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Sexual Health Do you feel someone having sex with their spouse while they're asleep, is essentially rape?
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I was watching an old episode of Dr. Phil where this couple was on there and the husband admitted to having sex with his wife while she was sound asleep. He said "he wanted to see if he could do it without waking her up", he also thought it would be "funny". So, do you believe if a spouse has sex with their spouse while they are fast asleep, that it could essentially be defined as rape (since they are not awake to give consent)? What do you think?
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21 29If I ask her beforehand and she says yes it's not rape.
Well, if they stay asleep, then I don't think the person is very good at it.
Yeah no consent was given so it is rape.
Yes it is.
i dont think its rape but its disgusting.
i think if thee is no prior consent given then its rape or sexual assault regardless of the gender of the victim.
Give me a break... another man hater out there being politically correct on sex in marriage...
So, because I ask a question out curiousity that somehow makes me a man hater? Way to make assumptions because that couldn't be further from the truth.
Right...
Yeah curiosity...
Yes, that was exactly it. I'm a curious person and I wanted to know.
Well I think it just another hateful question against men typical of most millennial girls now days.. All men are evil and rapist... Very curious... indeed and if she doesn't wake up I will beat her up too
Is it typical for you to jump to conclusions like that? Because, I never said any of that. All my friends are guys, so there's goes your "she hates all men" theory, huh?
I did not jump to any conclusions this is what you think and want to portray on here that men are assholes and you are so politically correct that men actually rape there wives... Typical of your generation... I am a Dom and I do respect women more that you respect men...
First of all, I was born in the late 80's and I grew up in the 90's. So, this isn't exactly my generation. Second of all, I do respect men all the most important people in my life are men. Third of all, I was watching an old episode of Dr. Phil and this was a case on there. Where this husband had sex with his wife while she was sound asleep and she ended up getting pregnant because of it and was confused as to how because they hadn't had sex in awhile. When she found out, she felt violated but never used the word rape. I decided to ask this question because I was curious if people would see it as rape, since the definition of rape is having sex with someone without their consent. That's it. Nothing more. Nothing less. It was simply just a question, that's all.
Actually that is your definition... Not mine
Actually, that's just the definition of what it is.
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THAT'S HIS PARTNER
So waking up your boyfriend with a blowjob is rape too?
I had a girlfriend that liked to wake me up by giving me a bj in middle of the night. Sometimes she liked to sleep with me in her mouth. She liked sex all the time and would not have minded if it was while she was sleeping.
Almost makes me question why I ever broke up with her
Yes it's rape.
If I marry someone, I give her full permission to have sex with me anytime and anywhere. I don't expect the same in return
Some marriage... who is the boss I guess she is
@MasterofYou I might have a different approach to sex than she does. And I can't speak for someone else. Sex to me isn't about getting off, it's about giving pleasure to your partner. I'd be more than happy to get me partner off and not get off myself
*my partner off
Depends on where you are.
In Sweden and some states in the US it is rape (The man in Sweden had sex multiple times with her before going to sleep and then had sex with her when she was (half) sleeping. Famouse because the man was Julian Assange and the Swedish authorities try to get him since years)
Yes.
It's rape if she decides it is.
I suffer a sleep disorder that causes me to have sex with my wife while I sleep. My wife was a little scared at the start but she just goes with it and its over pretty quick.
women love that ;) ;) ;) ;) ;)
Some people are ok with this kind of thing when they've already had sex and know each other, I could see it happening out of the blue and a woman being ok with it. But if they've previously said it's ok then it's definitely totally fine. Best say something to your partner first.
If there's previous and recent sexual history there then I'd say that's extenuating circumstances and not going to be called sexual assault unless it continues after a no or safeword.
If we say that sleeping people can *never* give consent then that also means things like wake-up blowjobs become sexual assault even when we want them.
There IS such a thing as marital rape. It's on the books. It's establishing law. YOU STILL NEED CONSENT FROM YOUR SPOUSE OR IT'S RAPE!!!
This is absolutely ridiculous, and you people are insane. How is this RAPE? Are you fucking kidding me? That is an insult to all the rape victims out there.
Care to explain how that is an insult? She's asleep, soundly so and completely unaware of what happened when she wakes up the next day. So, what would you consider that if not rape?
In fact he should had asked before if she okey with that kind of thing, just to be safe.