Do ALL guys fantasize about other women?

[Anonymous]

So I've been wondering if my boyfriend fantasizes about other women. I have made complete sure that he knows I wouldn't have a problem if he did. I have repeatedly told him I know it won't affect his love for me. We love each other but we haven't had sex yet. We've done other things just not sex. We're also both virgins. I had more experience than him before we met. I sometimes ask what he fantasizes about because I want to be able to fulfill some of them. He's very open with me but he told me he didn't have fantasies before he met me (which is obviously a lie. I could tell he was lying even if it wasn't). He's also extremely loyal. One time he had a dream he held hands with another woman and said he woke up so upset and begged me to forgive him the next day. He knows I've dreamt about sex with other men (and women) but still insists he never fantasizes about other women. So I believed him.. But On the Internet I haven't seen a single guy say he doesn't fantasize about other women and I'm not planning on confronting him either way, but is it possible he doesn't ever fantasize about other women?

[OlderAndWiser]

Of course it's possible, but it's also very unlikely. When you said, "I have made complete sure that he knows I wouldn't have a problem if he did," you understand that he doesn't trust you to really mean that. . . and neither would I or any other guy.

This is an area where prying and questioning and demanding answers just creates problems. Suppose he tells you that there is some girl at school that he fantasizes about. . . or some hot young teacher. . . how are you going to handle that information? If the answer to your question doesn't make a difference, why is it so important for you to know?

Not revealing information in this area is not the same thing as being dishonest, and this is one area where I would advise you to stop asking questions. Assume that he DOES fantasize about other women, assume that these are fantasies that he will never attempt to turn into reality, and assume that pushing him for specifics will ruin your relationship.

[Asker]

Well as I said, I'm not planning on confronting him. And I was being honest when I said I wouldn't mind if he fantasized about other women. I think it's completely natural. The thing is, I don't like not knowing if someone is lying. If he is, I understand why, but I would like to know the truth.

[Myselfplusrespect]

It is possible but highly unlikely. I do not fantasize about other women, but that doesn't mean I haven't before. To say he "never" does it is probably a bit extreme, he has more than likely done it a few times here and there. It could have been a long time ago so who knows.

Odds are he has fantasized about other women before. There are many of us out there that do not fantasize about other women while in a relationship though. It's pretty easy not to, especially if the person your with is everything you want.

So to answer your question. Yes, it is possible he does not =D

[Anonymous]

Supposedly they do. I sure fucking hope not though because I don't fantasize about other guys.

[vjreejr]

When I was in love with this one girl, I ONLY fantasized about her. She was wonderful and I wanted to marry her and she was beautiful and, while a virgin, also rather hot and not exactly a prude. She indulged me too. So, it was just her.

She dumped me though and so I fantasize about many women now.

[Klaatu51]

nope if i was in aa serious relationship i'd not 8)

[emerald77]

Most of them do.

[JennieF]

Yeah, I think so.

[B1gbadw01f]

I'd say yes! However the fact you two haven't done it yet, maybe you're just always on his mind.
I think it like what's in the box. You see a pretty girl and think, I wonder what's under there. Does she do this or that, is she as innocent as she looks or...

[Anonymous]

Most do. Not in the honeymoon phase of the relationship, but after a while, yes.