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Telling him he has a small penis?
gravygirl Yoda
Guys, has anyone here ever had someone tell them that they had a small penis? If so, what was that like? I imagine it being terrible, but I don't really have any way of knowing. And just to avoid any anger, I would never do this. Girls, have you ever just flat out told someone that they were small? What affect did it have? Were you trying to be cruel? Did you feel bad afterwards? And if anyone is wondering this question is coming from just having witnessed my friend tell her boyfriend and two other couples that he was the smallest guy she'd ever been with. He turned all red and stormed out of the bar. I don't think she was even mad at him, I think she was just drunk. This might have made it worse for him because if everyone thought she was mad we'd be less likely to believe her, but I think most of us think she was telling the truth. I can't believe she did it though.
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I have an update. This is probably unsurprising, but my friend hasn't spoken to her boyfriend since the incident. He hasn't taken her calls or answered his door. She feels terrible, and only kind of remembers the incident. I guess she was really drunk
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Why do you get so few characters to update? Anyway, I was going to say that I haven't asked her if it was true, but from the way she's been talking about it I'm pretty sure it is. So it's not a huge surprise he's so upset.
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In case anyone was curious, they broke up. There was some back and forth, but I don't think things were ever actually good between them since she announced that to everyone. She feels terrible. She told me that it was true, but that she didn't care. Oops.
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11 36My wife and I had made a xxx homevideo. She has a friend that is really pretty and was always visiting. She used to flirt with me a lot. One day she came over and asked to borrow some movies for the weekend. I included our tape in the plastic bag of movies. Well, a few days later she returned the videos to me. She kept glancing at my crotch and had a smile on her face. Finally she said that she saw our tape and watched only a few seconds of it. I acted like I was shocked that it got mixed in he bag. She looked at me and said "your **** is f***in small. Way too small for me. What is it.like 4 inches? And she laughed and said.you must be doing something right because your wife has stayed with you all this time." I was so embarrassed! I never knew that my **** was considered small! None of my girlfriends ever said anything. Then I realized that they had all cheated on me! Suddenly I noticed that my **** was hard in my shorts and she never even knew! Since that time she and I talked a lot on the phone and she always giggles. She showed me her 9 inch dildo and said that is what she needs. I have jacked off in her panties that I took fro her dresser many times since and I think she knew. Now I am turned on when a woman knows that I have a small **** and I enjoy the humiliation.
When life hands you lemons, make lemonade, I guess. Glad it worked out for you
Okay.. does your wife know any of this?
I've never in my life been phased by anything on the internet from beheadings to microwaved turtles until now, literally wtf? What do u accomplish by stealing women's underwear then jizzing on them more to the point what do you do with them afterwards? Jesus Christ do you then wear them or... No actually i dont want to know. I feel sorry for your wife
@Kaio-Blue this is what a crushed self esteem does to a man. look at his username
I have told a guy he was packing small but that was because he is a player and to cocky for me,...player all the way...i know he was playing me so to crush his little ego I told him he is packing small...and man it felt good telling him...normally I would never do that but I felt that needed to know since he thinks he is the sh*t.
The are ways to knock a guy down to size or just wait and life will do it for you. You girls don't understand the disproportionate amount of suffering you inflict on guys by bashung his penis because you don't have one and don't know his life story and how society has wrapped his worth up so much in his anatomy. It may be stupid to you but it is very very real to most guts. He may even be a jerk because he's been taught to overcompensate for feeling worthkess inside. I
thanks, you are the reason he is a player. so all the girls he hurt from then on, its on you.
How small was he? How big is preferable for you?
@cali88
@cali88 as long as you don’t get mad if they insult you back…sure
My ex wife was the first and only 1 of 2 girls to be honest and open about my penis being little. Before that I had convinced myself I was above average even tho I knew inside I wasn't. Looking back I can remember lots of times where a girl laughed under her breath or I over heard girlfriends making jokes with their friends. To answer your question, I wish girls would be more open and honest about it. If a girl lies to me about it now, I don't trust her. I of course emphasize that I want her to never honest because I want to do whatever is needed to satisfy her. I've accepted through the help of my exes that I need to do other things because my size isn't enough by itself. As my ex girlfriend put it,(I'm a good looking guy, even very good looking from what I'm told) it's nature leveling the playing field. So yes, be honest and the level of trust will go up exponentially in your relationship with the guy.
