It's very easy for us girls to compare ourselves to the images of perfection that we are bombarded with. We've all be brought up looking at the pictures in magazines that are of women who are neither real or possible for most of us to emulate. The amount of photo shopping and retouching in those pics is insane. A friend of mine was in Playboy and we laughed ourselves silly when we saw the pictures. She explained how much was real and how much was added or taken away!
The biggest problem you have seems to be that you, like the rest of us, compare ourselves to perfection. I've become much happier, much more confident and more sexually expressive over the years as I've learned that men neither expect or seek absolute perfection. They know damn well that they will never get with the girl on the cover of Victoria's Secret or the SI swimsuit edition. The lingerie pictures are just basically soft porn to your guy - he probably figures that since they have some clothing on you will be less mad when you catch him looking at them. And porn, for the vast majority of men is just a fantasy that they actually have no interest in. I mean really, how many guys would really want to be with a girl who takes a dozen d***s at a time and just hangs out taking facials all day?
If you really think you would feel better if he watched porn, get some, bring it home and watch it with him! Like most men, he will probably watch a bit and then turn his thoughts to you - the real, imperfect, awesome girl. If it's about the lingerie, get some, wear it just for him and see what happens. He's not going to look at you all dressed up and looking hot and go, "Well, Bambi from Thongs R Us looked better in that outfit!" He'll just look at your real, imperfect, awesome bod and love every minute of it.
I've said this to many women - it's time we just got over the perfection need - it will never happen and guys know it. Besides - ever seen a dude who's perfect?
Didn't think so.1 0 0 0I know, it's just I've read scientists have made many studies which have proven that after looking at pictures of highly attractive women, men subconsciously find their girlfriends less attractive.
I wonder about those studies. Do you think they ever did them on women? I suspect we would subconsciously feel the same way. The point is that the subconscious acts for a little while and then the conscious kicks in an reminds us all that the perfection just ain't real!
"Viewing pictures of attractive women weakens their commitment to their mates. Men rate themselves as being less in love with their partner after looking at Playboy centerfolds than they did before seeing the pictures of beautiful women."
He's a great guy overall! HOW IN THE WORLD YOU GONNA SAY THAT, WHEN HE TREATS YOU THIS WAY? AND MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE SHIT. if I waer you I would start looking at other guys infront of him, with nice sexy body/tall/nice skin color/ & sexy hair
and ask him how he feel NOW? his a f***ing ass hole for doing this to you.
I would dump his ass right away.
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It's disrespectful, especially to your girlfriend or wife. When I was dating, I always glanced every once in a while, but I was happy. I never felt the need to look at other women or find myself snooping at playboys or magazines. I know that sounds cliche, but it's the truth. I remember once even my ex would jokingly ask me if I thought some girl was pretty, usually someone passing by, and I was honest in my answer. We had a good understanding that I was only hot for her. And that's how I feel all healthy relationships should be. So your boyfriend, needs to learn some manners. He's hurting and making you feel less attractive. He needs to understand that and listen to you.
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0 1For me, after coming home from work where I only see chicks with tiny boobs and small ass and ugly or average face(or the opposite: huge 300lbs body with ugly ass wrinkles), it's nice to know that there are also beautiful women out there.
0 0 1 1Did you just call me ugly?
No, you mentioned it yourself
Do you think your girlfriend is ugly?
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