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Do men low key want crazy women?

Like is this attractive to men? I have to ask because I’ve seen it time and time again where a guy would be the most emotionally attached to a crazy ex, that I would typically assume they would find as off putting behaviour but they don’t, because they’ve not got over them in years and still reach out on occasion or answer their texts.

I’ve acted crazy with a guy before too, and although he did consider cutting contact multiple times he never did. That being said, overtime I did get less toxic overtime with some good communication and boundaries between both of us. Once I discussed going on the pill and he told me he wouldn’t want me to do that, that he didn’t mind wearing a condom. I asked why, and he said he didn’t want to mess with my hormones. I asked why it mattered to him and he told me “I don’t want you to change. You’re a good kind of crazy, but I don’t want you to get crazier and I also don’t want you to get less crazy cuz that’s boring”.

I’ve seen it in a lot of cases though, men seem to get bored with women that aren’t crazy in some way (I don’t mean domestic abuse crazy by the way, more like mind games or getting upset over seeing them talk to other girls after a breakup and actively trying to ruin their relationship or getting too involved with things that don’t include them in their life).

I'm honestly really interested in hearing what you guys have to say so please let me know, and girls don’t be afraid to share your stories of being the crazy girl that had a guy that kept running back to her.

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Most Helpful Guys

  • sometimes dating a crazy girl can be a wild ride. I dated somebody who was a bartender and aspiring singer. She was a high functioning alcoholic and her life revolved around drinking and partying. I never knew what she was going to do next. We dated for 4 or 5 months. She abused me sometimes. She was abused herself by her parents. I think she was bipolar or something.

    We had a lot of fun but it was also sort of sad. She would often get falling down drunk and more than once she passed out while we were having sex. We went into the city to a concert. She drank a lot before we went and drank more while we were there. I did not realize how drunk she was but I had to practically carry her out. Then as we were driving home she flashed a whole carload of guys. The next day she did not remember any of it,

    • Yeah I don't know if she’s crazy or just has addiction issues

    • I think it was both. She was self medicating and I think she was bi polar. I wanted her to see a shrink and she got angrey with me and would not see me anymore. It is easy to think about just the bad stuff she did but the truth is she was really a sweet and loving person. I was a 22 year old kid and didn't know much about mental illness.

    • Oh yeah, especially in your time (your 20s). I wouldn’t expect mental illness to be openly talked about the way it is today. I guess I wouldn’t want to call her crazy if she’s bipolar, it’s not completely her fault even if she needs to be held accountable for her actions, but yeah. That sucks

  • OK, I do sort of like women being a challenge.

    It is like taming a wild animal and getting it to the point of eating out of your hand. Every man has to cope with crazy emotional women but there is consolable and crazy inconsolable. Consolable is sort of good because we like being a beneficial aspect in your life. There is another taming aspect here too.

    Crazy inconsolable and being constantly too challenging is too much and a walk away prospect.

    Part of our role on earth is to fix girls and we do like fixing things. But like everything else if you are not fixable it is the trash can.

    • I think it’s the same for women who want bad boys

Most Helpful Girls

  • Honestly only some!

    My friend who died last year had a very crazy ex! But the thing is she was a huge issue cause she would come back to him after it all!

    Usually crazy have 3 guys they always go back to. Bad date... Ex... Bad week... Ex

    So it's a bad cycle for her also. Like you said sometimes people change and get better. Usually not though your lucky

    But yes some guys want a crazy girl who wants them needs them and who will scream at them manipulate them and use them how ever!

    Cause after all she just loves him right?

  • Men will say they don't want crazy women but then only date the crazy women lol. The calm/shy women are too boring for them

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  • I personally do not. Now, I subscribe to the belief that all women have a little bit of crazy in them. I know that sounds sexist but, it’s kind of how I see it. Having said that once that little bit of crazy becomes toxic - and I define that as mean, angry, trust damaging, violent, or risking our career and healthy relationships it’s time to walk away.

    • I mean it makes sense, because who’s the gender that commits most crimes? Like murder, rape, kidnap etc… I t’s men. So, it only makes sense that women are crazy in their own way too. I think it’s just a human trait

    • Make no mistake. I’m not giving men any kind of pass, but the question is about crazy women, not mental health across society as a whole.

  • I will say he is right about the birth control. One of the main reasons women lose interest in the man they're with is because they took hormonal birth control.. and that eventually, after about 4 to 6 months, changes everything about how they feel... about men and everything. Some BC is supposedly non-hormonal, but it still is. They make a false claim.

    As for men and crazy women... it's just attention. Men like attention too, and it turns out we only get excessive attention from crazy women.

  • There may be something to it. That intensity and goal-oriented behavior. Intoxicating to have someone be a rabid taker.
    Romantic although bad for me.

  • crazy women are hot in bed. Period.

  • Nope.

  • no thanks...

  • Nope, but they can throw it pretty well from what I've seen.

    • Throw it? Like in the bedroom?

    • Yeah.

  • I’m not the crazy girl, but sadly I think this is true for a lot of guys

  • Nah, no way. Crazy women are great when it comes to sex, but they have way too much drama and chaos in their lives and they can be a real danger to a guy (especially if she's a Borderline).

