Can My Shocked Neighbor Girl Start talking to me Again ?

Hi, I am from Thailand, My father didn't have good relations with Mom, He Gave Divorce to Mom and got Married Again, I have two Older Sisters, One is 19 Years old and other is 22 Years old and she has a boyfriend too, My Mom always wants me to follow her instructions and obey to my both the sisters as well, she asks me to do all the house works and even to help my Sisters, My Sisters take advantage of my Situation and try to bully and Dominate me, Sometimes they even ask me to iron their clothes and clean up their Rooms, I feel irritated and if I don't do as they want, then either My 22 Years old Sister or Mom call to my Sister's boyfriend at home and asks him to punish me by pulling and yanking my penis and don't stop even if I starts Sobbing or Crying,

there is a Neighbor Girl whom I like much and She is My Crush, She also used to talk me a lot, She comes to My home every evening to go for a Dance Class with My 19 Years old Sister, Two weeks Ago one day when she came in my home, She Coincidentally came in the Room when My Sister's boyfriend was punishing me, he had me Nude and was yanking was penis brutally and I was Crying , that neighbor girl got Shocked to see this and she immediately went out with My 19 Years old Sister to go for the dance class and I don't know What My 19 Yo Sister told her about what She Saw But from the Next day She Stopped talking to me and she just ignore me, I could not explain her My Situation because of shame and embarrassment, Can she start talking to me Again like before? Or She don't want to keep relations with me Now? Also how can I fix this issue Peacefully with My both Sisters?
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Neighbor Girl goes for a dance class with My 19 years old Sister, So she comes to my home in the evening, She used to talk to me a lot and she would prefer me over My 22 years old Sister, So My Sister was annoyed with me and wanted to teach me a lesson, My Sister willingly asked her boyfriend to come in the evening, He came suddenly and without telling anything he had me naked and started yanking my penis mercilessly, he kept on yanking my penis until neighbor girl came and got to see this.
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I have been trying to talk to Neighbor girl for almost last one Month but she is ignoring me, Yesterday when she came to my home, I again tried talking to her, but she only asked how is my penis now? ( in a sarcastic way ) and she went out with my 19 years old Sister for dance Class.
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  • Dude you should get a job and ditch that house the second you can, also you should start talking to her again, dont start it off by apologising, have a quick chat asking her how she's been. If she ask you how you've been dont be afraid to tell her your situation/the situation you were in at that time. When you apologise about her seeing you naked then go on to tell her your story. If she still cares for you at all she'll try to sympathise, how much she sympathises tells you how much she still likes you. If she is quick and straight when she says "Oh im sorry i hope your ok" or something like that (not much effort put into it) she might not like you as more than a friend. If she really tries to make it sound like she cares for you then most likely she does. You can't end the chat there so try to keep it flowing, perhaps ask about how dancing classes have been? You want to always end a chat on a high so keep talking until you feel you know that she feels eased to talk with you again. Maybe bump into her the next day and talk, get to know her and she needs to know you, after a couple weeks or a couple months, she will trust you again and may have gained enough feelings for you so much so that you could ask her to move in with you into a rental or something. (If her family doesn't mind ofc) So basically thats my advice to you, if you need anything else let me know by replying or dm me.

    • Also you should get her to move far away with you once school has finished, if not you should still tell the police all about it.

    • Yeah, I will try to talk to her again i don't know may be she needs some more time or she just thinking else about it, if she starts talking with me Normally then it would be easy for me to make her understand, i can DM you but you need to follow me for this.

    • Well when did it happen? If it is still recent then give her a week

  • You should try and approach her and talk to her. I mean your sister might have said something wrong and if you don't correct it, then it can be possible that she won't talk to ever. You have to go to her and tell her, but when you approach her try to be polite like the first time you met her, clear up everything and then she will gradually start talking to you like before. And please, just go to the authorities. Your relationship with your family is to problematic. I mean your sisters boyfriend literally yank and pull your penis. You could end up being impotent or have erectile dysfunction. Just go through the legal way

    • I know, I am trying to talk to her but seems she don't want to talk to me, at that day when it happend I could not face her for next 2-3 days because if so much shame and embarrassment but after 3 days when she again came in the evening to go for dance class with my 19 years old sister, I tried to talk to her but she didn't talk and ignored me, now she even has stopped to reply if I say her hello or I wave my hands, I don't know what my 19 years old sister has told her about that day when he was punishing me naked, I still like her much and she is like my crush and first love.

