Can you tell if a woman is sexually experienced? How?

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zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

Sometimes. Virgins can be somewhat easier to spot because they typically (maybe 80%) fit into one of three categories:

1. Unaware: they don't really know how to flirt or be sexual.

2. Overcompensating: they act like they are experienced, but because they have no actual experience, one can see through the farce after a short time.

3. Bashful: They are obviously inexperienced and completely shy or easily embarrassed during flirting or if a sexual aspect is introduced to the interaction. (though some experienced women also have this)

I will say of course this is just theory and isn't always 100% accurate. I've interacted with women and didn't realize until a fair bit later "oh duh, she was a virgin!", and have had a one that I mistakenly suspected she was a virgin at first, but she was just an awkward type. Though to be fair she had some sexual experience but was still learning a lot about her own sexuality and that of others.

Conversely, some women are very sexually experienced/active but quite good at hiding it. You only know when you are the one they wish to have sex with, but for most others they wouldn't imagine how she can be.

Can you tell if a woman is sexually experienced? How?

I think it's best to have communication with a woman and find out where she's at, what she's done, what she likes, and if appropriate, help her explore more into what she might enjoy.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Yes, by the way she kisses and her lack of inhibition when making out.

And especially when we first get sexually intimate. An experienced woman can be nervous and full of anticipation at first, but she's not scared.
In terms of foreplay (not just oral sex), she knows what she likes and she knows what to do to a man.
When it's time for penetration, I can tell by her reactions that she is familiar with cock. And she knows how to let go and participate spontaneously during sex. I don't have to give her instructions. She can anticipate my moves and knows how to move and position herself to maximize pleasure.

mandyfire98 · Accepted Answer

Yeah usually if she knows how to talk to men or women. The confidence, the charisma. It works with both men and women. If they're good at talking to men or women, charismatic, knows what to say , when to say it. Usually means they've talked to a good bit of men or women, usually means they've had the charisma to get men or women, they're experienced. Experience in bed makes you better at it. You know from physically doing it what it takes to please different people.

So basically if you can talk your way into a person's bedroom and you're good it, you've had the experience.

Somebody that can't talk to men or women well, probably hasn't had much sexual experience really.

laurieluvsit · Accepted Answer

The rocket science isn't too heavy on this one.

Those who want you to know non-verbally will tell you by their demeanor and/or the way they dress, also using some tattoo's, body piercings in certain places and florescent hair color dye as expressions. Obviously there are exceptions to that rule, but the rule remains.

Those who don't want you to know, or aren't experienced, will see to it that you get none of those clues.

wolfcat87 · Answer

Hahaha, no. Men assume I have little to no experience unless I say otherwise. It's possibly because I present as young, sweet, shy, and innocent in person. They will likely assume an extrovert who presents as sexy and flirtatious is more experienced.

I certainly can't guess how experienced another woman is either until she says so. Gave up on that one, it's impossible. For example, one conservative acting friend would have had me thinking under 5. She'd already hit 35 by her mid 20's. 🤷‍♀️

VIVANT · Answer

Lol wow some of these answers… look a women can be comfortable in her own skin and with her bay and dress in whatever way and be charismatic and get along with people and flirt — and STILL never have had sex. None of this has anything to do with “proof” 😂 🤦🏻‍♀️

Altheavas · Answer

I think one might be able to tell, by how comfortable she is in her own skin. Even her dressing style, the way she coordinates her outfits, and her attitude might tell more than you think. Her scents and, her parfume.
Small details tells a lot. People don’t pay attention to those.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Probably they can. My ex guessed himself that I was a virgin even before I told him.

EmyyWolf · Answer

I’m a woman and I can tell.

Generally she’s flirty or finds ease at flirting. From what I’ve noticed.

There was this guy I liked. It made me nervous. She wasn’t nervous at all.

AKA; Sexually Experienced

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

I think this is going very from partner to partner, some women, exude sexual desire, and some take time to share their experiences or techniques. I'm sure fear of being labeled plays into some women's openness. Something to note, is sexual experience something that all of us want to identify right away in a relationship?

RebelinSteel · Answer

Not at all, it’s impossible, you cannot even say if a girl is a virgin in most cases. So zero chance of knowing if she is sexually experienced.

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

Eh it depends on the position and what you're doing. Oral and riding are typically the tells since a beginner won't be able to take the d as far or as quickly as someone with experience. But during typical missionary, it would be tricky to guess

neilsmart · Answer

when experienced we can deepthroat without choking and gagging

Dinklex3 · Answer

No, lol. I remember people assumed I was experienced when I was a virgin. The first guy I had sex with was shook.

sawno · Answer

Only to the extent that it matters, if she's experienced she will know what she likes and she will know what felt good on her previous partners. So if she is experienced she should teach me what works on her body so I can mix these things along with my attempts to discover something new, if she is inexperienced we explore and find out.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I guess if you sleep with her you can

TadCurious · Answer

You can't be absolutely certain. But if you're in bed with her and she knows how to do female-to-male foreplay and doesn't just lie there then that's a pretty good indication she's had sex before.

Dargil · Answer

If she initiates and is skilled at oral sex, that's a clear indicator.

JacobJordan · Answer

How she acts, dresses, talks. The more she has slept around the worse it gets. Simple version... vast majority of women have 2 presentations. 1 they have a personality that is nice and they dress modestly because they have that personality. Or 2 they don't have a good personality and they reveal progressively more and more skin the less personality they have. So if she is basically naked in public safe to say she has no personality

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I think me and the girl, got to get together to know whether we know, she is sexually experienced.

Nikki1989 · Answer

How a person talks is the first clue, and that goes for men too.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Oh yeah. How she fucks

NoOneEver · Answer

Only if I knew them from before they were sexually experienced… There is a dynamic shift in personality after…

And I’ve only known a few girls that way before… And the compare and contrast as to their behaviors and their speech dialogue shifted as well as their perspectives on life after the events occurred…

They were like completely different people in some ways while still retaining certain core parts of their identity, but also losing a few others..

systemsareyo · Answer

Sometimes if the woman is pretty and braggy and flirty with everything that moves, yes my mind often makes assumptions then 😃😆

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