Why do guys say small boobs don't matter?

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They all say small boobs don't really matter, they treat insecure women like it's a crime to be insecure and like they're stupid and vain, and that they shouldn't worry about such stupid things. But then you hear those same guys say that big breasts are awesome, that they're a plus, "check out those t*ts", "I'd motorboat those!", "more than a handful is a waste, but I like being wasteful", etc. To me that just says that big breasts ARE better for guys, and it's not that size doesn't matter but it's what they can get.I don't want people to trash big breasts (before any busty woman feels like I'm fishing for compliments or something). But it IS tough. Nobody can't deny that society does have a very strong message that bigger boobs are sexier! Otherwise, there wouldn't be as many enhancements, and there would be no need for push up bras and padded bras, chicken fillets, etc. I don't see half as many busty women feeling unsexy because of their boobs, usually their complaints have more to do with back pain, or too much attention (which also confirms they're sexier). And no, this isn't like penis size, because the penis isn't as "out there" as breasts are and women can't see through guys' pants to see your actual size. And for the record, no, bigger isn't better, that's just a myth invented by p*rnographers.So basically, why do guys lie about this? If big breasts are considered a plus, and small breasts aren't, then that means big breasts ARE indeed better.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't give a damn what size her boobs are. I could care less if they are A or if they are DD. I would actually prefer the A. But hey, I'm an ass guy. So I really could care less how big or small someones boobs are. As long as they have a nice ass. And a big ass doesn't = a nice ass. A nice ass is based on how it feels when I grab it. Some big asses look nice, some tiny, or as some girls say no ass, can look nice.

As to say big breast are better for the rest of men. Depends on how you define better. Better as in, eye candy. No sh*t. Having a guy with a flat chest, and a guy with a cut chest. Obviously the cut guy is going to be more gawked at. Does it mean that it's better. No, it just means they are being used for eye candy.And eye candy and preference to what you want in a person are two different things. Some men and even some women, would rather not date a person who they would view as being eye candy. I've been with girls who have ranged from A to DD. and honestly, the one that turned me on the most when we were fooling around was the A. So, don't think that men lie. And bigger doesn't = better. You're not a guy, that is why you are on here asking. So don't go and make crazy accusations. And when we tell you what we really think you tell us that we are lying based off of a pass experience you might have had with another guy. Whom if he was lying, it was to make you feel better so you don't feel insecure. Basically he is looking out for your feelings, but you have such a pessimistic view on this that you refuse to give a sh*t and think that he must be lying because society tells us that all men like big boobs, and that guys would rather be with a bigger boobed women than a smaller one, when really, that has never determined if a guy will date a girl or not. Can having big boobs help a guy be interested sure, but can having small boobs also help a guy be interested. yes, because we all have our own preference. You say you like 5-6 inch d***s. While other girls like 8-9, some other girls like 4-5 inches. And you want to say society says big boobs are better. Society also tells guys big d*** is better, regardless if that is true or not. It's all about personal preference. While, sure women can't see the package of a man with clothes on, but when clothes are off it becomes even more obvious. Also, wouldn't you rather have a guy like you for who you are and actually look at your face, then him just wanting to titty f*** you and when you talk his eyes are staring at your chest? I understand that you want bigger boobs. But by all means, just a forewarning. Never, ever get breast implants. you're breast are fine the size they are.. Seriously stop worrying about it. I know easier said than done, but seriously stop. Being yourself and being confident with your own body will be a million times more attractive than the size of your boobs. Regardless if they are A or if they are D. or bigger. Doesn't matter just be confident in your own body. :)

FlightAuror2 · Accepted Answer

Small boobs don't matter for me, why? Because I care more about the person above the breast-line than how far out or how saggy a pair of nipples are... I'm not a fan of large breasts, especially if they're fake, it's not like there's anything special about large breasts... Big breasts, like wide hips, are supposed to signify fertility, which is "technically" what our minds (well, the one below the belt) search for.

I'm not sure what media you've been paying attention to, but most of what I've seen lately has been around the B/A range, occasionally Cs. My ex felt unsexy with a pair of 34Cs, she wanted smaller breasts. She didn't complain about being noticed or back problems, she just wanted to be less womanly and more androgenous.

And you're right, this isn't like penis size, at least breast size is out there, it's "judged" early on in a relationship, unlike penis size which could be kind of like, "Oh hey, you're a cool dude, but, this isn't going to work."