    • Then just convince her to listen for at least 1 minute. If she is willing to listen then explain everything amd if she is still ignorant then just forget her. Because if a girl doesn't even want to listen to a person reason or opinion then she is not worth it

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  • First of all, what is wrong with your sisters? I'm sure they are old enough to know that pulling a guys pinus can not only stop them from having a baby but is also very, very wrong. If I were you, I would have been made the world know what they do to me, so they can see themselves and know how small they actually mean to the world. Then again, if they were my sisters, I would probably write letters to them to make things better. You should do the same with the shocked girl; If not, you should try to find a way to talk to them. Remember, don't feel down because your actually stronger than you think.

    • You know what? My 22 years old sister was annoyed with me because That Neighbor Girl used to talk to me and she would prefer to talking to me over my 22 years old sister, So she made a plan to teach me a lesson, At that day My Sister's boyfriend suddenly came home in the evening and without telling me anything he forcefully had me naked and started yanking my penis, I tried to rescue myself from him but he didn't let me run away and kept on yanking my penis mercilessly until that Neighbor Girl came and saw me crying loudly and being punished, When that neighbor girl went out with my 19 years old sister for dance class then he also stopped yanking my penis, So it was obviously planned by my 22 years old sister.

    • This is Thailand so the rules of western society don't apply and you can't assess it by simply asking "What is wrong with your sisters?"

    • @HawkPerception what do you mean?

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  • I think the best way to get the girl you like to talk to you again is to tell her the truth about why you were being punished. Tell her that you get abused and you don't want to and that was not a sexual act, but you feel obligated to because you have no choice living there. When you ask the girl you like if you can talk to her, just say immediately that you want to explain what happened that day when she saw you naked and mention that she doesn't know the whole story so it's easy to misjudge the situation.

    • Its 100 percent a sexual act. He was being raped!

    • You know what? My 22 years old Sister didn't like when I used to talk to that Neighborgirl So she wanted to teach me a lesson, I will try to talk to Neighborgirl and try to explain why I was being punished naked but she is just ignoring me and That Neighborgirl is also a friend of My 19 years old Sister because they both go to the same dance class, So at that day when Neighborgirl saw me getting punished then She might have discussed about it with My 19 years old Sister and My 19 Yo Sister would not tell that they bully and abuse me, She wouldn't have told her that it was planned and willingly done by My 22 years old Sister and My 19 years old Sister would have told her that i was being punished because I had done something Wrong.

    • @chaolem Maybe if your 19 year old sister could tell your neighbour for you that your mom and sister asks your 22 year old sister’s boyfriend to punish you by asking her to not tell anyone, she’d be willing to help you. It looks like your 19 year old sister doesn’t want to make your other sister or mom look bad but that kind of thing that they do shouldn’t be supported. Maybe if your sister is close to your neighbour, like close friends, her neighbour will promise to not tell anyone and keep her word. Ask your sister to help you but if she doesn’t want to, tell her you’ll talk to her yourself.

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  • Like many others said this is abuse. Is there anybody you can talk to like your parents or something? If not you have to give tough love as even though they may hate you for it I find that the people in the wrong has their folly come back to bite them basically the consequences will come back to bite them. In terms of the boyfriend then again you need to report it to somebody as if you contain it then this will consume you. But like everybody said its not okay and if you get your opinions out then they won't be able to deny what they are doing is wrong and will only dig a deeper hole by trying to defend themselves. I'm sorry to hear this happened.

    • DID I NOT TELL ABOUT MY FATHER, WHO GAVE DIVORED TO MOM AND GOT MARRIED AGAIN, DID I NOT TELL YOU ABOUT MOM WHO THINKS ITS OK TO PUNISH ME LIKE THIS AND SHE FAVOURS TO MY SISTERS, Then why you asking about Parent?

    • Are you can't read and understand English?

    • Ah that was my bad completely but the rest of what I said still remains true. Also another thing to add is that you have to stand up for yourself. As its very difficult but if you just let it happen nothing is going to change and it will be a horrible cycle of abuse. Again that was my bad about the first part but you do need to get help.

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  • You are being sexually abused and need to leave that city. Thailand is a huge place, please move to the other side of the world and find someone else. And maybe get someone to beat the shit out of your sisters and the boyfriend too

    • I Would move out Once I complete my schoolings but I still like that Neighbor Girl, Can't she give me other chance?

    • I agree 200% with you

    • You like her bc you are in a situation of abuse and she is the only person who is nice to you. Once you move I promise you that you won’t like her anymore. You are so young you’ll find so many woman

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  • I'm really sorry about the tragic things that you've had to go through... Especially since you're not yet an adult. And your having to go through with all of this. What your family and that 'so-called boyfriend' of your sister is doing is neglect, child abuse, pedophilia (because you aren't done with Highschool yet), rape, and there's so many other charges that should be put against them.

