were friends with him. please do not think that you do not have anything to live for because you do. you are alive and this is important. also , you should go to see a psychologist to help you through this time.
None of this is your fault, and I hate that you had to experience this.
Call the police. That kid is a rapist now, and he will always be one. Make sure he never gets away with that again.
Whatever you do, please know that you will always be the same beautiful person you've always been. It might be difficult to trust again. That is part of the healing process, but don't EVER think that what has happened to you makes you worth less. If anything, once you overcome this obstacle, you will be stronger than ever, and nobody will be able to take that away from you.
Once you're ready, tell somebody that you trust deeply.
You did not deserve this.
I had the same thing happen to me, except I was younger and I was on my way home from school. What I did was told my mom, she told the police and they took me to the doctors so that the doctors could take pictures and prove that I was raped. They did, anyway what the police did was tracked down the guy, and took him to court. Anyway you need to go to the police to report this, and get a check up from the doctor so you can be proven that you were raped. You can't let your boyfriend best friend get away with something like that.
hun I'm so srry that happened to you. the same thing happened to my friend but she didn't tell anyone but me. and I still hav not told. but you shoul really tell the police rape is a crime and will get him sent to jail. its not fair that you have to live witht he burden and he gets to walk free it will help you sleep at night to hav justice made. again I'm so sprry you had that happen to you its a horrible thing if you ever need to talk to someone find a person you can confide everything too it helps to talk about stuff. (sorry about my spelling)
you need to talk to someone I'm sorry but its true try and get your ex to talk to you and explain it not your fault you were raped he has no reason to be mad if he loves you he will understand if not then you need to seek help to get rid of that feeling you have its not good to live in fear and hurting like that and I thought therapist were for crazy people but I was wrong it has really helped me with a lot I have gone through as well such as work life school relationship everything I hope your OK and all goes well good luck and I hope your boyfriend understands keep me updated