Do you have any former sexual partners who are now deceased?

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The girl who took my virginity died last year after a prolonged battle with kidney failure. I had not spoken to her in several years but knew about her life from a distance. I thought that her death might make me sad but, after the passage of 50 years, I felt nothing. I have another former lover who is now 85 years old if she is still alive, but we have no mutual friends, so she could have died and I would not be aware of it.

Have you ever learned that a former lover had died? Does the idea that a former lover could be deceased make you feel weird?

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I'm FB friends with my very first girlfriend. She was 14 and I was 16 when we were together. Several years later, she married one of my best friends. We were all on really good terms. They had two daughters but got divorced at some point because she became the mayor of a small town and he became a cheater, a pot head, and worked as an unskilled laborer/handyman.

I lost touch with them but then, many years later, I ran into Donna and we became FB friends. She's a happy grandma now and her daughters turned out great.

I have no idea what happened to any of my other girlfriends except for Petra.

Petra was 30 when I was 37 and we lived together for over a year. I adored her. Unfortunately, we were not meant to be lifelong partners and separated painfully but amicably. Being without her was the greatest pain I have ever experienced in my life. I was a wreck for a year before I was finally able to pull myself together and move on.

Twenty years later, she found me on Facebook. We wound up talking a few times on the phone. She was living out of state. I was elated to be in touch and to know that she was happy.

Five years later, I read that she had died from a sudden medical problem at age 55. I was devastated. I loved her with my heart and soul and always will. I will never forget her.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Have 3 that passes on.

1st : She was 17, we been going out for a few months, 2 nights to the day she passed away was the day I took her virginity. We had gone to look at a car she wanted to buy, it was a blue 92 Dodge Shadow that we decided to get it because it only had 28k miles on it. Both the salesman and her died in that car when it head on with a truck with a drunk driver, happened a mere 200 yards from the lot. Still can’t forget that day though 19 years had passed since.

2: We were dating for a year while at college, last I saw her was at graduation then never heard from her again. Recently found out she had passed away 7 years ago. She was 4 days away from turning 30. She collapsed after running a marathon. Cardiac arrest.

3: We dated during high school and remained friends after that. We were friends since we were 4 as we lived a mere 3 houses away during those years. She was my first. She passed away 3 years ago. Covid. A sad one because she has 4 kids, 3 of them under 8 years of age.

meetkitty123 · Accepted Answer

My dear sweet love passed away. I love him dear even to this day. He was my best friend. He was so sweet and gentle with me. The first man to show me how a woman should be treated. He was my first real love. We were in an active relationship when he passed away. It was a bit traumatic for me. We had been talking about moving in together ❤️. We were making plans for something deeper. We had setup a date for the even. I spoke to him earlier that day. That even I got dressed up and I waited for him and I waited never thinking that I would be forever waiting for him. He died on the way to see me. The saddest part unbenounced he was planning on purposing. I discovered this at the wake. His family had taking me to the side and told me how crazy he was for me. They told me he never stopped talking of me and he had purchased a ring. 😞 I let them keep it so they could return it and help pay for the funeral. They were bery greatful for that. I think of him often and I will never forget our romance or love making in his truck under the stary country sky.

CourtneyJane2 · Accepted Answer

I had a friend and fellow exotic dancer that I also had intimate relations with, on and off, go missing and her body was found days later near a cartel enclave in Mexico during a drug raid.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

I haven't had this experience. It was surprisingly uncomfortable for me to think about this question. I don't even know how I would feel to be honest.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

The first man I ever loved, we would of gotten married but he was killed in a car accident, so yes... former partner is now gone. It nearly destroyed me too, but as for the others. I am not aware of any that have passed on. Doesn't mean that they haven't as many I have no contact with at all.

There is a couple of bad ones, violent, cheaters, etc... that I kind of hope they have to protect other women from them in the future, but still no idea.

19magic · Answer

I doubt it even the eldest one is 39, but I don't have any info on them anyhow

Anemone978 · Answer

There have only been 2 and they are both very much alive lol

petitedollbabee · Answer

No, although sometimes I wish 1 or 2 of them were… I’ve only had friends pass away, no former sexual partners.

SnowedIn · Answer

None that I know of have died.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

One, but it was for a one-night stand, so not sure she counts as a lover.

It was a car accident, she somehow ended up in the other lane and to avoid incoming traffic sverved off the road.

Ironic thing is that I learned about her death last year, when she had died back in 2020.

slatyb · Answer

I don't know.

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap. Two thus far.

Dargil · Answer

Not that I know of.

AviatorTom · Answer

Yes, a woman I dated for about 6 months several years ago, passed away 2 years after we broke up. Her sister informed me.

LovingJo · Answer

Probably?

ManOnFire · Answer

Wow. What an interesting question. I honestly have to say, for the ones I haven't seen in a pretty long time, I have no idea if they're alive or not. And in fact I am thinking of one in particular who I would be incredibly heartbroken to know had died. Not that I would date her now or anything but because she was a very sweet person, and thinking she died would definitely give me intense anguish and sorrow.

Wow, man. What a question. I think you got me in my feelings there lol.

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

I know 1 of them is alive and well. I don't care about her, wouldn't feel much if she died. 2 I don't know. Tbh if either of them died, I would be pretty sad. Not cuz I liked them much but bc one was a rlly sweet girl and already been through shit, she deserves a longer better life than that. And the other just fuck, we both should've died in hs. If she's dead now and I have like indefinite future, that'd feel weird ya. I wish she make it out too or at least find peace b4 going down. I worry I'll know somehow when she dies so that at least makes me think she hasn't yet. I'd try to find something about her, but that's a very bad idea

exitseven · Answer

I do not have a big body count but I have found out where they all are and as far as I could tell they are all alive.

Anpu23 · Answer

At least two have passed, one while we were seeing each other. The other one I heard last October that she's no longer with us. I hadn't seen her for over 20 years.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I have never had sex.

Kabluie · Answer

I believe just one person from high school.

Massageman · Answer

Not yet.

douride2 · Answer

I have no idea if any of my former partners are deceased.

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