    You shouldn't worry about your neighborhood crush, there's a reason why many people are saying so. You've got to think of yourself first. Sort out your own life. Stand up for yourself, even if it means playing dirty and kicking that guy where it hurts. You should also know that karma comes around to give those who have the first laugh the penalty, then you will be the one who's laughing (or more like free).

    First of all. For the abuse and negligence... You should write a note to the police department or something explaining all that they have done to you. That will surely give you some attention and they will be heavily watched for a certain time. There you will proceed to anger them to where their anger gets the best of them and their worst side shows. They will be caught red handed.

    As for that girl. I don't think she is worth any of your time. You deserve better and don't tell yourself anything other than that! If she gets so caught up in your sister's lies that she doesn't even look to seek your side of the story. That's pretty biased... I know it's hard to let go. But still. You need to look for someone who's willing to hear you out and care about your opinion too. Even stay by your side. This shows that she doesn't care.

    Please keep cautious. Stay in shape. Plan for your future ahead. And get away from those toxic people as soon as you can. I know your about to finish school. And that is necessary so don't let your grades slip as well. Good day, and I hope some of these comments have given you a slight peace of mind.

  • That's a pity story however you need to understand one thing first.. This is against the law as you are victim of domestic abuse. You can file suit against the sister's boyfriend in order to get your life back to normal. If you don't have so much courage then you can also deal with your ex father to discuss this issue. First you need to resolve this issue then you can think about the neighbourhood girl. As according to that girl you are lower and no girl wants a partner to be loser. First you need to break this chain then you will have the guts to prove to that girl you overcome such an instance.
    You are going through tough phase but solving problem is the only way to get out of it. If you allow them to do such act they will continue to do so. This is human instinct.

    • I don't have contacts with My ex father, I am skinny but I am trying to gain weight and become stronger, My both older Sisters bully me, At that day My 22 years old sister made a plan with my 19 years old sister and her boyfriend, I didn't aware of it, he Suddenly came in my home and he attacked on me, he had me naked and started yanking my penis brutally, Same time my 19 years old Sister called that Neighbor Girl to come home to go with her to dance class, It was all planned and even My 19 years old Sister would have told that Girl different reason why I was being punished ! that Neighbor girl needs to understand this, they show her it like a coincident ! but she has stopped talking to me, I am unable to explain it to her, this makes me more upset !

  • Chaolem, all you can do is try to explain to the girl, but be ready to accept she might never talk to you again, Finish school get a job and move out, once you're away from them, contact the police and tell them everything, tell them you didn't want to tell them sooner out of fear of being on the streets, press charges against every single on of them, you mothers sister and the boyfriend for rape and assault

    • You Know I like that Neighbor girl a lot and i think i love her but i could bot tell her about this, i thought i would tell her after soem time, But before i could say her something, this has happend, i had not thought that she would ever see me in such pathetic condition, she saw me nude and my penis was being pulled badly by My Sister's boyfriend, i know Girls like strong and confident boys So she might think me a timid and weak boy but if she still want to talk to me then i can try to improve and be strong in future, but if she don''t want to contiue talking then it keeps me upset for a long time, I regrets a lot for that day.

    • Being strong and stoic isn't healthy, true strength is knowing when to ask for help

  • You need to first put up a spy camera in your room and record the punishment that is being given to you and take the recording as an evidence to child care or police station. After solving the issue with sister and mom by taking it up to child care or police, go and talk to the girl next door. Tell her what was going on and all and yet she feels she doesn't want to talk to you then just chuck her out of your life. At your age child care will help, if not you will be suffering.

    • I might afford to buy a spy camera and can put it up in my room too But this don't happen regularly and the place is also not fixed, my oldest sister was annoyed with me so she made plan to get me punished by her boyfriend, it was all planned but it was shown to that next door girl like she saw it coincidentally, At that evening my sister's boyfriend kept on yanking my penis brutally until that next door girl got to see it and Since then she believed to my 19 years old sister about why I was being punished naked and she stopped talking to me.

    • You can still take your thing to child care and they could examine your penis and find out or would tell you to come to them immediately the next time it happens. As my country law a minor words in child care cases is more important.

    • You know what? if they have to examine my penis then they should do it just immediately when it happens, because after 1-2 days all bruises and marks get healed by itself, Also it don't happen very regularly but if my sisters or mom ask him to punish me then he pull and yanks my penis mercilessly, at that evening he yanked my penis continuously for 20 minutes and I was crying like a kid when that next door girl got to see this, then my 19 years sister took her to the dance class and she must have told her some other reasons why I was being punished.

