Any advice for girl on top positions?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been seeing a guy for about three months now, but we constantly struggle with girl-on-top positions. I feel like I’m disappointing him because it’s something he really wants to do but it just doesn’t work and then it leaves both of us frustrated.

The thing is, I don’t understand why we’re struggling because I’ve never had issues being on top with other partners. But whenever I get on him and start moving, his penis will either pop out or it’s like his body moves up with mine, so there’s no in-out movement. I’m wondering if it’s an issue with his mattress maybe? Like the firmness isn’t right?

I am on the shorter side, so my legs aren’t that long to allow for moving up and down…. But like I said, I’ve not had any major issues with this in the past. So I’m really just struggling to figure out why I’m Not able to do girl-on-top with this guy.

It bothers me because I wanna make sure that he’s satisfied. So I try to make up for it in other ways (lots of other sexual stuff he likes) but I still feel like he might be a little disappointed

[AmandaYVR]

Yeah, a firmer surface beneath you is always beneficial. (But not so firm as to wreck your knees, or get carpet burn.)

Try pogo-ing. Apparently not enough girls do this, I don't know if that's true and why that would be, but it feels good to the guy because he doesn't have the girl's weight pressing down on him, or inhibiting his range of movement, and he gets a lot of stimulation on the head of his penis, because there's more full in and out. To do it, get up on your haunches and rise up vertically.

There's no other real trick or skill to it. You just need to develop an easygoing attitude about it all, and a sense of humour (both of you), so that when he slips out, or whatever else happens, it's no big deal, you just readjust and keep on keepin' on. Have fun. It's sex, not a skill or training session that you pass or fail.

And one more thing, women like to stimulate their clit. But those positions aren't the optimal for guys. Concentrate on the head of his penis, and keeping tension in your vagina. He wants friction when he's in you. You can control that with kegels.

And as others suggested, try reverse cowgirl, and play with his balls sometimes (very gently), and his taint. There's a ton of nerve endings there on guys. It's different than females.

[Chubbychick]

My husband has a very, very small penis, and this happens a lot with us. Could that be the reason?

[nawtee_me]

Okay two things here, first off if you are on top you are in control not him... The problem is you both are trying to be in control. Bottom is a submissive position unless you play the submissive from on top. more on that in a minute.
Second stay down and do not lift up! Lifting up tells him to move and do something. That is all wrong for the submissive position. You need to stay down on his dick and move back and forth which causes the in and out motion you both need. From the cowgirl position you get pressure/pleasure in one spot and in reverse cowgirl you get it in another. So does he since his dick is in different positions in each of the two positions.
playing the submissive from on top gives him the control to pound you hard and fast. all you need do is raise up some (it takes practice) and stay there while he does all the work. You are up and open to his thrusting upward and deep into you with the speed he chooses...

[xColinx]

So yeah, even when you're on top, sounds like you need to take turns letting each other lead the dance. That might help you each figure out the other's rhythm so that you can eventually get things flowing together more easily. Has it only been a couple attempts so far?

[RobT312]

Cowgirl! Ride him.

[spartan55]

Reach back under your ass and fondle his balls.

[summiter]

Put a pillow under his butt.. it will keep him inside far easier. Also don't thrust as much. Have fun!!!

[slatyb]

It's not you. You've done this with other partners. It's possible that he has a fantasy about it but can't sustain an erection while being the passive partner.

What about it appeals to him? Maybe he would be happy to give oral with you on top?

[20yearsolder]

I have a shit ton of questions, I'd like to help you try to resolve this. If you're comfortable enough, send me a direct message and I'll help you anyway I can

[AviatorTom]

Sounds like he's moving too much when you're on top.

To break him of that habit...
Try tying him done so that he cannot move, then ride him like a cowgirl until you both orgasm. Keep his hands busy by placing them on your breasts.

He should learn that it's great to not move and let you do all the work when you're on top, so next time, do it without tying him down. If he starts moving, stop, and tell him that you are in control of his pleasure.

[Sparkie460]

Is he smaller than the other guys you've been with. If he keeps popping out he either isn't hard enough or he could be to small to do cowgirl

[JPresidente]

Try grinding and rowing instead of up and down.

[BigOleMatt]

Not trying to shame his size but he may be a little on the short side.. maybe not able to stride like the others?

[In_Trance]

The mattress... lmao... right

[Tellme]

First of all, penises and erection angles are different in every guy. So maybe you have to find a slightly different position so that he doesn’t pop out easily? And maybe you should start with just you moving, and him being at rest, to figure things out?

[cootjuhh]

hmm I don't know i bet you ride fine

[9214xs]

As a smaller guy myself it’s his size. For normal cowgirl do you have any issues?

If I did say reverse cowgirl, even with a small girl I wouldn’t be able to reach. The tip would just touch her vagina and I couldn’t go inside so size matters if you want to do certain positions.

[Anonymous]

I assume he was the one who asked you out and hit on you