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My boyfriend hit me after I kicked him in the balls by a mistake?
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My boyfriend and I were on his couch kind of fooling around when he started tickling me. I was kicking around my legs (I'm sooo ticklish) and I rammed one of my feet really hard into his balls. Right after that he stopped tickling me and hit me really hard right across my face. I was so astonished and stunned. After like a minute of me just laying there gripping my face he apologized and told me it was just a reflex and he would never hurt me. He told me he would never hurt me back on purpose even if I was beating him up. (Which obviously isn't true) I left and now I'm so confused. 1st of all I have a bruise in the top of jaw and the whole side of my face hurts. So do you think it was just a reflex or he really meant to hurt me? What should I do about it?
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Oh and by the way we have been together for two years. And before this he has been the sweetest guy. He never ever has raised a finger or even yelled at me.
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He just came over today and kept kissing my face. He brought me flowers and chocolates. He was saying sorry every two seconds. I could see the hurt in eyes and I saw that he is so sorry. I still don't know what to do...
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20 34It was reactionary. He meant nothing mean by it. He loves you, it was just a biological thing. If a woman's husband almost dropped their baby by accident, she'd probably shove or hit him in defense of the baby. Same concept, if you think about it. That's where his babies come from. It's a survival reflex to protect the life his body produces.
Leave the guy.
He might have violent tendencies. He might not do it purposefully but moving on in the future there is a chance that whenever he goes into a rage mode or something similar he might hit you out of reflex. I would agree with most people and consider this a red flag.
The guy might be very nice and amazing but when he gets mad, things will go really bad in my opinion. And the fact that it took him a minute to apologize isn't good because either his mind was still out of it and trying to make sense of what happened, or he did it intentionally either which way is not a good sign. With that being said you know him better than anyone else so take this as advice but consider the good and bad before you make your decision.
Well, as long as she doesn't punch him or kick him again, she shouldn't have to worry about it.
I think it was a reflex. I've done this to friends and even my brother without meaning it e.g. a friend jabbed me in the stomach when he was winding me up so I instinctively threw a hard left hook at his head, luckily I missed lol. I didn't mean it and I felt bad afterwards, it's just a reflex. My gf kicked me in the leg the other day and it really hurt, I immediately felt like kicking her back but held myself back.
Plus he might not have known you did it accidentally. Yeah you were kicking already but he might have thought you did it to get him off you.
Well hitting a guy in the balls, apart from being the most painful thing you can do, can also potentially ruin his chances of havign kids. So its a pretty big deal.
I know I feel really bad.
I have never been in a fight and I am a very calm peaceful person but I think I would lash out at anyone who did that, try not to be hard on him, if he is really sorry then it might be best to just accept that if you can. And he needs to get them checked out by a doctor too by the way.
No, he's an abuser. They always start out that way, nice, then comes the abuse, which they will as always sweetly apologize for and justify away and say it won't ever happen again. You did exactly the right thing leaving him. DO NOT GO BACK! THIS ass hole will ruin your life. I've been kicked in the balls before by women, on purpose and by accident, but I've NEVER hit a woman.
Let's just say I've been chronically down voting girls' answers; that type of pain (hitting a dude in the balls "really hard") is VERY high, and what he did was a reaction.
I just say watch him closely from now on...to make sure he doesn't hit u again for something like that.
If he does...then this is now a TREND of him hitting you when aggravated, which would then show he is abusive.
Leave him, he is a hitter. He will do it again.
Actually, he should leave her, she hit him first.
You're ridiculous @ AndyWes
Considering that getting kicked in the groin is mans equivalent to child birth in terms of pain its unbearable iv punched holes in walls because the pain was so extreme. So you can understand his predicament he probably did not mean to hit you per say but something at least to take his mind off of it.
If he thought you did it by accident, he's a scary dude.
If he thought you did it on purpose, he's normal.
He knew I did it by accident. It was pretty obvious.
Then that's kind of an extreme reaction. Was he mad at you for other stuff? Also, with guys, equal pain back is a normal thing. Does he not normally deal with girls?
I've been his girlfriend for two years and he's never hurt me before and no he wasn't mad me so... Maybe it was a reflex.
It's not a reflex. He did it on purpose because he was angry. But he shouldn't have been angry at you for an accident. I'd dump him.
Dangggg. He nailed you right across face? Did you kick him hard? I don't know. But thats too less of reason to dump him.
Yeah he did. And I think I did kick him hard.
Then he just got pissed af since you kicked him hard and did that. Dont dump him, talk him about it and hear his side
His instinct may be towards violence when dealing with pain.
I got hit in the balls once when I was a kid. It's like getting the wind knocked out of me I crouched over and hated it. Hitting you was not right but I can understand him being in a bad mood especially if you kicked him pretty hard. I don't know enough about the situation to say for sure
we are not there to judge the situation but you have to ask yourself whether it is reflex or actual. did he stop and then hit u or when u kick him accidentially he reacted in that way? if it is the former, then please leave him.
He's never hit me before and we've been together for 2 years. He is such a nice guy and I really don't think he would ever try to hurt me. But yeah it was right after I hit him.
i still it unacceptable. some guys are good at concealing their true nature , i am not saying he is one but have to be careful. the only people in this world who can hit me are only my parents, not husband not bf
this is easier said than done but speak to him about it. Tell him how u feel, u need to talk about this so you get a better understanding of each other.
yes it is easier said than done, but really have to be careful. i still find it unacceptable for such behaviour. i am not asking you to break off with him immediately as it is not easy. but do share your concern and be careful and observe
the problem i have hearing this story is that his reflex is going to be a problem in the future. This means every time he gets angry or upset there is a chance he might swing at you as his reflex. That is a bit troublesome. Kangaru2 is right you have to be careful.
I actually think that was a reflex.
It seems too weird that he would hit you in the middle of fooling around even if you did kick his balls.
but then again it is a bit weird that it took him a Minuit to apologize unless he was in severe pain.
Yeah I think that's why he did apologize. He was like grumbling and stuff lol. So u think I should forgive him?
Ofcourse you should, bro here is right.
Yeah i would forgive him but just make sure he doent do that again
That should be a instant reactions as even a little hit on there can really hurt. So if you by mistakenly rammed your feet on his balls that could have been the most painful blow he ever got. May be he is easily tempered person, however, think of what exactly he did there. His anger over came the love even for a second. I mean what if he had a knife in hand? Anyhow, I think you can forgive him for what he did depending on his response to the incidence. In between a girl may do the same thing if guy pressed her boobs in public :) Get over with it but be aware!
It's time now that you show him your own reflexes by packing your things and get the heck out of dodge and never looking back. I'm a man obviously and there has been times when I felt like knocking the crap out of a girl sure. But what stopped me was first respect and second I would have felt worse than just taking the hit and moving on. You also stated you didn't mean to do it on purposes. No man in his right mind enjoys getting hit either. But he shouldn't have hit you back. A bigger man would have just left.
Okay, I have to ask, if a girl hits a guy, why should the man not hit her back? For example, Cary Grant in Father Goose. You should watch it, lmao. He's arguing, insults Leslie Caron, she slaps him, and he slaps her right back. Then she slaps him again, and he slaps her back again. What's wrong with that? As long as you're not attacking someone first.
For the last time it was a mistake.
file a police complaint, and walk away. Sounds more to that action.
You should take your beating like a true woman
Honestly i think it could be both but does hurt so i can understand why if he did do it on purpose
Most men, after getting hit there have a reflex that makes us go for the first thing we see that we can hit. So yep, reflex. You're just lucky he controlled himself enough to slap you instead of punch you. Probably would've hurt a lot more.