Am I a bad person for breaking up with my boyfriend because he was bad at sex?

yeah pretty bad too
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  • It depends on whether he was making a real effort to improve, or whether he didn't care and made no effort to improve. If the former, then, yeah, you are kind of a bad person. If the latter, then good for you.

    Am I a bad person for breaking up with my boyfriend because he was bad at sex?

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  • There's info I don't know about involving this between you two but a relationship is involved greatly about working together in bed. The more you have sex with that person, the more you know each other, and in return each time sex gets better. Even if your partner is bad at sex, you can work together to try to improve, and overtime it should get better.

    If you're incompatible with each other then the opposite will happen, which sounds like what might have happened. Doing things in bed that are turnoffs to you or not much effort from your partner.

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  • depends. did you communicate with him and take steps to try to make it better?

  • Obviously there must have been a huge lack of communication between you.

    • Oh and would you please have some common courtesy in at least making some replies... Thank you.

    • Thank you for the MHGirl.

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  • Sex matters its very important to long lasting health relationship... hell NO you are not wrong.

  • Look, if sex is one of your priorities for choosing a partner then you be you.

    I'm assuming he was bad at everything and wasn't willing to learn.

    If he was getting the job done you would be releasing Oxytocin with each orgasm and that would be bonding you to him.

    There are biological reasons why you are willing to kick him to the curb. It's interesting that evolution built in a mechanism that makes women bond to partners that take care of those needs.

  • Depends, if you tried to help him by saying what you liked and he just ignored you and didn't try, then totally no bad in putting yourself first, you're just not compatible physically.

    If you didn't try and help him get better and this is dropped after the first try, then a little bit, but still up to you if you want to take that time or not.

  • You are not a bad person. Was there any way you could have helped him out and taught him how to improve? What was he doing wrong? It is ok to talk about sex after all on what we like and dislike. Was he a virgin before he met you?

  • Wrong no, but if he was good in all other ways? then it is a closed minded decision you made. Anyone can learn to be great in bed, you could have had a lot of fun with each other teaching him your likes and wants.

  • Did u guys attempt to fix the issues

  • Gonna have to say yes. If you didn't try and let him learn and etc. There is way more one could do that for sure wouldn't make it so.

  • If you gave him a chance to improve and tried to teach him how to please you better first, then no

  • If you go through your whole life determining what guy you’ll be with for the rest of your life based on sex alone then you’ll never be married or at least be divorced multiple of times.

  • If that was the only reason, then yes, you are bad.

  • Did you even let him know?
    Like did you tell him that he isn't satisfying you?
    Because if you don't tell him he's not satisfying you then how is he supposed to improve.
    If he's working on improving then you should work with him on improving his skills and who knows you might even find it fun he probably will too because that would require more sex which more sex with the person you love should be an obvious good thing

  • How was he bad? What could you have taught him?

  • if you have tried to talk to him about it, told him what you liked, showed him what you want, and he hasn't tried at all then it is time to say goodbye.

  • Everyone has preferences in partners. You have to decide if he has other qualities that will compensate for his lack of sexual proficiency.

  • Did you make an attempt to improve it and communicate the situatio?

  • Yeah.

  • No, assuming you did everything to improve the relationship, considering sex is important for you. If he couldn't sexually satisfied you, that's enough reason to breakup.

    • A relationship is to enjoy, mostly. If there is more sarrow than enjoyment, something is wrong.

  • If that was the only downside in regards to him, yes.

  • Have you tried teaching him or perhaps growing your skills together?

    • Good men don't grow on trees.

  • No ur not.
    God Bless

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