Why do guys like to rape?

Now hear me out, I'm not saying all guys are rapists. Rather, if you look at medieval times, it was very common for men to rape and plunder when they took over a city or something. It's always the two things: rape and plunder. I can understand the plunder... you see all this stuff ready to be stolen and you just won the city so you're like hell why not... but the rape? what exactly is it that would make a guy sustain a boner while he can see a girl crying as he forces himself inside her? I just... I can't comprehend that. And I feel like in the modern age, while most guys don't run around raping and plundering, I *don't* think it's because men have evolved to become more civil, but rather because it is not socially accepted. Thoughts?
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  • Great question! The "experts" say that rape is about power and not sex or sexual stimulation. In many cases I agree completely with that. You spoke of medieval times... why so long ago? Read about what is going on in third world countries, especially Africa, even now.

    But is not just the people, it is the situation. You can read about soldiers thrown into combat doing things that you can surely hope they would never do normally. Even American troops sent to the Middle East.

    Part of the psych in fighting enemies is to believe your enemy is somehow less than you, even the non-combatants. Another part is instilling fear in them. Killing, plundering, raping, etc are all parts of these.

    In non-combat situations, it is still often about power, and sometimes about hate (of women). But I think current psychology overlooks the power of sexual excitement. A guy gets much more singularly focused and powerfully driven when sexually stimulated. When he reaches the point of being ready to have an orgasm, he is not rational and not easily dissuaded from his goal (orgasm). This is where you get a lot of date rapes (girl decides to say no once the guy has passed the "line").

    About your final thoughts that men haven't evolved rather it is not societally accepted, I think that is close, but it is more that men are in the "civilized" frame of mind, rather than the "combat"frame of mind. Guys that would never think of raping someone find themselves in combat and its attitudes and end up raping. Then there are countries that have a lot of strife and men are almost always in the combat frame of mind.

    • What about Africa? My friend is African and she goes there regularly and she’s always been safe. But lives in the uk and has been sexually assaulted multiple times there

  • Okay so my cousin was in a Fraternity. This girl would frequent their parties and flirt with him. She said she wanted to spend the night at the house after a party with him. Both were intoxicated. There were witnesses to her saying that she wished to stay there for the purpose of them two having sex. In the morning she apparently regretted what they did and was concerned that no contraception was used. What should she have done? Gotten a pregnancy test and STD panel. What did she instead do? Went to the police and filed a rape report. Little Catholic girl couldn't let mommy and daddy see that she was actually a little party girl who liked the penis. So instead she ruined my cousins life. He was arrested, kicked out of school and held in jail for several months. Then out of the blue the girl came forward and said that she had been lying the whole time and in fact it was consentual and nothing bad had come of it. What's my cousins recourse now? Nothing. He cannot counter-charge, or press a civil suit, nothing. Just grin and bear. Granted he has been cleared of his charges, it's still a blemish for him on his record. I myself have sisters and a mother and was raised to respect women of all kinds. Young to old. No man should ever degrade a woman verbally or especially physically. Rape is a psychological power move for some men. It's a divine and conquer and allows instant sexual gratification. You can't run around raping people today due to physical evidence like DNA kits. The laws do need to change though with regards to the man being guilty before innocent.

    • Your cousin is an idiot for getting that drunk, and I think the situation is partially his fault because he was stupid enough to get that drunk, but I still pity him.

    • Wait, so it's my cousins fault for getting drunk? What about her? She was just as drunk and said that she was staying over. See this is the problem.

    • Both males and females need to take some level of responsibility for their actions. For instance, common sense says don't get drunk around a bunch of strangers because you don't know what could happen. Common sense ALSO says to not hook up with a drunk female. Of course she may regret it, plenty of people regret ONS. When alcohol is involved it makes it that much easier to cry rape though That said, she should be punished

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  • Rape isn't about sex or desire it's about power and its a heinous way of men executing their power over both females and males. For instance in medieval times what's worse than losing a battle having your wife or daughters raped it's just humiliation on top of the defeat for everyone involved. As for today we teach women how NOT to get raped instead of telling boys not to rape, period. As a girl you know we are taught not to be alone, not to set our drinks down, not to be out after dark it's like condoning rape in a way and saying this is how you can avoid being raped but if you don't listen you'll def. get raped oh well should have listened and not have been out alone! Rather than telling men to control themselves or how wrong it is or something.

    • As you know...sex is an "evil" topic to be brought up in the school system. That's why abstinence is foolishly taught in schools.

  • That's a really difficult question to answer. I don't know why some cultures or groups did or do participate in the typical "rape and plunder" behavior, or what kind of morals and thoughts go into it. It's a pretty weird and scary thing.

    I do know that now, in modern society, men (and women) who rape are not in a psychological state to be bothered by morals or the knowledge that they are hurting someone. It's not usually about pleasure and desire so much as power or other abnormal urges.

