Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Do most women find virgin men undateable and unattractive?
Anonymous
Ok, so I am nearly 30 years old, and a virgin. I have done everything sexual with my exes, except for intercourse. I was born and raised in an ultra-conservative country, where sex before marriage is viewed as a sin. I struggled with all the restriction, but I now live in a developed country since a few months. I wanted to get back into the dating scene here, but it seem like women want sexually experienced men, and me being a virgin at 30, means I'm almost written off as a potential partner. Should I lose my virginity to a prostitute, just to become eligible to date (prostitution is legal here)? I'd really not prefer to do that. And I'm not even looking only for virgin women. I'm fine with anyone.
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Except for me being a virgin, there is nothing 'conservative' about me, in spite of my upbringing. I'm quite open-minded.
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I don't go around proclaiming that I'm a virgin. I even tend to avoid this topic. I only reveal this if the matter comes up as part of a general conversation.
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What Girls & Guys Said
54 38I currently fancy a guy who is a virgin at 31. No problem at all :)
I would prefer my man to be a virgin since I'm saving myself for narriage but in certain specific conditions I would be Ok with him not being virgin!
First, dont go to a whore, it's not cool and it's nasty. You'll regret it.
Secondly, no woman will care if you're a virgin. Seriously. I promise you.
Ok thanks, I'll trust your promise! Appreciate your response!
"First, dont go to a whore, it's not cool and it's nasty. You'll regret it" As I said to the other user above, I thought I would regret it forever and it actually never bothers me.
for guys virginity is not that precious. go to a prostitute if you want. Nobody cares
No, no, no, no, no.
Wow, you say that with such enthusiasm! Gives some hope to men like me! :)
Well good. Being a virgin isn't a bad thing and if someone brushes you off for being one then that isn't the type of person you want to be with. Also as far as I know prostitution is only legal in Utah. Either way I would never advise someone to lose their virginity to someone they don't know on an emotional level (let alone a sex worker). I wish you luck in your dating life and to find a women who accepts you for you.
No, it's not Utah. I'm not in the US, this is a different country! But thanks for your comment, it made me feel better! :)
Your welcome. <3
@SilenRose "Either way I would never advise someone to lose their virginity to someone they don't know on an emotional level (let alone a sex worker)" I used to believe in this when I used to be a virgin. My first 3 or 4 sexual experiences were with sex workers and it's actually not bad... I never get flashbacks of guilt or anything of the sort.
If you are trying to get laid, NEVER say that your a virgin.
It's far more about the person and whether we click :)
Glad to know that! :)
no. as long as you come across confident it's fine. i would not disclose the sexual stuff until close to the moment.
Good advice! Thanks! :)
Uhhh, no. I don't think you should lose your virginity to a prostitute. While some women prefer guys to be experienced, not all do.
You need a sexual therapist if you run out of options 😊
You have enough experience. I'd say you're alright.
What if he didn't?
Him being virgin is irrelevant to how I feel about him. It doesn't add attractiveness or remove attractiveness. There are more important quality that I care about him. So i don't care.
Go for a professional escort. There is no guarantee with a street prostitute.
i dont feel u should lose it to a prostitute cuz will regret it ,, have no worries a lot of people are also virgins including me and i also believe in marriage before sex.
Don't advertise your virginity, don't talk about your sex life unless asked. Even if you ARE asked, u don't have to say that private info if u don't want to.
Most women who are over 20 and not waiting until marriage will probably be turned off by it but that doesn't mean its a deal breaker. Its one of things that women will use to insult a guy. Its commonly used as an insult even if the girl doesn't know the guy is a virgin. Like online if a guy says something that offends them, like if he's not attracted to fat girls, they will respond with something like "what makes you think a fat girl would want you in the first place, you're just a pathetic virgin". Virgin is almost always used as an insult for a guy, its never considered a positive thing.
I've always wanted a virgin man with me being raised christian im saving my virginity for my husband so i think its hot
Glad to know that! :)
I've enjoyed being a singleton. Just Reserve For Someone Who Really Deserve Me.
@CharlesRitchet exactly
I am still a virgin, I d like an experienced guy so he can lead the way.
but again, I can t expect this from a guy since I am a virgin as well, it would be egoist :P
if I really like the guy, I don t think it would matter much honestly. we can experiment together :P
Glad to know that you're open-minded. Like I have mentioned, I've done everything sexual, except intercourse. So it's not like I'm completely inexperienced! :)
yea :p where are you from btw? huh well I am completely inexperienced :P
I'm from Sri Lanka, now living in Australia!
Are u a dick bro
@amanwalia why do you say that?
Bro u should find if u see in your socity
Bruh if anything, look for a fuck buddy. Ya know, friends with benefit type thing to get the experience. After that, you'll be good in the game to date girls. Goodluck.
They are less likely to have a std so its fine