It doesn't matter to me as long as I know she's a good person and honest and communicative with me. It wouldn't degrade her at all, she's a human and not an object. Humans are sexual beings and I understand that we have sexual urges and needs so one person might need more sex partners than someone else with a lower sex drive. In the end it doesn't matter to me. What matters to me is her and her alone.
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TheUniqueOne96Master
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To an extent, like I'd say I'd at least care enough to know.
Like if they've got a history of cheating, homewrecking, any kind of STDS or sexual abuse, I'd rather it be brought to the surface.
I myself am a virgin and whilst I'd prefer someone who's also a virgin, I don't think I'd care too much if a woman has slept around with other single people, whilst she was single herself.
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Zelda_5Xper 6
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You're comparing women to shoes. It only matters if you have an STI.
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TruthBringer
+1 y
It's only an analogy and it does matter not just for STI's but also many other factors (as studies have shown)
Zelda_5
+1 y
If you think that's a valid analogy then you believe that a woman is equal in value to a shoe. Otherwise it's not a valid analogy. What studies?
TruthBringer
+1 y
It is a valid analogy because it brings forth the fundamental idea to how th eworld looks at promiscuity. So yes, it is valid. And here I will provide the sources: Why The Number of Sexual Partners Matters ↗
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Zelda_5
+1 y
It doesn't matter how the world looks at anything. It matters how the person looks at it. How do you know the studies are valid? Are there sources at the bottom of the studies too, it just said that studies had shown and I want proof and also the first link wouldn't open.
TruthBringer
+1 y
Bet you haven't even looked at them. How do I know they are valid? Because they have sourced the data
Zelda_5
+1 y
I did look but didn't see sources or any content to the first link.
TruthBringer
+1 y
I've sent you a link to a Take of mine and it explains everything. It also includes the research I speak of. Well 1 of the many researches at least.
Zelda_5
+1 y
Also, it doesn't matter if people are lying about how many people have slept with or anything because society is telling him that they need to lie society is the problem not the people. On either count, men lying to raise it and women lying to lower it is just because of society so what we need to find out is why society is thinking that way and that is what really matters. Also your arguments about addicts going back to addiction is because addiction is a lifelong problem and your body's always wanting it even after you're not abusing the substance because you were addicted to it and your body still wants it.
TruthBringer
+1 y
Same goes with promiscuity. Someone who has been living a promiscuous lifestyle would fall right back in. at least the odds of that happening are significantly higher than someone who hasn't been living that lifestyle. And that's where the addiction example comes into play
TruthBringer
+1 y
Oh and yes it matters very much whether someone lies about their sexual past. Especially for men that's something that is important. Men of value and self-respect don't want to wife up a woman who has slept with half the town and is lying about it
NathanDavisMaster
+1 y
I think it matters, yes. Will it define "my value" by itself? no, I do not think so.
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LevinMaster
+1 y
Enjoying your sexuality is fine, but tbh, I am a bit disgusted by people who sleep around.
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BirdlegsExplorer
+1 y
Personally I’ve had an experience where I just straight up lost interest in a girl after she told me her body count. 🤷🏾♂️
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SapphireLibraXper 5
+1 y
Only if there are STD’s involved...
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dmgstarfleetYoda
+1 y
The best guide to future behavior is a person's past behavior.
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MiristheissMaster
+1 y
The truth?
I depends on the partner.
Some people don't care... some do. Some people treat sex as more intimate and special that you do with one person or a select few and want partners that have the same view and have the same background.
There is no all encompassing answer. Overall, it is probably best to link up people that have the same values and views. If there views don't line up and their values and histories clash... they just aren't a good fit... best to just move on.
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AvicennaMaster
+1 y
It depends on jow promiscuous you were. If it indicates a lack of impulse control and emotional problems that persist, it’s very relevant
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Agape93Master
+1 y
Nope. Also, we aren’t shoes. We are human beings.
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ChrisMaster69
+1 y
@agape93 lol those guys are loving you 😂😂😂
Agape93
+1 y
Yeap. Those 👎 don’t need to have sex if they can’t tell the difference between a human and a shoe
DargilMaster
+1 y
Yes, but don't ask, don't tell.
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InexpensivefurnitureYoda
+1 y
My sexual history matters to ME. It shouldn't matter to anyone else
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andreasderjuengereMaster
+1 y
It only does matter when the police has a file about it :)
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Drumlin2001Guru
+1 y
Not sure it's a binary question. Different people will have different values and expectations. Some people will only want virgins, other will be happy if partner was ex prostitute who has slept with 10k plus. I've never really asked my partners their history. I know some of it, not all. I was a late bloomer, was a virgin till 35 so inexperienced and I have explained my history to partners as it affects the way I interact with them compared with an average 35 yr old.
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BillHe1Xper 6
+1 y
In a pair of shoes... YES
In personal relationships, ... well at first,... maybe you want to know the "whys, and how many's".
But really, does it even matter... if you're just going to be jumping from one to another?
But if you're ready to make a relationship into the future, ... maybe that "practice" will benefit you now.
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Cat_FrankXper 4
+1 y
Nope.
It implies that any prior sexual experiences are somehow shameful.
It implies that people can't change their mind or preferences.
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Shaggy_KWXper 4
+1 y
As the shoe comparison represents, do you want to put your "foot" in a "shoe" that's been worn? Personally, one or two people isn't that bad depending on the timeframe. Five people is pushing it. Sexual history does matter because lots of partners can lead to disease, if you've had a lot of partners your current partner may also believe you are going to leave eventually and just want him/her for sex.