  • I agree with rape being about power and dominance. But I also know of people being raped for 'revenge'.

    But you have to remember, in medieval times women weren't considered 'worthy' of man. They where seen as objects which where even sold to other men. So raping a women wasn't seen as being bad, but merely a man taking what he thinks belongs to him. This type of thing is still seen in third world countries, and in sex/slave rings that are present within every countries shadow world.

  • Rape during times of war may have originally been just a by-product of war (i.e. men having no sexual contact for sometimes years), but it has evolved into an intentional military tactic, used to control, fragment, humiliate, and instill fear into enemy communities. It's often used in ethnic wars, where the goal is to impregnate the women so that they will give birth to children with enemy genes.

    Here's an interesting article on the topic that goes into more detail: link

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  • There's no one simple answer.

    Partly it's an ego thing, they like the idea that nothing can hold back their masculine instincts, that they can have any woman they like.

    Partly it's a misogyny thing, they've been rejected or screwed over by women in the past so they're taking out their frustration on someone vulnerable.

    Partly it's a dominant thing, they enjoy the sensation of control.

    Partly it's frustration that no matter how hard they try, they'll never have a chance with particularly attractive girls, so they're righting the unfairness of it all.

    I like being dominant so I can understand certain aspects of the behavior , but I could never do anything along those lines without the girl ultimately being in control or loving every second of it.

    I think men are more civil these days, with more enlightened ideas towards gender politics and better education - but ultimately some men just can't think beyond the end of their d***s.

  • I've honestly wondered the same question. I've had a few female friends who on multiple occasions had guys try to force themselves up them. Not necessarily rape, but where very aggressive about trying to have sex with them or at least touch them and things like that.

    I just don't see why you would want to have sex with someone who clearly doesn't want anything to do with you. How can it be good when you have to force your way into doing it. Plus I morally can't do that to a girl.

    I think some guys just have really aggressive personalities combined with giant sex drives. Basically its like anyone who commits a crime, they know its wrong, they just don't care about the ramifications or the feelings of the victim.

    I also assure women who have been victims in some way, that the majority of men don't do this kind of stuff. Its like .00001% of men who try to rape girls or molest them.

    • If I raped a girl, I would have to kill myself not to go to jail. Nobody wants to go to jail. I am trying to stand not having sex untill the day I die. But it sucks that I can never have sex.

  • Guys rape for a number of reasons:

    1. They can't get access to sex elsewhere. Many rapists have poor social skills and aren't able to attract and turn on a girl through normal interactions. Desperate for sex, they take the final plunge.

    2. Some men do it for revenge, say on an ex-gf. It could be about the sex, but it also could be about getting even.

    3. Some men are mentally ill, and it causes a number of violent behaviors, sometimes, including rape.

    There is always a shortage of women who want to have sex versus the number of men who want sex. A good number of men go without sex involuntarily, and do not rape. These guys turn to p*rn and furious masturbation. A number of the remaining men rape women to get sexual release.

  • Rape is not a completely sexual act. It's an act of dominance. By raping a woman, a man exerts control and power when he can restrain someone who is not as strong as he is.

  • Rape is not about sex; it's about power. I guess some guys are turned on by treating a woman as if she's prey; that's why squirming and screaming won't help; it'll only reinforce his predator fetish or whatever.

  • As far as the plundering and raping back then it was more of a power/ humiliation thing. That's why during wars some male POW's get raped, it humiliates them. There's a statistic that says even now if a man does rape a woman it's rarely for sexual gratification apparently.

  • the rape is part of the total domination or humiliation of the town or city or country just conquered. plus most of the males in the loser category would be dead and thus nature provides the means to contine the species. in many animal species the rivals are killed which brings the female into estrus. the stronger or winners will reproduce to strenghthen the race or species. this not only relating to men. there are many instaces of female rape but seldom fully proscecuted.

  • Well you have to put yourself in their shoes. You're laying siege to a city, you've been away from your woman for literally years. Boiling oil, rocks, and all kinds of sh*t was thrown at you while you tried to get in. Your comrads died gruesome deaths. Would you really give a f*** about your enemies women? Probably not. And that was just normal back then. This wasn't 'oh I'm going to shoot you', more like big f***ing ax in your face, gruesome intimate brutal sh*t. People didn't listen to emo, or talk about their feelings. This was just how stuff was done. Men were rough. Women were rough. Children were just mini adults. And it was also part of how you'd integrate conquered territory. The soldiers would grab themselves some local woman breed away the other group's identity. That way you wouldn't still be fighting 50 years later. It was like the bread and butter of rape - rage, domination, raw lust. If you don't understand rape in the setting of conquest you really aren't a critical thinker.

    • Not to mention as a commander you kinda had to promise the troops a reward. Otherwise you'd have a hard time keeping the army together. Plunder isn't instant gratification quite like ... the women are.

