Fooling around with my bestie while I have a boyfriend is it wrong?

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

I have a bestie who is super hot (5’6 blonde, gorgeous blue eyes 34C boobs thin and in great shape toned butt we play adult soccer league together she’s got hips and thighs) totally hot is my point I’m straight but totally attracted to her and vice versa we have been best friends for 12 years. I’m 41 she’s 36. We kissed a few times and my boyfriend likes it but would say ok that’s enough. We wanted to try some other stuff and convinced my by to let us fool around just the girls! it was a 2 night excursion the first night we had a threesome but he couldn’t bang her. Just me. Night 2 my boyfriend left us girls alone lol. We had the most amazing night and continued it the next day back at my house. She came over again this weekend we were in our thong bikinis by the pool getting tipsy and started going at it we spent like hours in the bedroom. We want to have a girls night again this weekend and my boyfriend knows we’re going to dinner/drinks he doesn’t know what we’re going to do later. When he agreed to our first “girls only night” it was supposed to be a one shot deal. I thought it would be but we want to have our “girls night” a bit more often… is this cheating? I love my boyfriend and don’t want to ruin our relationship over this but I really, really enjoy our “girls only” nights/weekends?

[Screenwriter]

Honey, if you want to continue this relationship, at best, you are bisexual. No straight woman wants to have a relationship with her best girlfriend, especially if she's ALREADY in a relationship with a man. So, stop kidding yourself.

And OF COURSE it's cheating. Cheating means, quite simply, in a monogamous relationship that everyone RECOGNIZES is monogamous, one or the other partner starts a relationship emotionally and sexually with someone else.

Some people aren't meant to be one person only people. Maybe you've discovered this is you. You need to advise your boyfriend about this or break up and pursue your new girlfriend. But EVERYBODY needs to know what's going on and to choose if they want to remain in this threesome. There shouldn[t be any hiding or lying, which is what you are doing.

Be aboveboard and let the chips fall where they may.

[mandyfire98]

Why not just do another threesome then?

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

I don’t want him to bang my bestie she’s totally hot I don’t want him banging her she’s got big boobs etc blonde she’s effin hot. We had a 3some he just wasn’t allowed to bang her lol. He was ok with that. We had a 3some he’s just not allowed to bang her. I’ll do that again I just want to keep it separate.. I like my girls only night… I like what my friend and I do and we can go for hours lol.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Like my boyfriend is coming over tonight and I can’t wait to see him hang out with him and have sex with him hopefully we get 2 rounds in. I love him abs how he bangs me. But I also like my “girls only” night we have plans for this weekend to go to dinner/drinks and either come back to my place or get a hotel room we both got new lingerie we’re going to surprise each other with. Like I love what we do ya know?

[OlderAndWiser]

1. "I’m straight but totally attracted to her" Do YOU believe that? No one else believes it! Telling lies to yourself and everyone else is not a good habit.

2. "we had a threesome but he couldn’t bang her. Just me." Why was that the rule? Were you afraid that he might like her pussy more than he likes yours? But it was okay for you to fuck her? Not many men would agree to that?

3. It's not cheating if he agrees to let you do it and you don't go further that whatever he agreed to.

4. If it's okay for you to fuck somebody else, will it be okay for him to fuck somebody else? Or is this just a selfish game you are playing?

[OlderAndWiser]

"We actually had a fun little weekend (shh don’t tell me boyfriend lol"
What is the one thing you haven't done sexually that you are open to try? ↗

So he DOESN'T know about it? Yes, this is cheating and he needs to find a real girlfriend. What you are doing is just pretending.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah that’s weird. It’s cheating to be with someone else other then your boyfriend. But it’s obvious based off your past questions that you don’t want honest answers. So what’s the point of asking?


You wanna ask questions to get the answer you want to hear and when you don’t get it you want to argue.


You’re not looking for love anyways and irs really just sad

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

What are you even talking about

[Summeroflove]

The fact that you ask questions like this. You get upset when people don’t tell you what you want to hear. You don’t wanna hear that irs cheating and that you’re being a whore. You don’t wanna fade the fact that you’re 40 years old in a very non serious purely sexual relationship and don’t even seem to care about your dead husband. Sure I want you to move on and find someone who makes you happy. But that’s not what you’re doing

[Summeroflove]

Also if you’re attracted to a woman. You’re not straight. How stupid are you?

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

If you think girls are attractive you’re not straight? Why is that?

[Summeroflove]

Because you’re into the same sex. That’s bisexual if you’re into men and women. I’m only into women so I’m straight

[Summeroflove]

Is this really a question? Are you that low IQ you’re asking how being into the same sex as yourself makes you not straight?

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Stop it’s just my one bestie and she’s totally hot I’m not into chi KD

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Chicks*

[Summeroflove]

Okay so you don’t want a answer. Find something else to do troll

[Summeroflove]

You ask stupid questions and argue with people. Because you don’t like the answers

[ohsheeT]

If you have five dogs in your backyard do you go outside barefooted and play Frisbee or let's say your boyfriend has the bestie what happens if the table was turned I don't know is it wrong

[LazerBean]

Further proof that you're just an average hoe, despite your initial pretense of being some traditional, morally upstanding woman.

[AnnacarsiMama2]

She’s a IRL friend she’s the sweetest mama I know. I don’t know why she’s doing this. This isn’t her. Don’t call people that. That’s not kind. Please be kind you never know what people are going through

[Berethor]

You clearly not straight, yea it's disloyal to him but guys tend to be forgiving of girl on girl.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

I’m totally straight

[Berethor]

You queer, you doing naughty stuff with a fellow girl, it's not uncommon among girls.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Porn is disgusting

[Static_In_The_Attic]

You are fooling around with your bestie you had a threesome with your bestie & your boyfriend but you were the only one that could bang your bestie.

