Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Do you have sex on the second/third date?
Anonymous
I just met this guy twice and we had great times. He asked me to go to his place when the end of our second date, but I refused. And then now he’s asking me to go to his place watching Netflix. Does he just want sex? We met each other on tinder. I don’t mind having sex however I don’t want him consider me easy. I think he should make more effort, and I don’t want this relationship turn to sex only. I’m afraid he’s doing the same to other girls. I don’t know. Now I don’t know how to reply him. What do you think?
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So I told this guy that I’m not looking for hook up. He said “who says anything about hook up?” And he still wants to meet. (But who knows? Maybe he just doesn’t want to admit For I mentioned previously that I don’t mind having sex, I was too easy for my previous date, I didn’t think too much as I’m not that conservative, and I don’t think it’s my lost. However guys seem don’t treat those girls who have sex with them at early stage?
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Okay so we had dinner yesterday and we talked a lot. And he asked me again if I want to watch that show with him, it was very hard for me to say no, not because I want to go but I’m that kind of person that feel embarrassed to say no to people. So I didn’t answer, just wanted to change topic, but he asked me many times until I mumbled “ok...”, I was thinking to tell him I wanna go home after dinner, but he booked the uber immediately, so yes I didn’t know how to do so I went to his place with him.
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Update: I told this guy that I don’t want to be one of his casual relationships, especially after seeing so many girl’s stuff at his place. He said he understands but he really likes me. In the end we stopped talking about this. After around two weeks he texted me again and asked me out, might be tomorrow. However I really don’t know what to say actually. Seems we are just not attracted to each other enough to cut off other lines.
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What Girls & Guys Said
72 115How about you tell him how your are feeling?
The rule of thumb is not to have sex until after the third date if you want a relationship.
You have to be clear with him, and tell him you’re not the sort of girl to have sex until a while in. If he wants you because he actually likes you, he’ll take the chance that he’ll get some eventually and stay. If not, he’ll be off quicker than you can say fuckboi.
A lot of guys lose interest after the sex part, and if they’re not invested in you, they’ll dart.
Yes and yes and usually on 1st as well
Do what you're comfortable with. You said already you need more from him so wait. If you're looking for love, don't fall for someone who is not there yet to catch you. At this point, it would be just sex and fun. If you're ok with that, then have sex and fun too. He surely will be wanting sex this early.
The guy I was talking to was my friend we went years on and off talking cause our age. I was playing hard to get for 3 months before we even went on our dates. We never had sex until 2/3 days of dating, we went on many dates before we even made it official, we took our kids on play dates to Mc Donalds, walked around the mall, ate at mc dons or Tim Hortons. I went to his place and actually stayed the night, we watched Netflix and cuddled while eating junk food. Netflix don't always mean sex, if he shows you any sign of sex just tell him you want to keep going on dates and actually see if it leads to a relationship
It doesn't generally take that long. I wouldn't wait til the 3rd unless I was getting SUPER strong signals that she was very attracted to me and sex was *going* to happen but she's just nervous or something.
You do as you feel and if sex shouldn't be involved until you know each other a bit more then don't do it. This is your body, your teme and , you will be sooo proud of yourself to stick with your boundaries. Men meet girls with low self esteem, poor principles all the time and trust me they want to feel safe with a woman they know won't have sex easily with any dude. Many trick you by saying or acting like you are boring, not cool etc... They show their true colors...
I don’t mind having sex however I don’t want him consider me easy. I think he should make more effort, and I don’t want this relationship turn to sex only.
Don't have sex. Keep your standards. This is a good way to weed out people who only want.. well... sex.
Yes I will:)
Yeah why not, you need to people for sex and I don't get why people call each other easy when they're involved in this too
If it feels right and both want to, then why not
*two people
It sounds like he only wants sex, if it were me I would just straight up confront him about it, but what could I know, I only kiss on the third date 😅
Tell him no.
Oh holding out are we Lol
I had a potential girlfriend that wanted to wait but while she was holding out her friend moved in on me and I was overpowered by her. I never waited that long unless there was nothing else to do. So yes he probably has many other options and that is just the way it is. If you want something serious it sounds like you need to dump him. Besides, as terrible as you think someone like me is, I would prefer a woman that wants someone serious to find him rather than me. So just make a wise choice.
I guess that happened once on Grand Theft Auto and Sims
If he truly cares about you, Anon.. then he won't be bothered about waiting, but if he gets annoyed etc about you turning him down because you're not ready? then he's not worth it.
I really don't like the sound of him already, and I don't even know the guy.
Just be careful, and do what you want and not what he wants, okay? stay safe. x
when ever you feel comfortable basically if u do it and have a wired throwing up felling or like a gut feeling its probably not a good idea, it has to come naturally
Decide what you really want from him in the relationship and tell him in plain words what your expectations are. If he meets them, reward him, if not, look for someone else.
May be yes
Just be cautious
He was pressuring you.. I advise u not to talk to him anymore
Avoid it he wants sex. Your relationship will be boring if all he wants to do is watch netflix. Whatever happened to going places and adventuring on dates? For me personally sex, netflix, cuddling, etc came after about 1.5 months of dating. For me I try to make the plan to sleep with someone I potentially see as being my ONE. Doesn't always work out but it keeps me calm knowing my odds of getting a disease low.