I think it's unfair that he expects it! I do it for my partner because I like making him happy but the problem with many relationships is when you "expect" something.
His attitude and getting annoyed over the idea that you wouldn't do it, perhaps you're in a lot of pain this period and just really uncomfortable. It's not like the ONLY thing that happens is blood (to many people anyway). Isn't fair.
It should be something you choose to do, and he apprecites and if you don't do he understands.
What's going to happen when you're pregnant and perhaps in pain and can't really move properly, especially in the last few months, and you don't want to get into a funny position to give him a blow job... Is he going to be able to go a few months then or is 1 day without any sort of sexual release from you going to cause him to resent you...
When my boyfriend was sick, and he knows how to milk a cold ha, I took care of him, I was up and down all night and day to either get a hot water bottle or get some water or get this or that, made a nice batch of chicken soup etc. And I got horny at one stage, I didn't tell him to go down on me at least.. I knew he was unwell.
Periods can make some people want to literally throw up, get diarrhea, the bloating, the stomach pain, I know I can't give proper blow jobs for more than 30 seconds because I need to sit up again, my stomach starts hurting and I get really dizzy. I'm also quite weak, so my arm hurts quickly with a handjob. I think the comparisons here aren't fair, and maybe the situation of "if he couldn't have sex 5 days once a month" is fair, you've even said you'd be there for him without expectations...
He's being selfish and immature and not fair. He should be trying to understand you're feelings. People act like you're supposed to be 100% thinking about him, but no you are allowed selfish days. I tell my boyfriend that, some days I try and make it 50:50, other days I want to be a bit selfish and get more attention. Other days it can be all about him.
But the idea of a calm and civil discussion is also best as one of the guys mentioned. Bringing up how it made you feel, asking him why, just talking about it. Perhaps counselling is something you two should consider.
Unless you want to, but it should NOT be expected. Sometimes girls libido is increased during their period (@me) and I feel the need to get sexual with my boyfriend but I do not want him anywhere near my vagina, so that pretty much gives me the option of giving him some attention. He shouldn't expect it, he shouldn't even ask for it, but if you want to offer him one because you feel like getting sexual, that's a good clean way to have some sex without your vagina getting involved. Also, maybe he should offer you a little clit massage if he's wanted a blowjob. Make a fair trade
Well someone is a little needy and demanding... Look if you want to give him a Bj then do it if you don't tell him to chill the hell out. I know when Im on my period sometimes I want to have sex to help with the pain and then their are days I don't even want to think about a dick so he can just relax with his demanding self.
Why not eagerly enjoy spending a little time pleasuring him with oral sex. It's an enjoyable pleasurable activity for both of you. Unless you hate it and will never do it. In which case the two of you are perhaps sexually incompatible. Relationships are not battles, wars or zero sum games. It won't lessen you.
Because I'm not feeling well. That's the bottom line. I don't feel good on my period.
I don't see what's unreasonable about that or a handjob. I mean would you rather him jerk off to porn, go have sex with someone else? Which can cause problems, for example I had a girlfriend that didn't want me watching porn cause she looked at it as cheating and I agreed to that on the stipulation that anytime I get horny she needs to relieve it. She obviously agreed and then didn't hold up her end of the bargain which caused me to watch porn and beat off, which caused us to fight, which caused us to break up. I know that sounds dumb but that's my opinion/experience, take it or leave it
Nah he can watch porn whenever he feels like it.
Ahh then he's just being a dick, cause honestly once we bust a nut we stop thinking about it all together and don't care how it happened
Lol. Thank you.
If he feels the need for sex and approaches you like you say then he is either going to masturbate or find someone on the side. No guarantees about him cheating. It does happen quite often when a man is not being sexually satisfied in a relationship. If he does you may and may never know for sure.
If he can't wait 5 days, then he can leave
If he can’t wait 5 day until Her period is over then maybe he needs to be by himself.
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If a guy said to me, he expected me to cook, clean or on demand give him a blowjob regardless if I was on or not... then I'd drop him a bad habit!
Back to topic - There are things you can do whilst you're on your period. Giving a guy a blowjob is definitely one of them but like everything it's a choice and not an expectation.
