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If he wants a threesome, does that mean he doesn't love me?
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My boyfriend really wants to have a threesome. He tells me he loves me and wouldn't want to be with anyone else. He is sweet to me and is basically wonderful to me, but lately he's been talking a lot about having a threesome. He's never had one before (and neither have I), but I'm not attracted to women, and I would get sooo jealous if we ever had one! I told him I'd be willing to do anything else, but he seems really stuck on this. I don't know if it's a deal-breaker or not, because he told me he thinks I will want to someday. I told him that it makes me feel like I'm not good enough for him, and he says that it doesn't mean that at all, just that it looks like it would be fun, and that it's every guy's fantasy. What should I do? is there any way to compromise? and should I be offended by this?
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22 12Think a husband or boyfriend isn't interested , and wants to hide behind closed door, and what got them all of a sudden interested
Be cautious. I did it with my partner of five years. First girl we did twice no problem. We talked about the likes and dislikes and we were good. Two years later he brings it up again after I had his first born. I said OK why not cause not once I ever thought he was messing up. Next girl he asked me to do a three some. I did because I trusted him. Come to find out she end up being pregnant. Not by the three some but before I even met her for that. I did all I could to keep my relationship spicy but I had a man who was just to greedy and played me. It hurt a long time. We are no longer together now due to other reasons. But now he has four baby mothers and guess what my son the oldest which is two. Be Careful is all I say. Stick to porn and role play with the fantasy.
Okay im sooo on? the same level with you on this Stressful situation an I don't know how to come about it an it really hurts my feelings but it's also pissing me OFF!!! SO DONT WORRY GIRLY YOUR NOT THE ONLY ONE 😔😵
So my man after 3 years asked me if I would have a 3 sum with him and I told him we will talk about it and plan it out I get to pick the girl and that there ate rules to have it like if he wants to put his penis in the girl he has to wear a comdon. And that the only time he can Even talk to the girl is when I'm around that I don't want him to go behind my back and trying to have sex with her it's only when the 3 of us are doing it if u trust him not to then try it and let the person know the same rules that u tell ur boyfriend I felt the same way, am I not good enough what am I doing wrong but after reading stuff on Google about I decided to try it it will be my 1st one when I find the fight girl and my man knows that I'm not playing the games that he goes behind my back to have anything with her if I like it we will do it more if not we won't it's up to u I'm the jealous type so it's gonna he hard but in the long run I can say I did something I never thought I would and I love my man and want to spice up our sex like so why not try it
Honestly don't do it personally I got put in the same situation and to please him I did it I had a couple drinks before because sober I wouldn't have done it , while it was happening I noticed he was banging her more then he was banging me which toatlly put me in a jealous position and you feel like he's more attracted to her then he is to you and if you don't want to feel like this don't do it and don't put your self in uncomfortable situations to please him!
yea he loves you but he just wants a good sexual experience
no it doesn't mean he doesn't love you at all. I'm like your guy and my girlfriend is like you lol I realy want one and always have but she says she would get hella jealous. but I have no feelings for any other girl and I wouldn't after I just wanna try it once. so no it doesn't mean he doesn't love you he just wants to try somethin new.
yeahh my boyfriend wanted the same exact thing but he said with my best friend and i was all wtf but he said im close wit her and i might feel more comfortable i was like kinda confused about it but i dont think ima say yes to him... hes kinda over it i think..