  • I've heard somewhere that rape is more about power and dominance rather than sex itself. Humans are animals, so taking over a city is like conquering the females of the opposite tribe, hence raping in these terms is 'natural', i.e. the new group spreading new DNA to over power the group being taken over. Sex is the most primitive thing, it is related to the oldest part of the brain, sometimes referred to as the reptile part, hence behavior associated to it is more primal and instinctive. That's why in my view it is also true that no matter how much women deny it, they are INDEED viscerally attracted to dominant a**holes. I find this sad, yet it seems true. That's why rape is a rather common fantasy amongst girls also, I guess, it's something imprinted in the brains since who knows when. I've read of some studies which report that the groups of humans who have less problemns with mating are criminals, police and a third one which I can't remember. The same study reports instead the more intellectualized groups of society as the ones having more difficulties with mating.

  • Sex is like food to us, some guys will steal food if they are hungry.

    Have yo notice how you can't even think right until you eat if you are starving? Well, the same thing with sex, we men are wired to want to feel that femenine energy around us since we are born, we needed it to cope with ourselves.

    If we don't have access to that femenine energy, we go nuts.

    Have you notice how guys that don't get laid are creepy? Well, if you get them laid they become normal all of the sudden, that's how bad this is.

    Nature designed us that way so we can really find ways to reproduce, this impulse control our thoughts and actions at so many levels.

    To me it seems that's probably one of the reasons we evolved imagination, so we can survive in times when females are not around, we can imagine and masturbate.

    This particular piece of evolution is what allows us to have the kind of society we have today, and all the art and amazing technology you see around us, an accident of nature that made us a bit smarter.

    We then obviously inherited it to females too, but it was "EVE" that tempt us into getting that apple.

    Of course many guys that are hungry will just work the land and get the food that way, But if you have been travelling for many miles and all of the sudden you see a nicely cook steak, what are you going to do?

    I'm not trying to be derogatory but those are the facts.

    • I don't know why this got so many down votes...the whole comparison between hunger and male sex drive was really enlightening.

    • People don't like to hear the truth

  • I think that regarding conquering tribes and cities in medieval times, rape was mostly a tactic of intimidation and domination. Make the enemies feel weak and useless. Plus it was a way for the warriors to exert their domination and their brainwashed ways of despising the enemy and making them pay. That's my theory.

    That being said, I would find it very difficult to stay aroused if my partner isn't very aroused herself. So the mind of a rapist must be pretty sick and twisted.

  • The paradigm you say of is one that I've thought of in the future and may have to do with racial tensions and power.

    The armies going into the city are victorious, and victory has a very profound symptom on men, at least the stupid ones.

    It also has to do with power, the victorious army, owns the city and everything in it, including the people. The rapes happened as a sort of punishment, trophy taking.

    But there's more to this. I see it somewhat as the lion pride killing a baby hog. You might feel bad for the hog, but the lions certainly don't. They do feel bad though when one of their own cubs has been killed. So it was in human settlements in the older times.

    Of course we could say that not all the men in the armies went on rampages, but since their armies were made of young and immature soldiers, the great majority would.

    In cases in the ancient times, where women where fighting as well, which did happen, the same results where visible. Even during the second world war, it was not uncommon for women in the high ranks of the German war machine to use their positions for their own "pleasures". Even during the balkan crisis during the 90's there was a story about a female regiment that went into a Muslim village ordered all the men to get naked and then ordered some of the younger girls of the village to get naked in front of them. The warning was that any man caught getting an erection would be severely punished.

    Power is what causes these things to happen, power and hormones.

    • really I thnk all men would hv been punished lol

  • It's not about liking rape. It's about getting sex. They know you wouldn't consent so they have sex with you anyway. Then it's rape.

  • As for rape hundreds of years ago the better question is why wouldn't you. If me and my friends just got done murdering an entire village and burning it to the ground of course id rape every girl and woman I could get ahold of, no one is going to stop me.

    • My question is how do guys find forcing themselves on someone enjoyable?

    • Power and free sex.There's not much to it.

    • Power has nothing to do with it. It is about being desperate to touch a woman's body. By the way is touching considered a rape? Like trying to touch a woman's boobs?

  • Because of the patriarchal society.

  • well because rape is sex, and perhaps just as they are taking the goods stolen as trophie, they are also "stealing" sex and taking it as a trophie. I don't understand how you can understand stealing, but not rape. just like I explained above, in adittion I would say that a guy has to do most of the work to get laid, so maybe they just put in as much work into the conquest of the town

    you are right in the last sentence.

  • Men were raped too back in those days when the enemy would plunder the villages not just the women. Especially in ancient rome.

  • It's a lot easier for a guy to get off sexually than a woman. If you keep sliding your weiner in and out of her, eventually you're going to get to a point where you have to orgasm. And since they were taking over cities, it was probably an extended feeling of total domination and power.

    • Weiner...