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putthefootdownXper 3
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Yes. I can imagine there are gonna be a lot of future damaged relationships and future break ups whenever it comes clean a man or men who've had bi-curious moments or bisexual flings but realise later on they are straight. Will a woman be unimpressed, hmm. 🤔🤔🤔
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exitsevenMaster
+1 y
I am not confusing this with body count. A person's total history matters. Did they serve time in prison, spent time in drug rehab, had a bad credit score, been married multiple times. All these things make that person who they are. Sexual history is also significant. This does not mean that if somebody has a huge sexual history that they are not dateable or incapable of change.
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40 78It doesn't matter to me as long as I know she's a good person and honest and communicative with me. It wouldn't degrade her at all, she's a human and not an object. Humans are sexual beings and I understand that we have sexual urges and needs so one person might need more sex partners than someone else with a lower sex drive. In the end it doesn't matter to me. What matters to me is her and her alone.
To an extent, like I'd say I'd at least care enough to know.
Like if they've got a history of cheating, homewrecking, any kind of STDS or sexual abuse, I'd rather it be brought to the surface.
I myself am a virgin and whilst I'd prefer someone who's also a virgin, I don't think I'd care too much if a woman has slept around with other single people, whilst she was single herself.
You're comparing women to shoes. It only matters if you have an STI.
It's only an analogy and it does matter not just for STI's but also many other factors (as studies have shown)
If you think that's a valid analogy then you believe that a woman is equal in value to a shoe. Otherwise it's not a valid analogy. What studies?
It is a valid analogy because it brings forth the fundamental idea to how th eworld looks at promiscuity. So yes, it is valid. And here I will provide the sources: Why The Number of Sexual Partners Matters ↗
It doesn't matter how the world looks at anything. It matters how the person looks at it. How do you know the studies are valid? Are there sources at the bottom of the studies too, it just said that studies had shown and I want proof and also the first link wouldn't open.
Bet you haven't even looked at them. How do I know they are valid? Because they have sourced the data
I did look but didn't see sources or any content to the first link.
I've sent you a link to a Take of mine and it explains everything. It also includes the research I speak of. Well 1 of the many researches at least.
Also, it doesn't matter if people are lying about how many people have slept with or anything because society is telling him that they need to lie society is the problem not the people. On either count, men lying to raise it and women lying to lower it is just because of society so what we need to find out is why society is thinking that way and that is what really matters. Also your arguments about addicts going back to addiction is because addiction is a lifelong problem and your body's always wanting it even after you're not abusing the substance because you were addicted to it and your body still wants it.
Same goes with promiscuity. Someone who has been living a promiscuous lifestyle would fall right back in. at least the odds of that happening are significantly higher than someone who hasn't been living that lifestyle. And that's where the addiction example comes into play
Oh and yes it matters very much whether someone lies about their sexual past. Especially for men that's something that is important. Men of value and self-respect don't want to wife up a woman who has slept with half the town and is lying about it
I think it matters, yes.
Will it define "my value" by itself? no, I do not think so.
Enjoying your sexuality is fine, but tbh, I am a bit disgusted by people who sleep around.
Personally I’ve had an experience where I just straight up lost interest in a girl after she told me her body count. 🤷🏾♂️
Only if there are STD’s involved...
The best guide to future behavior is a person's past behavior.
The truth?
I depends on the partner.
Some people don't care... some do.
Some people treat sex as more intimate and special that you do with one person or a select few and want partners that have the same view and have the same background.
There is no all encompassing answer.
Overall, it is probably best to link up people that have the same values and views.
If there views don't line up and their values and histories clash... they just aren't a good fit... best to just move on.
It depends on jow promiscuous you were. If it indicates a lack of impulse control and emotional problems that persist, it’s very relevant
Nope. Also, we aren’t shoes. We are human beings.
@agape93 lol those guys are loving you 😂😂😂
Yeap. Those 👎 don’t need to have sex if they can’t tell the difference between a human and a shoe
Yes, but don't ask, don't tell.
My sexual history matters to ME. It shouldn't matter to anyone else
It only does matter when the police has a file about it :)
Not sure it's a binary question. Different people will have different values and expectations. Some people will only want virgins, other will be happy if partner was ex prostitute who has slept with 10k plus.
I've never really asked my partners their history. I know some of it, not all. I was a late bloomer, was a virgin till 35 so inexperienced and I have explained my history to partners as it affects the way I interact with them compared with an average 35 yr old.
In a pair of shoes... YES
In personal relationships, ... well at first,... maybe you want to know the "whys, and how many's".
But really, does it even matter... if you're just going to be jumping from one to another?
But if you're ready to make a relationship into the future, ... maybe that "practice" will benefit you now.
Nope.
It implies that any prior sexual experiences are somehow shameful.
It implies that people can't change their mind or preferences.
As the shoe comparison represents, do you want to put your "foot" in a "shoe" that's been worn? Personally, one or two people isn't that bad depending on the timeframe. Five people is pushing it. Sexual history does matter because lots of partners can lead to disease, if you've had a lot of partners your current partner may also believe you are going to leave eventually and just want him/her for sex.
Yes. I can imagine there are gonna be a lot of future damaged relationships and future break ups whenever it comes clean a man or men who've had bi-curious moments or bisexual flings but realise later on they are straight. Will a woman be unimpressed, hmm. 🤔🤔🤔
I am not confusing this with body count. A person's total history matters. Did they serve time in prison, spent time in drug rehab, had a bad credit score, been married multiple times. All these things make that person who they are. Sexual history is also significant. This does not mean that if somebody has a huge sexual history that they are not dateable or incapable of change.