  • Nah... crazy girls certainly grab our attention more, but it's not like a nice, enjoyable experience. I assume it's a similar kind of thing to why so many girls end up with bad boys; the good times can be great, but the bad times are absolutely awful. And honestly, the good times are really only nice because the woman isn't actively trying to ruin our life, so it's a breath of fresh air.

    I'd rather have a calm woman in my life, any day.

    • Yeah I agree, I think it’s the same with women and bad boys. I don't know, I feel like if the woman is very beautiful and charismatic regardless on her toxic traits, a lot of men just become doormats and put up with it

    • That definitely happens, yeah. Hotties get away with a lot of stuff that normal folks don't.

  • There is boil my puppy in a pot and key my car crazy and there is fun and adventurous crazy. If you can handle the 2nd it's totally worth it.

    • I guess I’m thinking of one person in particular but also, I just wanted to know what other men think. The girl I’m talking about wasn’t violent, physically abusive or argumentative. She was emotionally abusive, she always spoke to other men during their relationship, sending random selfies, flirting in text with co-workers and one time a another co-worker was drunk laughing at him and spilled the fact that she talks to other guys in the workplace but he told him not to tell her (how stupid), it caused a lot of drama and she even confronted him about it, she also cheated on him with someone else and asked for him to have a break so she could explore her feelings with the other guy. When they officially broke up she happened to just turn up to places she knew he would be from when they were dating and make it seem like it was random (I believe this was only once or twice though), she had s*x with him when she found out he was dating someone else, she tried to intentionally ruin his relationship with a girlfriend by setting him up and kissing him, then messaging her on fb telling her he cheated with her. They would also be flirting and have “I love you” convos while the start of the relationship with the girlfriend but overtime it stopped. One time she lead him up the stairs in a party and kissed him, then told her boyfriend to pick her up from the party and told him he “tried to kiss her”. And they would just be flirting the whole way through that relationship with this guy (she’s now married to this man), like she would text him she loves him once a month and then blame it on his mental health issues and past with suicide. That she’s afraid that he would do something stupid and blame her. Anyway, sorry for all this, it’s exhausting but that’s the crazy I’m referring to

    • I don't consider that low key crazy. That is bat s**t crazy. Slightly clingy and crazy can be ok sometimes. Obsessed crazy is never ok

    • Yeah I’m the slightly crazy clingy kind but she’s insane. A lot of my insecurities were from this situation though, I tried to tell her husband but I had no real proof and he clearly didn’t want to believe it. Instead he handed the phone to the ex to text me and I got to experience first hand how manipulative she is, she did cause me to doubt myself. Until my best friend (the guy I’m talking about that dated her years ago) apologised to another ex (the one that he cheated on her with when they kissed and texted in the beginning of their relationship) about his actions and she mentioned how she’s “surprised he didn’t get back together with his ex considering how insistent she was to get in the middle of things at the time”. Yeah I was shocked. I never doubted him, but a third person confirming everything when I’ve seen how convincing this woman can be is scary.

  • absolutely not. neither low, nor high key. the only "crazy" thing men love is "sex crazy".

    the thing is that the more attractive women are, the more crazy they seem to get. which can be psychologically explaines. the more you can get away with, the more you will try to get away with and the less effort you have to make the less you will make. this goes universally. for men and for women.

    anyway: what men really like is hot girls. so there's the dilemma. how "crazy" are you willing go for in return for being with a "hot" chick? that's the terrible choice men are faced with.

  • Yeah, kind of… 😉😂

  • Lmfaooo. Kinda lowkey they do. But not one that’s gonna purposely crash my car stopping me from making money type crazy.

  • Every man wants a crazy woman

    • Are you joking?

    • @PhantomMenace22 yes lol

    • Lol I figured 😂

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  • I don't need any more drama in my life, I'm too old for that shit

  • Recreational use only!

  • Crazy in what way

    • Copy and pasted this response from another option. Note she’s very charismatic and pretty. I guess I’m thinking of one person in particular but also, I just wanted to know what other men think. The girl I’m talking about wasn’t violent, physically abusive or argumentative. She was emotionally abusive, she always spoke to other men during their relationship, sending random selfies, flirting in text with co-workers and one time a another co-worker was drunk laughing at him and spilled the fact that she talks to other guys in the workplace but he told him not to tell her (how stupid), it caused a lot of drama and she even confronted him about it, she also cheated on him with someone else and asked for him to have a break so she could explore her feelings with the other guy. When they officially broke up she happened to just turn up to places she knew he would be from when they were dating and make it seem like it was random (I believe this was only once or twice though), she had s*x with him when she found out he was dating someone else, she tried to intentionally ruin his relationship with a girlfriend by setting him up and kissing him, then messaging her on fb telling her he cheated with her. They would also be flirting and have “I love you” convos while the start of the relationship with the girlfriend but overtime it stopped. One time she lead him up the stairs in a party and kissed him, then told her boyfriend to pick her up from the party and told him he “tried to kiss her”. And they would just be flirting the whole way through that relationship with this guy (she’s now married to this man), like she would text him she loves him once a month and then blame it on his mental health issues and past with suicide. That she’s afraid that he would do something stupid and blame her. Anyway, sorry for all this, it’s exhausting but that’s the crazy I’m referring to

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  • Only beta insecure losers want crazy woman.

  • Not I, said the Virgin.

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