  • Talk to your dad and let him know you are being abuse by your family at home. But forget about your crush, move on to another girl. As long as you are under the roof of your mother, you will never have a relationship bc thats how crewl you family are to you. But its up to you what you want out of all this ordeal. You want to move out, but finish your education first while under your mother's care and continued to be abuse each day by family members who are supossed to care for you. Ok. ... hope you find your answer bc its not a nice environment you are in. I would move out now to another relative to live with... or find a friend that could help you out. Good luck. The girl not going to happen, so you lost and your family will keep making you feel like a loser until you do something for you by moving out. Take care. Hope and i will pray that you be safe.

  • And you are only 17? Dude call the police. I hope you already took care of it, for its been 26 days since you asked this question.

    • Yeah but that neighbor girl is still not talking to me, I had thought she might start talking after some days.

    • I think your sister lied to her about why you were being abused. You do not need to tell her anything if you do not want to, but please tell me you called the cops, right?

    • No, I have not called the cops, I can't call them because of some reasons, I had complaint to Mom about what My oldest Sister did with me but I could not tell Mom that I used to like that neighbor girl, My both older Sister would not like me to talking to that neighbor girl and I had arguments with my 22 years old Sister, She was annoyed and she made a plan to get my penis yanked by her boyfriend at time when that neighbor girl also come to my home, But I could not explain this conspiracy to Mom and to that Neighbor girl.

  • You have done nothing wrong. You are being sexually abused. Do you have any friendd that can help you out of this situation. If so go live with them for the time being. Also find a job to keep you out of this house. You don't need to explain yourself to this girl you like or something she should have understood the situation. I may not be a survivor but I do know some. So if you need any more advice I'd be glad to help. Or just someone to talk to I don't know

    • I would Move out Once I finish my schooling, I still like that Neighbor girl and I am very upset that she is not giving me chance to explain her, She is friend of My 19 years old Sister and she goes for dance class with her, I don't now what my 19 years old Sister has told her about when she saw me naked and being punished, My 22 years old Sister used a Nasty trick and it Spoiled everything,

    • Just make sure you're out of your house as much as possible. Go to the library, hang out with friends whatever. Just make sure you're not alone with them. Be safe

  • That is sexual assault! Don't ever let your family members or sister's boyfriends or anyone do it to you AGAIN... Yes, maybe there will be a next time. This is so sick. Go to the police or threaten them with police! Poor you.

  • Im horrified to read this. You are being sexually abused you need to reach out for some help beyond this website. Please talk to an adult outside of your family. You have done nothing wrong here and should not need to feel like you are ashamed in any way, THEY should be ashamed. This girl seems important to you and you sound like you need support. But I do not think you should be focused on gaining her attention back right now. You need to get some help with what is happening to you. Maybe eventually you can reach back out to the girl and explain this situation to her, I'd hope she would be understanding and not take out any judgement on you.

  • Oh my god. Please get out of that house as fast as you can. Please get a job and a house of your own, and if they still continue to abuse you call the police!!
    About the girl, don't feel embarassed about it when talking to her. If she mocks you or something, just tell her to fuck herself. Don't apologize for anything, this is not your fault!

    • I will move out once I complete my schooling, I am just 17 years old now but My both older Sisters are bully me at home since I was 12-13 years old, My Sister blackmail me to get the things done by me, they know my penis is a weak point so My 22 years old Sister ask her boyfriend to pull and yank my penis badly to punish me... Mom mostly take side of my both Sisters, Now that neighbor girl was the only person whom I like but she has stopped talking to me and she also talked very sarcastically when I was expecting a sympathy from her ! it hurts me emotionally.

  • Dude get the fuck out of there. Dont soend another week in that awful house.

  • You are being abused sexually😭 wow you should stand up for yourself, fight back put your sisters in their places. Let them know that you are still a man whether theyre older than you or not. You will probably have to teach one of them a lesson, i know this is bad but if it requires for you to get into a physical fight with one of them or at least look for a fight and dont back down ( as long you dont hurt them) and trust me after this they will never try you again. The boyfriend as well should be taught a lesson... start lifting weights, mental exercises and start changing yiur attitude when you see him... eye for an eye whatever he does to you do it to him. Im speaking from personal experiences, I've been bullied and disrespected until i stood up to my bullies and showed them i have nothing to lose.