I have always had a runty looking penis when it's flaccid. Really small looking. When it comes to attention it's average sized I guess.
I never wanted to shower in locker rooms, wear tight trunks etc.
I had quite a few women actually laugh at me when they saw it not at attention. They told their friends and so I became the guy with the little dick.
I got so hung up about it that I began to suffer from ED in my 20's. It got so bad that eventually, I just stopped even trying to get intimate with a woman.
I'm in my 50's now. Never had a sex-life. I put the energy into my career, but that is no substitute.
Oh well...
I have been told by MANY girls that I have a small penis. I LOVE being told I'm small! It is easily my biggest turn on by far. I wish my current girlfriend would just admit that I'm the smallest she's ever had, instead of just hinting that it is all the time!
I been I've been told i hv a baby dick... by the same three women I've been in a relationship for at least 3 years... mind im average in width and above average in height... of coarse this was said in the middle of a heated argument where i said some mean things as well... i personally think when a woman says this its part anger and part truth... part anger as in she's trying to hurt me at the moment and part true as she really comparing me to her past experience like she saying i has bigger and better... least now thats how i veiw it... but i admit it still bothers me to this day if i can please the one im with sense she told me a year ago i hv a baby dick... i know i make her come all the time... but it bothers me... the last time she said i replied"i may hv a baby dick but at least its bigger than yours" which i think is the best thing to say bk to a woman to put her in her place... however even though we are still together ill probably end up leaving her for a woman who has more respect and appreciates my size enough not to hurt my core manhood... there's been times when I've been told it was big by other women... once i was told it is the perfect size... maybe i should try to wife a chick that actually looks at it in that aspect because I've learned if a woman had biggee than u... she will never truly respect u as a man in the relationship in more subtle ways then big...
i think you should move on already
A similar scenario happened to me, but it involved my entire high school.I was on swim team and girls would always watch guys, so I started going out with one of the girls, and she told all her friends that I have a tiny penis.as if it wasn't obvious enough when I was wearing a speedo. That got around to the entire school and everyone knew I had a tiny penis. I'm not too worried though, at the time it sorta sucked.
Ouch, I'm sorry that happened to you. You must've hated her after that. I wonder if it's something about swimmers. I remember in high school all the swimmers called one of the guys "Needle" and everyone knew why. Maybe it's the Speedos.
Ok can someone tell me a nice way of telling a guy this... it's not even it's just small it's also a too wet situation so I can kinda blame myself... but yea I don't want to tell him to be mean but for us to come up with a way to make sex more fun and exciting. He is such an amazing guy in every other way but the major lack of intimacy puts an odd damper on the relationship.
How big was he?
I dated a small finger sized penis wimp that was so tiny Icouldnt feel it it was pathetic & horrible it kept fallling out & Icouldnt feel a thing & Itold him & he started crying like a baby sissy wimp & all I could do was laugh Ilet him try a few more times on other occasions but it was just more of the same me laughing & him crying like a girl ! I broke up with him & of course he cried ! I told all of my girlfriends & showed them photos & after we were done laughing til we peed they said they were so sorry for me & hooked me up with a real man with a real mans big dick that keeps me very satisfied not like that little fairy minipenis crybaby sissy wimp douglas t. Gugel that couldn't even be a man he's probably gay now & wearing panties or diapers & crying or something? That poor little sissy crybaby tiny peenie wimp ! LOL sincerely , jenniffer
My ex took it further she blackmailed me into wearing a bra and panty. she had picture of how small i was. she gave me something everyday teling me it will help. found out a yr later it was her moms estrogen supplements and i went from 3.5inches down to 2.5. my chest even ended up havin little breasts.
@tigrtim I hope you charged her legally.
@tigertim are you actually serious. she's a psychopath. you should put her in jail, i hope they rape her in there
When you cough during sex, not only is there a fear of a dick falling out but possibly Jimmy Hoffa's body.
@jenniffer you need therapy and to go to a mental institute
Well my first gf teased me saying I have a babydick. And also her friend who when for the first time meeting her at a pool party, we went in the pool with only underwear, laughed at me saying a have such a tiny penis. How did this make the young me feel? Well at the time I thought I could just let it slide by not affecting me but thats not possible.