Their shape is the most important factor IMO...regardless of size, a sh*tty shape will never overturn a beautifully natural round pair.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

not all guys like them. several guys on here have said they prefer smaller breasts because they think big ones are ugly, they sag or will get saggy latter in life, anything more than a handful is wasteful, etc. so rest assured babe that there are guys who like the really perky, small breasts. even my best friend wants a boob reduction to a B cup because she likes the way clothes fall on small breasted frames. I see her point there. smaller boobed girls can get away with wearing certain things and look "artsy" or "elegant" in them, but when a bustier girl wears the same thing it will be judged as "slutty" or "pornographic." don't ask me how I know. >.>

personally, I love my big t*ts. I think theyre awesome. I don't care if they aren't as perky as A cups or that they'll sag when I get older. who gives a sh*t really? if any guy overlooks me because he thinks my t*ts will sag and he just doest like that then its chill. that's not my type anyway so we're good. lol you should feel the same if a guy sees your boobs as the main thing and doesn't want you because of that. move on because just like I know tons of guys would love to play with mine, you should know that a lot of guys like your perky twins too. learn to love them. :)

plus, some guys like really petite frames, like small girls with tight small butts and small hips. I don't know how you're shaped but...i think you're more likely to find a girl who has these traits with small boobs than you are to find a naturally busty girl with these traits. I've seen it happen, don't get me wrong, but a lot of girls I see with naturally big boobs are curvy and have wider hips and rounder butts. I'm that way.

i think what the guys are saying is that even if they individually like big breasts, they aren't the main focus. we ALL have physical ideals and preferences. However, most of us have to compromise on something. you may prefer a guy be taller, with a certain color eyes, a certain kind of d***, thin or built, whos funny, intelligent, witty, a great musician, a nerdy type, etc. but the guy you like may not have all those things at once. in fact, its likely that he wont. so you may have things that are bonuses, but they don't matter to you as much as other things you focus on that REALLY matter more to you. some guys don't actually have a preference on boobs. there are things about guys that I don't have preferences on either.

im into chicks and I love big boobs. I can't even lie, I think theyre f***ing sexy. small ones are hot too though, especially if they have big nips. lol I love all boobs. yay t*ts?! :D

venividivici · Accepted Answer

who cares about boobs anyway? damn would it be depressing if that's the only ting that attracts men.

the only cool thin about boobs is that they make your waist look smaller ;)

boobs and butts make dresses look great, who cares what guys think! lol

ErikaResponding · Accepted Answer

men don't like women to be insecure because they find that to be an even bigger turn off than disappointing breast size. Basically, act like you do got big ones and I doubt anyone will complain that they aren't.

ArtistBboy · Answer

Would you really want all that extra attention from perverts? I'm sure big breasted women are chased and chased, both online and in person. And yeah they may get more genuine attention too but I'm only talking about the guys saying: "Wow look at that sexy bitch I should f*** her tonight" or "I just wanna smother my junk in her boobs"..

Personally, I think you should focus less on the traits you have problems with and more on the traits you have "bonuses" in. If that doesn't work for you then I challenge you to try the 4 agreements (www.toltecspirit.com); for 30 days log on, read the site, and implement one thing each day from that site. By the end of the month you'll see significant increase in your confidence.

Hope it helps but honestly -> I don't like big boobs. I like perky boobs (aka a handful)

~ ArtistBBoy

MrOracle · Answer

For sure, for some men, big breasts *are* important. And for others, SMALL breasts are *preferred*. And still other men are almost indifferent to breasts either way, preferring butts or legs or whatever.

Big breasts are often part of a kind of male fantasy, or imagined ideal that many men have, in much the same way that many people imagine what their lives would be like if they won millions of dollars in the Lotto. The point being that it has little to do with their actual, real lives.

As I said, there are many men who prefer smaller breasts, and certainly, a big number who prefer NATURAL breasts over implants of any size.

For myself, SHAPE is far more important than size. I've seen some absolutely fantastic AA and B cup breasts, and some nasty looking DDs, many of them being implants.

Even if you had natural D-cups, you'd still find something about yourself that you didn't like, and there would be some men who agreed (that they didn't like it), and others that DID like it, and many who wouldn't care either way.

No one is perfect, and guys (or girls) who don't like you because your boobs aren't big enough are immature and shallow, and not worth your time anyway.

stercor · Answer

Whoa!

You've made a giant inference here.

Yes, nice boobs get the looks, but that's only one dimension of a person.

``We attract hearts by the qualities we display; we retain them by the qualities we possess.''

peace-love-couture · Answer

Ok, then if you've come to this conclusion, what is the point of this post? To rant?

