Does he thinks that I only love his dick anot not him?

[Anonymous]

We are seeing for 3 years. At first I just liked him, and he liked me too. After a year, he told me that he loves me, while he was drunk and while we had sex. I didn't say anything about it.
After a couple of months he told me that I don’t want anything serious with him, that I don’t love him and I told him I had never been in love with him. After that, dating got worse, we saw each other, but I was cold. He thought I was sleeping with others, that he was my other option.
He started asking me every time we saw each other if I was in love with him and I always said no.
He once asked me if I love him during sex and I said yes, and he said I was lying and that I just love his dick. I later said I said that because he was in me. After that, he once fainted that he loved me, but he corrected himself.
He kept saying that he wanted to have a girlfriend, to be in a serious relationship. He asked me when we were going to have a drink, I didn’t want to. He told me he wanted to be in a serious relationship with me, but I didn't say anything.
Then he asked me if I love him and I told him I love him. I keep repeating it since then and telling him.
A couple of weeks ago he asked me why I don't want to be his girlfriend, that he wanted to be with me. During sex, he constantly asks me if I only love his dick or him too. Does he doubt I love him because until recently I said I wasn’t in love with him and because I didn’t want anything serious with him?

[rkf_helps_247]

No offense.

But you guys need to work on your communication.
Coz there's too much lacking of it.

And secondly... if you love him, stop fooling around and just fucking tell him. Don't say you love him one day and say the total opposite another day.


Personally... I don't think what you have is a healthy relationship.
You're young and you're just exploring things.
Pls stop using each other for sex and fun.

If you like him tell him. If you wanna be friends with benefits, tell him. If you don't want anything serious with him, tell him.


Also, a guy who always goes around a woman, asking if she loves him or not is a real fucking pussy. No offense, but that's the truth.

He's literally begging you and asking you regarding your love. So stop making things hard and just tell him how you feel.


And if you love him and tell him, and he still keeps asking, then fucking tell him to stop that shit. Coz it's super irritating.


If you're in love, there's no need for always asking or saying I LOVE YOU. Because you can understand from each other's actions and how they treat you and prioritize you in their life.


And if you don't feel so good in that relationship... get the fuck out. Better late than never. Trust me... i know

[On_the_other_hand]

Yes he doubts everything. You've told him you don't love him multiple times. Then you tell him you love him during sex and then later take it back. What else can he possibly think.

You only talk about love when HE brings it up.

IF you love him. YOU need to tell him you love him. IF you want to be his girl you need to ask him to be yours.

You need to do all this on your own. You need to bring up this subject when you aren't already talking about it. So he knows you are thinking you like, love and want him on your own, without him brining it up first.

Its his turn to be the girl and for you to chase him... if you love him and want him to believe it after everything you said that hurt him.

Don't say any of it if you don't mean it.

[mindNsoul]

Overtime you sent mixed signals and he is as a result insecure about your love now. The man is telling you that he wants something long term. If you don't then tell him That and break up with him. He is obviously too in love to leave you. But he is getting frustrated and hurt that it is one sided. Let him be free to find love as three years is long enough and another three will be a waste.

But if you now truly love him and want to be with him long term, then just be patient with him and keep enforing your love for him and desire to build a life. You can't forget that three years are sufficient time to make him doubt and feel that you don't share his feelings. Now it will take time for him to believe otherwise.

I am sorry but the past in this case is very relevant to his behavior in the present.

[meetkitty123]

I think you have this poor man completely confused
he isn't going to trust your word right now because you haven't proven to him that you are serious
If you are serious and you truly do care then make a commitment to go study and only dates him and of course he has to agree to the same terms
I think you mentioned somewhere about cheating if someone's cheating on the other than this relationship is not going to work
however if he's not cheating on you and he's committed to you and you have really nothing to lose to try to go steady.
You don't have to marry him but it doesn't hurt to make a commitment if you really do like him if you don't like him let him go break it off

[meetkitty123]

The mans turning out to be a jerk Way too toxic Way too demanding If you stay he will probably hurt you

[Smoke-n-Growls]

You've asked the same question with slightly different words at least four times now.

You have serious commitment issues. The problem isn't with him. It's with you.

Get yourself some professional therapy. You have deep seated issues GAG isn't going to solve.

[AustinMan]

Just exactly why won't you be with him?

[Asker]

He is cheater

[Finchie40]

Then why do you still have sex with him?

[AustinMan]

@Finchie40 Excellent question... What say you, @_lucretia_?