. I guess after i fully processed what actually just happened to me I felt emasculated, inadequate, and sexually unconfident constantly. I tried jelqing to be better for my gf which just caused minor nerve damage. Sadly I don't recall one time I had good sex with her over a 2 year relationship. its never been the same since, and I've had no healthy relationship with another girl. What makes things so much worse was I guess she felt bad and lied to me everytime we did it saying how big I was. Then to top it off when we broke up she said "she just already knows what I feel like" in a dissatisfied manner, she was looking for something better I g
I guess. I feel like I've wasted the best years of my life and regret not being with anyone. But thats just what being a man in this ruthless world of nature, the bigger man gets the mate. I've never been open about this for obvious reasons and I just want to know how to have a normal relationship. fuck letting my past affect me like this and ruin my life
p. s. I appreciate anybody who gives to time message me about this. I really wanted to get it in the open off my chest
In all brutal honesty, I attempted suicide last year specifically because my penis is below average and the first (and only) woman I have ever been intimate with broke up with me shortly afterwards. I was 35 when that happened. I didn't even date until my 30s, because I hated my body so much.
I'd be in bad shape. I probably wouldn't show it like this guy but, especially if it were true, I would never be the same. I'd always think Im never pleasing her because of my size and there is nothing I can do, this would lead to me feeling like inferior to her previous lovers, which would destroy all my confidence. A fat boy can lose weight but he can't grow a bigger penis. It is a really mean thing to do, however, the truth is the truth and sometimes it hurts, this is something only a woman can decide for herself. The most suitable characters are selected by females to produce offspring. If a big penis makes her wet and want to have sex, this guy needs to seek elsewhere, ya can't blame her instinct, her behavior yes, but the booze brings out the truth.
I have been told I am small by 3 women and I have been ruined psychologically. When I have sex I always have to think if I am big enough am I really satisfying her is she enjoying sex does she fake it when she isn't in the mood is it because I am not hung I don't get many bj's is it because she thinks I have a baby dick? I am over 6" in length and over 5" in girth. I am 6 ft tall 235 lbs and have very broad shoulders. I feel worthless most days as I hear on tv all the time big penises being worshipped and praised by women, open my email and yep it's another penis pill, cream, or stechting device promised to add inches and keep her happy. I loose sleep, become un-productive at work googling to see if I am normal. I can't take much more of this.
If you do the research you'll find out that 6" is classified as average, not a baby dick and not a horse dick but at least average so don't be hard on yourself.
My wife is the only one to ever see mine outside of an operating room. She unfortunately got her first look by taking it out, erect, while sitting in the car, I had jeans on. I was about 35 pounds overweight at the time. The only other two she had seen were in different scenarios and on guys who were very thin. So, to her mine looked small. She said, "is that it?" I was dumbfounded and just mumbled, "yes". She proceeded to play with it and even a little BJ. I swallowed down the pain. I worked on getting really thin to help the look. It is right in the middle of average, but to this day I think of it as the tiniest penis on earth. That was 18 years ago and it still bothers me when I remember it, so I mostly try to suppress it. I have asked her why she said it, she knows it bothered me, so she said she just wasn't sure I was completely hard or something and claims she really doesn't know what she was thinking. She's stayed 18 years, but I know there's other compelling reasons to do so. She swears the sex is awesome and she has no problems orgasming, but it was a blow to a part of me that I don't think will ever heal. I wish women could get past the man hate (yes, I think a lot of guys deserve that hate, but a lot of us don't) and see that it isn't just making fun of a funny little penis. Right or wrong, from a very young age for some reason, their feelings toward their "manhood" really does become intertwined with how they view their worth as a person. Boy, nobody wishes that weren't so more than me and a lot of other guys, but it is what it is and you just deal with it. So, I expect to get some hateful responses and that's OK, it doesn't change the dynamic of this scenario. And, any guy that ever made you feel bad about any part of your body, I am sincerely sorry. You are beautiful just the way you are. I certainly wish more people could see that about others, men and women. Thanks for reading, I hope this provides some fodder for reflection.
i was in a restaurant full of people with my Ex Girlfriend.