Mine are big but I rather they be perky, but they aren't. I dislike them because of that.I'd much rather be a C than a D(which I am now)

TheGoodTheBadTheHOT · Answer

You've got it all wrong, it's not that small breasts are bad, it's just that big ones are a bonus.

xBurningSilence · Answer

Im the minority in this argument but in all honesty I prefer smaller B-C cup breasts. Anything bigger is frankly gross and a turn off imho.

zdagger · Answer

Hate to break it to you, but you are wrong, there are more of us out there than you think. Your wrong because small breasts ARE important, and they are much better than big ones.

The media lies, and the sexiest actresses are Keira Knightley, Milla Jovovich, and Kate Hudson.

Woodchuck · Answer

Sounds like you've been hurt bad recently and are venting. Also sounds like you've made up your mind that all guys want bigger boobs than what you have. You've gotten a big sampling of people here most of whom feel like I do, small to average is just as good, if not better than, big ones. But you still insist we want big ones. I used to do this with girls on penis size--i mean, come on, she actually PREFERS average OVER big--obviously she's a liar! It pisses a lot of girls off and now I'm more inclined to accept they aren't lying. You need to do the same. I'm sorry you are hurt, but don't let 1 or 2  immature guys dictate the rest of your life.

dave216 · Answer

You are stupid, vain, and insecure. Sorry, your words, but they fit. I rather resent that you think all men only have one preference. Why do you think that? Big breasts probably are preferred by more men than small ones, but there are a lot of us that prefer small. Especially those of us that have spent a good deal of time with a big breasted woman. After she rolls over in bed and smacks a guy across the face with10 pounds of tit in the middle of the night, or I roll over and put an elbow on one those big things that reach half way across a king size bed and she bitchslaps me for doing it, they begin to lose their luster.

Take my word for it, I have worked with big ones and small ones, and I will take the small every time.

AnonymousDude · Answer

Yes, bigger boobs are better, but there's a catch.

they aren't that much better, hell, boobs are awesome, if they are big, well cool, if they arent, you know I'm still damn happy to have them around and are far from any dealbreaker.

ItalianBro · Answer

face > butt > boobs

Most guys don't think ahead but when I pick out my fruit I try to consider what they will look like down the road. Its obvious that the bigger boobs will sag and just look stupid later in life.

105Guitarist · Answer

i personally like smaller breasts compared to bigger ones. in fact, I am kind of disgusted by big ones. but a lot of guys like big breasts and I don't quite understand it. to me there is something a little sexier about a curvy girl with small to medium breasts in a tank top. it is a personal preference, but I think that women with bigger breasts have ego's just as big and that makes them less attractive( at least to me). women with smaller breasts usually have fun, honest, personalities and (yes personality makes a big difference to girls attractiveness) that makes me even more attracted.

Longshot · Answer

Bigger boobs may be more noticeable and may attract more looks, but in the end it's not going to make the relationship.

DaveMicharl69 · Answer

OK, guys will be guys & notice when a girl is big in the chest, but most of them honestly don't care. In fact, the older I get, the less I even pay attention. My BFF is an A cup & would like to be bigger, but I think she's beautiful & perfect already. I agree society gives the message that bigger is better, but there are a lot of us that don't agree...

john5246 · Answer

I prefer B or C cups but I would never hold against a girl that I like if her t*ts were bigger than that. I don't have a problem with small t*ts, I'm going to suck on them regardless, it really doesn't matter.

antics333 · Answer

I can't help wonder if a guy who says he "prefers" B cup breasts on a woman is either lying to get you in bed, doesn't know the measurement ratio properly, thinks lowly of himself, or is just flat out gay. Rarey is this true, I believe. It's genetic, you might say, for men to adore large breasts. Yes, bigger is sexier -- no doubt about it. I'll admit that openly, and have done so throughout these boards. I won't bullchet you about that.

drummer70 · Answer

I prefer small breasts myself.  My fiancee has AA cups with nice long, sensitive nipples.  They are truly the sexiest breasts I've ever seen or touched.  The fact is, some guys like big breasts and some like them small.  The bottom line is it really shouldn't matter enough to make much of a difference.  If my fiancee had large breasts, I wouldn't love her any less than I do now even though I love them small.  You'll find that most guys DO prefer small, natural breasts over big fake breasts.  I find implants to be hideous...

maverick4 · Answer

I have come across a few girls with small breasts but every time I was pleasantly surprised at how beautiful the rest of her body was, usually better than a big breasted girl. So, for me, girls with small boobs rock  because they usually have beautiful faces, ass and legs. My experience here.

0ddjob · Answer

I say it because they don't matter to me. I can't help you with what the other guys do or say.

MikeVick4MVP · Answer

whay do you think kind of has the right idea but not really

if you have small boobs then your ass should cover up and vice versa although boobs don' really matter as long as their no misquito bite boobs lol

Why do guys say small boobs don't matter?

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