That Is Totally Unfair!

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

He agreed to it

[SnowedIn]

Don't do it for two reasons: first, you already have concerns about it. All over your answers and responses. Steer clear of that mess. Second, it's messing with your family. Think of your son.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

What about my son

[SnowedIn]

Have you considered whether he might have noticed you fooling around with bestie while still having the boyfriend and all the sex you have with the boyfriend -- don't you think that's a lot for him to have to deal with?

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

I mean no I didn’t. I don’t know. He saw me and my friend kissing and knows we went in the bedroom he saw her come out and walk to the bathroom just across the hall in just her underwear. My friend told me she busted him peeking lol I don’t know I didn’t think about that I mean he’s 18 he’s not a baby. How do you think ot affects him? I told him it’s just girl stuff we were doing like just having girl time in my room

[SnowedIn]

I think that our kids are much smarter and more perceptive than we think they are. I bet that your story of "girl stuff" isn't fooling anyone. He may be 18 but you are still his mom. This isn't college. You already have an off the charts unconventional relationship with a man his age and 20 years younger than you exacerbated by the fact that the man is your son's friend. Now you're fooling around with a woman that I presume he knows (you said she's been your bestie for 12 years). That is a LOT to expect any person to process and deal with, let alone a son. Finally, you have been very open in all of your questions and posts here on GaG about your sex life and that it's out in the open at your home. That's one more brick on the load that's on his shoulders to deal with. My point is that your relationships and sexuality are in his face. That's worth some reflection and self awareness and second thoughts -- not about them but about how open you are.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Why do you mean that it’s out in the open? I have sex with my boyfriend in my house if that’s what you mean…My boyfriend if my sons friend older brother by the way. You’re a guy tell me what do you think it about it likr how’s it affecting him I’m curious I want to know

[SnowedIn]

A lot of your posts in the past have talked about how your son has seen you and your boyfriend have sex and now this post about your bestie. No (or very few) sons want to know their mom is having sex let alone the two relationships you appear to have. It would make me feel really uncomfortable and awkward. I bet if you say your son down and asked him how he feels about all of what you're doing, he'd tell you "uncomfortable and awkward".

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

No he walked in on us once when we didn’t know he was home. I asked what I should say or how to handle the awkwardness. He actually likes my boyfriend they are actually handing out right now I’m supposed to be finishing up my work lol I work from home.

[SnowedIn]

I wish you the best with this but I really think you're painting this picture too pretty and you'd benefit from having a discussion with your son.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

He never wants to talk about it I’d be happy to have a conversation

[SnowedIn]

By the way, your son is on this platform. His username is baseball_del_tuono He's been whining about this for a few months now.

[Paul_in_Indy]

Vids or it didn’t happen! ;)

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Don’t be a pig

[Paul_in_Indy]

You ought to be able to take a joke if you post this kind of stuff on the internet.

[foxrider77]

What did you guys do in your thong bikinis. Sounds really fun.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

We had a little “girly fun” 😉

[WalnutButter]

Include him.

[brandon1122]

Would you have a threesome?

[WalnutButter]

@brandon1122 I thought everyone had them. Just go online and look.

[Mansearching]

I don't. Never have.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

It's okay to have a girl's night…but think things over to whether or not you are hurting your boyfriend because you could be doing so.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

I know 😔

[humanearth]

keep doing it, just don't keep it a secret

[bowenw]

I suggest you tell him you want to have girls-only nights/weekends more often.

[Jazzy54]

You actually answered you’re own question. Yes, that’s cheating. You’re engaging in sexual activities with her.

[UnknownSwede]

Sorry to disappoint you, but no you're not straight. Maybe not romantically attracted to same sex, bit apparently sexually attracted, so bisexual but heteroromantic.

And also sorry to burst your bubble, but yes you are cheating if you have sex with someone without the permission/knowledge of your partner. How come he didn't get to fuck her when you had a threesome?

[collie22]

It's hard to be honest with him when your flesh is controlling you

[TracyF]

Oh my goodness, you're too old to be acting like an idiot. You have an awful relationship. Go be better. Dump your boy, stop being gay with your friend. Start acting like an adult and figure out your future.

[AimeeKyle]

Go for it and have fun.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Thank you will Do

[Shamalien]

I want I want I want, I want this I want that, I want it all.

fuck you

[DrewJohnson]

I wouldn't have an issue with my wife having a girl's weekend with a friend. He was good with it before. It doesn't hurt to ask. You can always just do it anyway. If you don't tell him/get permission it's cheating. But plenty of couples cheat. You have to be prepared for the consequences if you go that route.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Do you think it’s cheating? It’s with another girl

[DrewJohnson]

I don't think that as cheating. I might be in the minority with that view.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

I agree with you but I feel like I’m getting guilt tripped

[DrewJohnson]

That sucks.

[Twalli]

Maybe explain to him that what he offers, she can't. At the same time, what she offers he can't. They both make you happy in different ways.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

With her it’s just fun girl stuff I’m super attracted to her and she gets me super worked up and we can fool around for hours but I like dudes I’m into guys

[Jerre]

Do what you think is right. I don’t think your boyfriend would object to your fooling around with your best friend. Perhaps one day it will turn into a 3-sum and you both can enjoy his cock and each other.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

We had a 3some he’s just not allowed to bang her

[Jerre]

Can he eat her?

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

🤔 yea

[Jerre]

When I have a 3-sum, I love it when one rides my cock and the other my face. really great when we all cum at about the same time. Then the girls trade places and off we go again.