Boyfriend thinks my pictures are too sexual?

I would never do nudes, not even for my boyfriend. But I absolutely love taking selfies, in lingerie, bikinis etc. Sometimes I snap with our common friends, and I send pictures in bikinis? Is there anything wrong with that? He knows I love him, and that I wouldn't cheat.

So why does it bother him?
Boyfriend thinks my pictures are too sexual?
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  • I'm possessive, as he seems to be as well, so I'll try to explain my position on it. It doesn't help that I'm a private, more conservative (in public) person, so bear that in mind.

    I'm never too worried about my girlfriend. I love it when she's comfortable being sexy with me. But it is definitely a feeling that I may not be able to trust other guys who leer at her. Drugs and alcohol reduce inhibitions, and the right ones can make people into play dough, so there's always the worry with me that my girl will take a drink from a "friend" or maybe just party when I'm not there, and she is taken advantage of.

    Essentially, I don't trust other people. I can trust my girl completely, but sexy outfits still make me uncomfortable when others see them. In private, it's entirely up to you what you wear.

    If you can, try to talk to him about it and allay his fears. You're gorgeous, so he should probably get used to you drawing looks, but there are ways to talk about it.

    If these are the types of selfies that other men see, I don't think they're a problem. I wouldn't want you to curate who sees them (basically, don't pick and choose a couple guys with a bunch of girls, and your boyfriend), it'd be more comfortable for me to just have it out there as a public thing.

    Best of luck. Keep us updated.

  • I'm sure he knows it's your body and you get to do with it as you please but he also is the guy that gets to see ALL of it and he cherishes you so he's not happy that the whole world is seeing quite so much of it. Clearly you're an exhibitionist and it feels like you're baiting him.

    By the way, you're stunning.

    • Thanks for your input and compliment.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Seems like you're an exhibitionist. You're showing a lot of skin to strangers. Do you want your boss or others passing around these photos of you? At the beach in a bikini is one thing. You're taking these pictures and posting them for anyone to see. If you were my girlfriend, I wouldn't appreciate it.

    • Well I appreciate your honesty. Seems like it is the general consensus on this site

  • You have a great body, and that's the problem because you know it and he knows it too

    I can kinda see where he is coming from because you are really doing a 'look at me'!

    It's fun to 'snap' with those close to you, i'm guilty of doing it myself... but tone it down a bit and be selective!

    • Thanks for MHO

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  • Maybe he is Gay... Silly Guy. xxoo

    • Welcome to Gag Town and Best of Luck. xx

    • Coud be Too Old Fashion too, Lovely. xx

  • Calves for days

  • Because you look damn good and he doesn't want other guys lusting after you. Some guys are just weird about other people finding "Their" woman attractive.

  • He wants you all to himself.
    He doesn't like other guys looking at your ass. LoL.
    I guess you gotta have a team meeting with him and tell him that public ass pictures is just who you are.
    It's part of the deal if he wants you.
    Good luck.

    • Hmm. Thanks I guess. Thanks for your input

  • If you are not going to share your body with anyone else, why do you need to advertise what you've got?

    • I guess that's a fair point

    • How are your opinions always on-point?

    • @Syrian_survivor You and others will see things more clearly as you get older, if only you keep your eyes open and observe what this world reveals.

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  • You may not be cheating but you're making other people want you if that makes sense. You could argue that it's none of his business buuut it kind of IS because he's your boyfriend. It doesn't matter how loyal he thinks you are in this case because those sorts of selfies communicate that you aren't loyal to everyone else. You need to understand that it doesn't matter what you intend to communicate or even if you don't intend to communicate anything. You can't control how other people interpret it. Anyone looking at those photos thinks they're suggestive whether your goal is just to get compliments or not.

  • You’re technically wearing clothes but it’s not a lot of clothes. He doesn’t want people to think his girlfriend is promiscuous or something

  • He probably doesn't like it because he knows that some guy's may use your picture to masturbate. You will never know whar people do with pictures like these.

    • What?

    • Random guys look online for hot pictures and jack off thinking of girls like you in this picture maybe that's why Your boyfriend is uncomfortable with you sending random pictures like these to friends.

  • I certainly would not want my girl doing this.

  • You're seeking attention & validation elsewhere

  • I guess it depends on the boyfriend. Abbie Moranda has nude photos online. If her boyfriend is jealous, he probably should have known what he was getting into.

    GaG is just sad. Look at all the responses.

  • Because you don't send those types of photos to any random person or on social media as it comes across as an invitation for others to see and be interested in you.

    It also makes you seem like you're trying to get attention FOR sexual reasons, hence the cheating fear.

  • It seems like an attention seeking behavior. Why do you want other people to see you if you are happy with your boyfriend and have no intention of cheating?

  • Posting stuff in outfits like that is about the same as sexting others.

  • Sounds too narcissistic, not too sexy.

  • I think it's fine but I can see why he might not want men salivating over you might make him concerned possibly even just for your safety

    • My safety?

    • Stalkers creeps etc do you post the pics on your social etc?

  • Can't say. I would like them confidential to me.

  • Maybe he doesn't want his kids to go to school and be bullied with those pictures.

    "Ha ha! Your mom's a slut! Loot at her shoving her big fat ass in the mirror! What a whore!"

    Whenever I'm surfing around imageboards or forums these days, there are still people who post slutty pictures of girls that are at least 20 years old, imagine how those women must feel nowadays to know that pictures they took 20 years ago are still out circulating and that millions of random dudes have seen them, and millions more will see them in the NEXT 20 years.

  • Unless you are an attention whore you shouldn't be taking these types of pictures. Especially if its guys. Its sexy even if you dont mean them to be.

  • It probably bothers him because you're getting attention from other men. Probably sexual comments on your feed, stuff like that.

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