[Asker]

I am in love with him

[AustinMan]

I contend that you need to find a good couple's therapist and work to either repair the broken trust or move on. Either sing or get away from the piano. Stop driving each other crazy.

[Finchie40]

Question is how are You in love with him if you don’t trust him and he cheats on you? You loving and accepting a cheater in your life is just letting him know he can do it more and more , so you should really take a step back and value yourself more and realize you deserve better then that , cuz if he is cheating on you he really isn’t in love with you , he loves the convenience of you and loves stringing you along he doesn’t value you

[AmanoYin]

You, are probably having feelings for him while in a bad place in your life..
You need to leave him. Stay single. Watch some videos... a lot of women are fucking up. He might be bad but remember part of this is your fault to. You're young so it's fine as long as you own it and fix it.

Here's a video that will offend you. Dump him. Chill for 1-2 years then find a real guy to marry.

This video isn't to hurt you, but it will. Grow from it.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=GzORUkVZY80

[AmanoYin]

3 years but not serious... literally both of you have problems...

[19magic]

Why do you continue to ask questions about this guy maybe he's not telling the truth but after three years it definitely sounds like he wants you in more than a sexual way. Either you want to be with him or you don't, if you find it weird that people want to be in a long term relationship then continue casual sex but with another guy, as to me it sounds as if you're stringing him along

[OlderAndWiser]

Your relationship with this guy is very painful for us who are watching from the sidelines. You post one or more questions about him every day, complaining about him and the relationship, but you stay in it. Most of us are not drama queens or kings and we all wish you would get to the bottom line: accept him the way that he is, and stop complaining, or end the relationship.

[LuvMeSomeBoys]

I second this comment ☝️☝️

[hellionthesagereborn]

You know 90% of your confusion could be resolved by asking him? I don't know whats going on in his head but he does so he is the one to ask.

[hahahmm]

What level do you feel you are operating on socially?


3-4 year-old
5-9 year-old
9-12 year old

[blank_expression]

That is your choice to stay independent and not dive into a full time LTR. The drinking part doesn’t sound good because he is not really in his true state of mind so how can he know he wants an ltr. I would be very suspicious of someone trying to force the other into an ltr. Those types, by experience, usually turn out to be controlling and eventually abusive. “I just love his dick” that should have been taken as a humorous compliment but it appears that some insecurity was exposed with it. I see a flag up on this one.

[Marcuslrh]

You didn't want anything serious but you kept on with someone like that for 3 years that is clearly obsessed with you🤦‍♂️am not sure what you expected

[Jjpayne]

This is going to be a double copy paste. Because both of these questions are the same to me...
He sounds way to confusing and bouncy for me... He just sounds like he does not know what he wants to do. He keeps on throwing out these what it's and preferences... DUDE! JUST SAY WHAT YOU WANT!

I would be so frustrated by now if I were you. You seem to be very patient and forgiving with him...

I really hope another gager has some good advice for you but I really have no idea what do it other than be very specific with him in terms of questions and forcing him to not give a weak answer.

You can ask all the questions you want based on his behavior but all his behavior is saying is that he is on the fence and does not state clearly what he wants... Make him state clearly what he wants

[FreyaRed]

Gibberish of this guy isn't especially charming or funny. Comparable with slobbering on table while first date in 4 star restaurant.
I'm not you, but I would send him into oblivion after such immature "whom or what I love more" remark.
However it's your choice not mine.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

You only want his dick lol smh

[mrcov28]

It sounds like there is a lot of confusion. The relationship is not stable. There are too many unknowns that need to be settled. You both need to figure out what you want from each other. What about your future what to do you want? marriage, kids?
What about your career? What about going on vacation having fun.
The questions are surrounded by sex and love.
It's like your both stuck inside this circle and don't know how to get out of it. There's so much to do outside that circle.

[boggboss]

It would seem you dont love him you just don't want the sex to end

[Sevenpointfive]

then wtf do you care if he's coming over or not? is it just about sex with you or not? make up your mind

[dandiecandie]

Yes that's why he doubts you. Lol. Is this a joke?

[supercutebutt]

You have to ask yourself this question: If your gentleman lost his penis in a vacuum cleaner accident, would you stay with him?

[Bhavin2184]

I think he loves you and want to have a serious relationship with you.
But you are not giving him a proper answer..

[Twinrova]

Tbh after reading this, even I am convinced you only like him for sex. Lmao.

[JosyJosy]

I don't think so, anyway don't think too much about it, you're not interested in him anyway