    • You saying to fight back with my older sisters but you know, it can annoy them and they will be more aggressive towards me, Also my Sister's boyfriend do as she ask him like a dog ! And do you think I can have any hope left for that neighbor girl? she has stopped talking since that day and now it's been going to be a Month ! I used to like her a lot and I still miss her.

    • I'm really sorry Chaolem... But I don't think she's the type of girl you would like, as I said in my comment. It really is hard to let go of someone you have feelings for... But, she should've been more respectful or at least asked you your side of the story. Right now you just need to focus on keeping yourself safe.

  • OMG! You should talk about this abuse with a legal assistent.

    • And what about that neighbor girl? can she start talking to me again?

  • First of all, forget the girl for a sec and take a look at the way u r being treated by your own family. Get out of that situation first then focus on a girl.

    • I agree with you

    • And as you can see, she’s not even taking it into consideration that that’s not a normal situation so forget her

    • after one Month that Neighbor Girl talked to me a little she sarcastically asked if I am okay? and how is my penis now? she didn't ask empathically. …. I think My 19 Years old Sister has convinced her about my punishment.

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  • Your family are abusive phycopaths and you should call the police because there is no way this is legal no matter where you live get the cops and get the hell out!!!

    • I dont want to call the police because of some reasons, i would move out once i complete my schooling, but i still like that neighbor Girl, Do you think she would talk to me Again?

    • If you explain the situation then maybe but honestly you need to get the cops before you have perminant physical damage this is child abuse and borderline rape dude it's not something to shrug off CALL. THE. COPS!

    • My both Sisters are Stubborn and Aggresive... i am scared of them, Also if i try to fight back then they might yank my penis off.

  • If they are really against your will jerking tour penis you need to call the police, that's sexual assault, maybe even rape, get neighbor girl to be a witness to it. Inalmost think her being a witness to the police may be tour best bet to get her talking to you again too, cause as is it probably seem like your fine with it, and that might scare her off.

    You think she was asking about your penis sarcastically but maybe she sounded that way cause she was nervous or uncomfortable, if I saw something like that I wouldn't exactly want to talk about it.

    A good reply to her asking probably would have been "it's ok now, but it really hurts when he's doing it, I can't stop him, I dont know what to do to make it stop "

    In case your sister has lied to her a reply like would have let her know, its not your idea, you dont enjoy it, you want it to stop but you can't stop it and you don't get any pleasure from it

    • I told her that Now I am better and my penis is okay Now……... I hope she will start talking Normally instead of being sarcastic, but Now she got to know that if i do any mistakes at home then I get punished and my penis is being pulled and yanked like she herself saw this... So if she asks me about that then I will have to agree that My 22 years old Sister Rule the house and I am being bullied by her and by her boyfriend... that Neighbor girl also talk to My 22 years old Sister and with her boyfriend So I think she must be aware of this matter. You know at that day My oldest Sister's boyfriend was pulling and yanking my penis so brutally that it made me crying due to extreme Pain and I was shocked when that neighbor girl saw me crying even then she didn't ask my 19 years old sister to intervene and stop him, Instead she went out for her dance class with my sister.

    • Indont know how long this has been a punishment for you, you may not. know this cause it's always been like this for you but that is not at all an acceptable or legal punishment, spankings aren't even commomly excepted any more and this is much worse. I know you want to know how talk to neighbor girl again but the problem isn't that she SAW it, the problem is that it happened and continues to happen. So does it seem like a normal punishment too you? Let me know

    • I don't take it like a Normal Punishment but it's been happening with me Since I was 13 Years old and Now I am 17 years old Still My Mom and both older Sisters think that they can continue this... I thought at that day that neighbor Girl must have been shocked / scared to see how badly I was being punished but after that day I kept on trying to approach her and talk to her... but she ignored me 3-4 weeks and Now she just talked to me that sarcastically like I was really Guilty and they justified my punishment to her... but you know, at that day my penis was pulled and yanked mercilessly for around 20 Minutes Just because of that Neighbor Girl ! And she even don't know how much pain I had to suffer because of her and Now she talking that Rudely.

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  • Maybe you enjoy those people seeing you naked. Not putting you down. ok? But you can turn things around, I go completly naked at home a lot, all the time in fact. I have 8 brothers, we versoften all my bros do it, means nothing to me but feels good. Are you saying you dont like all that, if not then put vaseline on your penis but dont let him see you doing it, then he touches it, moan and say.. thank you! If he didn't enjoy it he wouldn't do it. You might as well enjoy it too. Right man?

  • Omg you have lost face and honor. Time to stand up to regain your honor. If this is how she acts, my suggestion is to find someone else

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