At some point, would you want to see a committed partner nude before agreeing to marry them, or would you rather wait for the big surprise?

And would it go even further and you would not marry them without having sex first to see if you are sexually compatible?

Why do both make so much sense to me?

Am I all alone on this one?
At some point, would you want to see a committed partner nude before agreeing to marry them, or would you rather wait for the big surprise?
Yes, I would want to see them nude but not have sex with them before marriage
Vote A
At some point, would you want to see a committed partner nude before agreeing to marry them, or would you rather wait for the big surprise?
I would have to see them nude and have sex with them to make sure we are sexually compatable before I would consider marriage
Vote B
At some point, would you want to see a committed partner nude before agreeing to marry them, or would you rather wait for the big surprise?
No, I would not want to see them nude or have sex with them until after marriage
Vote C
At some point, would you want to see a committed partner nude before agreeing to marry them, or would you rather wait for the big surprise?
OTHER, see my comments below, or just open the "Nude and/or Sex Before Marriage" Survey
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  • Laurie, this is your partner in crime. I've told this story a million times, but if you haven't heard it, I'll say it again. I have an Internet friend that waited until marriage to have sex.
    Her reward for being a good girl was to go 20 years without an orgasm. Her husband was a freak. He believed that oral sex was demonic. He believed that masturbation was demonic. He believed that any position other than missionary, was demonic.

    When her daughter was killed in a car accident, the mother was set free. She dumped that piece of shit husband. I agreed to meet her at a casino, and she was a basket case. She told me she had a social disorder due to her daughters death. I felt so bad for her.
    But we are still Internet pals, and in text, she's funny as fuck. Her IQ has been measured in the genius range. She has two pets. A bulldog and a mule. She lives in the country and when her mule gets out of the fence, she goes looking for it. But she doesn't wear any clothes. None. LOL
    She's crazy and she's the first one to admit it. Because of her 20 years of hell, she's now a super slut. lol

    She used to text me when I was working graveyard, and tell me about the one-night-stands she was on. I never laughed so hard in my life.

    *Oh, for fuck's sake, now he wants to watch Netflix
    *Should I just leave?
    *Is this idiot ever going to fuck me?
    *Why am I even here?
    True story

    • Wow! ... I don't remember this story but it is wild! It almost makes sense though if she was married to someone that crazy for so long

    • I've given up on trying to tell people on this site that waiting for marriage is the wrong idea. They all cling to this Fairy Tale notion that that's what is magical. So I met her at the casino, and bought her a drink. She said we couldn't be friends because my "aura" was the wrong color. lol I shit you not!! You don't know me well, but you know I'm a smart ass. I told her that I was going to go to Best Buy and see if the Geek Squad could change the color of my aura. lol She at least laughed, and that was good for her. I've never seen her since, but we still stay in touch via texting. My only regret is that I never thought to ask her what color my aura is!! Damn! I hope it's blue. I would love to have a blue aura. Wow, would that be worthy of a GAG question? "What color is your aura?" LMAO She was absolutely brilliant and funny in text, but in person she couldn't make eye contact. She told me how sorry she was for that, but it made me uncomfortable. She's a city bus driver, and she's all business on the job. But after work she's on AFF and a complete slut. Good for her.

  • For me, physical chemistry is one of the biggest priorities of all

    • Yes!

Most Helpful Guys

  • For me, marriage is the biggest decision of a lifetime. It's a one time thing. I need to be 100% sure that I'm ready and she's ready to spend the rest of our lives together. That means being in a committed relationship for quite a while. And I can't imagine going with someone for that long without having sex.

    If you're in a committed relationship for that long and don't trust each other enough to have sex, you really don't have much of a relationship. You have to give yourself completely to it. You have to want to devour each other.

    There is also the sexual compatibility aspect. I would NEVER get married without knowing for sure that we were a sexual match. I don't want ANY surprises. And, honestly, the better we please each other, the better our chances of a happy marriage.

  • Surprises today and you find a dick instead of a pussy

    • Great point! Funny but true... lol

    • Lol 😆

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  • D here, wouldn't matter either way. People age and bodies change, so if I'm marrying someone cause they look hot naked, I'm going to be disappointed down the road.

    I'd also hope said person would be open and receptive to tips if they really sucked, but either way works for me, seeing them nude and having sex but I've never dropped a guy cause he sucks, I try to help him do better.

    As for your awesome pics, now I'm a little turned on and wanting to go to that resort in pic B. I've done the pic in A plenty of times but never B, so hmm..

  • Wow, wouldn't that be a crusher if after they saw you nude they excused themself to use the restroom and you heard them puking inside and then said they had to leave as it was past their bedtime?