We had a discussion about sex and suddently she tell out loud that I have a small package...
Right after she tell that, some people around were watching me and some girl around were laughing.
Oh god, I remember my body was shaking...
Since then I have some insecurity about this and lost self confidence, when I go out and a gril walk by me I just flee...
i don't know what to do about this :(
Seriously girls, if your Boyfriend have a small penis, don't make him feel mad about this, if you have to tell him so you can work your way for better sex, try to find a way that will not hurt him.
lol what size is considered small just interested. The surveys done for academic reasons that I have found on the interenet shows that the average size is around 5.5 -6.6 inches for most men in this world. Of course that's only the average. Also when you ladies say the guy you been with has a small gun, what size do you prefer? Like you all want a 10 inch or something? If that's true wouldn't that be as ridiculous as us guys demanding all you girls to have D cups? where the average is probably B-C ?
I don't know whether mine is small/large, but considering I use a normal size condom I guess mine's pretty average.
However, if I was that guy in the bar who got insulted for no reason, my immediate come back would be maybe your vagina is just too friggin big, the only reason a guy wants you is to smuggle drugs. lol
Sounds good, but it wouldn't work. Women don't link their worth at an early age to their vaginas. That's why 1. Insulting her vagina in any way is not nearly by a large margin as destructive as fussing a guys penis. Plus, most vaginal problems can be modified, penis size not so much. Never, never, never heard a guy say he was disappointed in sex because of a big 'gina. 2. Any attempt to come back in this scenario feeds the perception you agree with your inadequacy and strengthens womens insults.
Sorry, should have been "dissing " not "fussing". Also, as women don't comprehend the link between your penis and your worth as a person (heck, most guys don't know either and are confused why it hurts so much), they feel free to toss this insult around and tell us, just get over it. I've said before, hitting most guys here ellicits very similar emotional effects as rape. It instills self hate, shame, anger, feeling violated, ultimate intimacy problems depression low self esteem. Sorry but true
size separates the men from the boys...
The reason most women don't come from intercourse is because (1) the tool isn't big enough (2) he's not using it right (3) it doesn't last long enough. I've got a good size, experience and stamina and its never been a problem for my women.
Actually the reason most women don't come is because they have low emotional intelligence. Do the research.
You really are an ass and if you bad any common sense you'd realize that.
@darkknight1x You're stupid.
Women want a nice sausage not a little pickel d*ck. No surpise they broke up. She back with the ex because she got aDickted and wanted that old thing back.
Your comment here, to me suggests that you are somewhat immature. You lack compassion and you enjoy to hurt people. I know how this... sorry to say "lame" insults can influence a mans ego and most definitely scar him for life. I have seen it from a close friend of mine. This guys is a true family man very caring. His wife would say he has a small or short package whenever she is mad at him. To her its only word... right? Wrong!! It scarred him so badly that he totally lost any sense of self confidence. So you are angry... so you're p*ssed off... Think before you say something especially if its your loved one. The person you fell in love with may be hurting without you really ever knowing. If you're not mature enough to be in a relationship and to deal with issues respectfully then stay single.. but dont break someone down for your revenge or enjoyment. Some will take this lightly and and may even laugh about this... its ok, do as you see fit. Someday you might understand
to be completely honest ... I don't blame the guy... that's is very embarrassing to the guy. I might have reacted the same way. its bad enough he's got a small penis, but to have your own girlfriend announce that to other friends must be humiliating. were other people in the group you were with still associate with him?
I've really only seen two dicks. (My bf's and one of my past bf's who just kinda pulled it out out of nowhere to show me...) My bf's isn't small but the past bf's was. I told him he had a small penis when I caught him cheating on me. But if I was with a guy as he had a small penis and he was faithful and a good bf, I wouldn't tell him. It's not his fault.
Actually, I think I can condone this insult for a guy who habitually cheats as this kind of guy is vile to me. Sadly though, these guys won't care--they obviously aren't shy about their size if they throw it around and they obviously don't care what women say or feel. Also, they know the insult is said in anger so it doesn't mean the same. Its us guys that love and want to please our women that get devastated when our size is ridiculed and made a joke.
What is too small for you?