Are cumshots degrading or disrespectful towards women?

Question

I've heard girls say this and even my own mother taught me to not let guys do that to me. I never really questioned it until now. I went out with a guy Wednesday night and it went fantastic. We really clicked. Anyway, we ended up having sex. He pulled out and came on my stomach and boobs. I never had that done to me before. The thing is, I didn't feel disrespected by it. He was a gentleman. He cuddled with me after and he texted me the next day wanting to go out again this weekend and see how I was. I feel like it's ok to allow this. Do other girls allow it, or am I way off base here?

truthbeknown · Accepted Answer

Like what normalice is saying, it is degrading if you do it on her when she doesn't like it. There is no "rule" of what is degrading when it comes to sex, only boundaries you set for yourself. Some women like it, some neutral, and others completely can't stand it. Is performing oral sex, or wearing lingerie degrading to women? Could be, if you thought it was. Again, some women love it, others neutral and some can't stand it. My wife is neutral about. She enjoys that it is me doing it and she helped me cum and likes that I like it. She doesn't feel degraded by it. Being cummed on by someone you love can help solidify the connection and bond during intimacy between partners. That action is shared by no one else. It is a form of showing your partner "belongs" to you, or like being "owned". It's all how you perceive it. If you think it is disgusting and degrading, then it is. If you think it is hot or whatever, then it is.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Some girls think it's disrespectful to cum inside them, and expect/demand that a guy pulls out and comes outside (usually stomach/boobs)... It really depends on your priorities.

I've done many things with girls sexually that some might view as disrespectful, but none of the girls would see it that way, and in fact, many times, they specifically ASKED for that particular act. Because they know that I respect them, none of the sexual things we do together are seen as a sign of disrespect. Yet, if my attitude towards them was different, even minor, "normal" things could well be seen as disrespectful.

It's all about CONTEXT - you can't simply label an act as being one thing or the other, because it's all about the attitude and mindset of the people participating that matters.

Juliabellybutton · Accepted Answer

I think photographs of it are downright nasty. While I prefer he cum on my stomach and in my bellybutton, wherever it happens is fine. I would never have sex with someone that did not respect me so he would never do it to disrespect me or to show power over me. It's gotta go somewhere and I love the warm feeling of it on me.

Yellowbone · Accepted Answer

If you like it, then it's not disrespect. If you make it clear that you don't & he does it anyway, then it is.

Other people cannot declare what is disrespectful to you, especially if you're NOT uncomfortable with it. Only YOU can decide what is disrespectful.

In-sight-ful · Accepted Answer

I let my boyfriend and have absolutely no issues with it, if that's what he enjoys and I don't mind, why not?

redshirt202 · Answer

Frankly, I find the whole idea disgusting, but that's just me.

I've never understood the whole cumshot fetish, I even wish p*rno and stuff wouldn't have it. Someone once suggested it was a "control" thing, like the guy is marking his territory or something. But, if you're cool with it, there's not necessarily anything wrong with it... we all like to play out certain fantasies and such during sex, he might have a harmless control/dominance fantasy. As long as he doesn't do it to you when you don't want him to.

Izzy2102 · Answer

In a lot of  p*rn  it is I think. In real life it depends on how he does it

islands7 · Answer

Thankfully it was not in the disrespect zones like face, hair or pussy  Guys all have different turn on zones mine are 1) inside 2) breasts

Kyndra · Answer

I'm a virgin but I'd love that. It just seems sexy to me, like marking his territory or rewarding me. Even though I'll probably be the dominant one.

Creole_Flavor · Answer

It's only disrespectful without your permission. Don't let other people tell you what should not be acceptable in your sex life.

normalice · Answer

I've yet to have sex with a girl who didn't let me cum on her. The tricky part is getting her to swallow it. The thing is, no form of sex is degrading. Even cumming up her butt, turning her around then cumming in her mouth - still not degrading. As long as she's into it! That's the key - ultimately you decide what does or does not degrade you, and it's up to you to decide what excites you. People can give you suggestions, but it's up to you whether or not you believe them.

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

if its what the girl is into and she wants it then its fine.

BassistForever · Answer

I think purposefully doing it when she told you not to is disrespectful, otherwise its whatever. Besides, if he cums on you instead of in you, there's less chance of pregnancy!

MelloYellow · Answer

when you say cumshot, i expect facial. lol cumming on the stomach or whatever is by no means disrespectful at all, some girls have a problem with the face though...

Michael-in-SC · Answer

If you like it, there's nothing wrong with it.

lovin_u · Answer

Thats mothers choice/opinion. Based on that, there are many things we could claim to be disrespectful during sex! There's absolutely nothing wrong with it.

rjroy3 · Answer

I know people that considers a hickey as a form of disrespect. You decide what's disrespectful.

Editor · Answer

I don't think it's disrespectful. It's a good way to avoid pregnancy, and unless you think he always needs to cum somewhere inside you, I don't know what the alternative is.

Diego9O · Answer

That´s relative. Some womens might like it others no. If you personally like that it can´t be disrespectful for you cause it´s not something that goes against your wil.