Here's an analogy.
Have you ever gotten adrenaline? That's your body's "flight or flight" response. Like if something really scares you, or you are in danger. Your heart starts pumping harder, more blood flows to the muscles, your blood sugar increases, etc.
All of those things are a natural response of the body? Can it be controlled? Not directly, no. But what if you are very calm and don't react to things? What if you meditate? What if a dangerous situation occurs that others might react to more strongly, but you remain calm? The natural response of adrenaline might happen in them but not in you.
A guy's response is much the same. It's a natural reaction to certain situations. He has no control over that. But with a certain amount of mental control, it can decrease the likelihood of the natural body function triggering.
But just like adrenaline, there are times when no amount of mental control is going to do anything. The body is just going to react the way it's meant to react.
The answer is... sort of. It's not like we can say "up, penis, up" and there it is, then "down, penis, down" and it's gone. The body reacts to all forms of stimuli (visual, physical, scent, ..., and event mental) by releasing a whole lot blood. We can make it happen by touching it, looking at pictures or even just thinking of someone attractive and things that we would like to do with them. Making them go down is a bit tougher. You learn to distract or even dissuade our minds by not focusing on the stimulus and thinking of other less-stimulating things (the classic is thinking about baseball or even your grandmother, in a real pinch.
It gets easier as you get older form many reasons. Some based on experience and others based on physical changes to our bodies.
As a 14 year old, I'm not going to suggest what you should or shouldn't do about it, but for a boy around your age, that's sounds pretty normal.
They can be set off by sexual thoughts or physical bumbs, like on a bus. But they are not controlled by the boy, it's just from the brain.
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Kissing, it depends. A passionate kiss can trigger an erection that is difficult for me to avoid. It is a instinct and as such it is supposed to be out of control.
Other non sexual acts that still have some degree of contact fall in the same category.
To stop an erection from happening I have to move my thoughts away from what I'm doing, which is a turn off as it means I won't be able to enjoy the cuddling or the kiss (for i. e.).
An erection from just watching a beautiful girl pass by, or even by watching porn, is easy to control as the hard on happens mostly on expectations.
An erection whilst sleeping is uncontrollable. Even when not having a wet dream, morning erections are common, unpredictable and unavoidable.
Ar his age he has little or no control. A random thought about tile floors might set it off because tile floors are vaguely related to women taking showers, for example.
When I was your age, I would get hard by a random thought of something as simple as a visible bra strap... whether I liked it or not. Better control later on.
Yes an no a lot of times it's involuntary especially during puberty.
No. I can be sitting at my desk at work reading spreadsheets with my dick trying to pop out of my shorts. Healthy young guys get boners. The healthier the guy, the more boners he gets.
Not really, especially at that age.
this happens whenever boys get excited, either from seeing something or a thought. a thought can come at any time and so it can be very random. if you see a pattern (like an erection every time you cuddle) then it is because of the cuddling.
kind of. sometimes it gets hard when it shouldn´t and sometimes it doesn´t when it should xD
I've been working on controlling it but at times i just get aroused and there's 0 control. Last time it happened to me i was at the bank and the teller was so cute i got a boner. She noticed too and she just kept smiling. For some reason she didn't look disturbed or creeped out as i was trying to hide it.
nah we can't control it, I sometimes get a boner in the most unfitting places/situations
Yes, it's really annoying, sometimes randomly on the bus I wanna get up but it's there.
Sometimes it happens because of sensual thoughts, but mostly it is unavoidable.
boys at that age can't. The only thing is "managing" it.
wtf is a penis, i dont have that
Me neither.
it can't be controlled
we can. but sometimes its very hard to control that fucker.
It all down to control. Some guys get over excited, hence they get a hard on pretty quickly. Others need a bit more pursuation to get hard. x
Can't be controlled but they can always control whether to go intimate or not
You are definitely 14😊😂
15 soon.
Okay ☺️💕
Yes just sex drive kicks in
Its normal for teens :)
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