It's okay for him to want blowjobs, during your period or otherwise, but it's not okay for him to "expect them". Not wanting to have sex for a few days does not obligate you to do anything for him. If he's horny, he can masturbate. Period sex is an option too, if both of you feel comfortable with it. But it's not your responsibility to do anything for him. You do not owe him. Just give him a blowjob if you actually want to.
I always feel icky during my period and so I don't do anything sexual when I'm on it. Sex is about both people enjoying themselves. I wouldn't ask him to do me sexual favors when he's not feeling well.
He's an immature twat. Ask him if he wants it bit off. I have no problem giving head or pleasing my partner even when I got my period. But I would not put up with someone ever telling me that I have too. You have the right to say no whether you have an "excuse" or not.
My ex expected the same thing. It was frustrating to say the least. Especially when you are tired and pissed off anyways. Like really... the last thing I wanted was a dick in my mouth. Blessed is a man who expects nothing; for he will never be disappointed.
If he had a problem getting an erection and you were horny, would you want him to help relieve your sexual tension?
Um. I think that's different. Any type of erectile dysfunction is generally a long term problem. My period lasts 4 days out of a month... he can wait.
You having a period every month is not a long term problem?
No. it's not. First of all it isn't a "problem" it means that I'm a normal, healthy woman. Second of all when a man can't get it up it isn't usually just 4 days out of the month... this is an awful comparison.
Tell that jerk off to jerk off. He can wait. His dick isn't going to explode if he doesn't get any action for a week.
My guy doesn't expect it but he does "encourage" it. Lol. I like to anyway so it's not a problem and he's happy which helps him deal with my other side effects of the period. Are you not into bj's?
I'm not into anything to do with a penis while I'm on my period.
Is he a good boyfriend?
Yeah.
Sweet. Thanks for the meme that has nothing to do with the actual question.
actually it does. But I was (sort of) kidding. This is not an unusual thing. It's been said over and over again that (some) guys expect oral when you're on your period. Thats simply between you and him and your relationship. Good luck, and great question x-o-x-o :)
You tell your selfish, immature boyfriend this:
"God made your arms long enough for a reason. Same with your right hand, so use it."
Besides, after a woman gives birth, Miss Vajajay is decommissioned for a bit so he needs to understand that if he's going to be your husband and father of your kids.
... no children will be exiting this vagina, I can tell you that. But yeah. He can definitely wait 4 days.
Smart young lady...
Does he demand them? Any guy who demands anything won't get shit from me. 5 days isn't too long to wait. If you're not happy to do it you're obviously not sexually compatible.
Yeah. He's not really demanding just gets upset when I won't.
That's super childish. Tell him to get lost!
"won't get shit from me" lol love it
I think he's being stupid. You do all of that when both partners enjoy. Your boyfriend should be trying to make you feel better.
Tell him to suck himself
Nah. We just have period sex. I don't like bjs.
Yeah, @asker, period sex is good.
@abc3643 no
It's actually very good and you will get over your period quicker.
Depends what you want from your relationship.
If you're okay with him saying no to you, no matter how important it is to you, when you ask for stuff and he is also okay with that, then there is no problem.
If you want a relationship where you both do things for each other even when you don't feel like it then you have a problem.
Either way you need to be VERY clear with him about this, talk to him and tell him that you either want to not help each other out, or that you do want to be there for each other.
This is ridiculous
nah, it's just blunt.
You sort of have a point, but you're taking it too far. It's one thing to make an effort to please your partner, even if that means sometimes doing something you don't really feel like doing. It's another thing to be obligated to always do whatever your partner wants every single time. Those scenarios are very different.
I don't expect anything.. But if he pleases you well during the rest of the month, then hey, Why not hook him up?
Because I'm PMSing.
You seem pretty possessive..
How?
he is horrny all the time wow ffs tell him to keep it in his pants for 5 days ughhh i hate that kind of people
towel under your back or go in the shower and have fun. no reason to stop just because there's a bit of blood
it's your life. your body. your decision.
I don't think he has a right to expect sex on any given day. Sounds like he's more concerned about his needs than yours
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