    At some point, would you want to see a committed partner nude before agreeing to marry them, or would you rather wait for the big surprise?At some point, would you want to see a committed partner nude before agreeing to marry them, or would you rather wait for the big surprise?
  • There's some rather large (no pun intended) surprises I'd rather see come to light early before I decide to tie the knot. Physical compatibility is important though not the endgame

    • I only had tiny surprises

  • I'm for premarital sex.

  • see them

  • I'm someone who still believes that marriage should be truly till death do you part.
    And that is why I'm not in a rush to marry the first girl I meet because a commitment like that needs assurances we have to be compatible.

    And sexual compatibility is a huge part of that.

    Having had multiple partners in the past I can say that not all sex is just sex and it can be horrible or crazy amazing based on the person.

    So I absolutely need to have sex before marriage there is no way I'm rolling the dice on something like this because if the sex is bad then the marriage is doomed before it even started.

  • It's difficult to imagine a scenario where the difference between a life partner and a passing acquaintance would hinge on her naked beauty instead of intelligence or passion or curiosity.

    To answer the question. No, if I need to see her naked before marrying her, I've already messed up. Time to start again. Same for sex,,,,,

    • It's not "instead of", it's "in addition to". Couples need to be mentally and sexually compatible.

  • When you are in a relationship, you have sex with them (most people now a days) so before marriage you already know things you want to know.

  • Sexual compatibility is real and important, so I believe in sex before marriage. Not about "seeing them nude" though.

  • No, I need to test the waters before I tie the knot , I take marriage seriously , I want to marry my life long partner, I thought I did the first time around but I was blind sided so for me to get married again is going to take time. one of my love languages is touch, if I am not being fulfilled in a relationship then it won’t last for me , I don’t care what others say , but sex is important in a relationship, finding someone that values me like I value them , someone that can remove selfishness for me like I do for them , I don’t commit to be single , and I also don’t commit to be someone’s punching bag , I know things won’t always be perfect and I know I am not perfect but I am willing to try marriage one more time if I find the right one, if not , then it wasn’t meant to be , I been there and done it , I never understood people that get married 3 or 4 times , shit even 2 times is pushing it but 2 times isn’t the worse cuz I feel like I learned off my first one to know what I am really seeking I guess , but 3 or 4 etc is just crazy , I know a guy that is on his 4 th marriage and I think not only is he crazy , the girl that married him must be crazy as well , why would someone want to be married to someone with a track record like that? I would never be with a girl that was married 3 or 4 times , to me that just says they are selfish and probably the reason the other marriages failed , So I would be like it was nice knowing you , good luck with that shit. So to find a girl that has a lot in common with me and values relationships like me is hard to come by these days but I am still trying , I would love to feel wanted and valued and respected , and find a partner that stands by my side like I do for them , I realized the only way love grows is when 2 people sacrifice and remove selfishness for each other , makes each other your number 1 priority over everyone and everything , accept each other’s flaws and compromise cuz the way I look at it is I really don’t need anyone I am perfectly capable of supporting myself , I work and buy my own things , so to find a girl that wants to be my partner and to spoil each other is something I would love to have , Sex to me is best one you love the person you are having sex with , I don’t need other girls to fulfill that , if I do then she isn’t the right girl for me is how I look at it

  • From my POV, you would be right on both counts. I had a really close girlfriend in my 20's and I had no apartment then, so neither of us got completely nude in the car or at my parent's place, late at night.

    Only later did we see each other 'NUDE" when parents were away briefly, for an afternoon. Big mistake to not have sex prior to marrying someone. Know a few couples that found themselves very unhappy in the marriage.

  • When two people really love each other, and consequently trust each other, they will at least touch and kiss each other, and naturally want intimacy. All the rest doesn't matter and depends on how they feel, maybe according some philosophical, or religious, or liberated point of view.

    In case of an arranged marriage of any kind, things will certainly be different, and usually both partners will have to wait till being married before discovering each other.

  • It seems odd to me to marry someone you haven’t had sex with but to each their own

  • I wouldn't ever marry someone who I haven't experienced living with and having sex with at any point in my life. I would like to know if we are sexually compatible and put in equal effort to satisfy each other. Not even being able to see my partner nude before marrying is a definite no for me.

  • I say, Try before you buy.

  • To have sex with them is also important coz how else would u know if u r compatible with each other sexually

  • I would need to see her naked before being a couple, and have sex at least once before marriage.

  • Gotta make sure they don't have a twin growing out of their chest.

  • Not a "requirement" for me - but it happened a few times anyway.

  • I want to wait till marriage, on both counts

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