Gave 2 different guys blowjobs within 24 hours?

[Anonymous]

I feel like a mess. I got drunk at my friend's bonfire and me and this guy started making out, I didn't tell him but I had never kissed a guy before because I was always scared to and I've never had a boyfriend. We started making out and went to this hayloft at my friend's house. We got naked and made out and I gave him a blowjob, which I had never done before but I believe I did a decent job, he didn't cum because he was rather drunk and I was a little bit too drunk to perform well. I told him I had never done that before so he was like "don't sweat it", he was more into touching and kissing anyway. I started to sober up and I couldn't believe it. I'm not too proud of it but I try not to regret those things, only a small amount of people know and all those people know I don't usually interact with guys so I don't think I horribly tarnished my reputation. Bigger problem, I have been talking to an older guy. I'm 18, he's 22. We just went on a few dates and he really wanted to kiss me but I wouldn't let him. Well, I didn't tell him about the night before because I had told him him I've never kissed. Fast forward, we made out and I gave him a blowjob, I wasn't super against it but I didn't want to that bad either, he did finish. It didn't taste great. Anyway, I'm just really ashamed. Two days ago I had never kissed anyone, now I've given two different guys a blowjob. It's so unlike me. I feel trashy now, and before I was super innocent. Even though sex shouldn't be shameful, I just know it's unlike me. I'm well educated in sex. I should have been more hesitant but I don't think I want to do stuff like this for a while. What do I tell the guy I'm talking to? I also don't really like making out, is that weird? Maybe I'm just bad at it, but I also just don't like the idea of someone's tongue in my mouth. Never have. I almost miss being the girl no one ever kissed. I don't feel like myself. I'm not a troll, honest. Just a foolish girl, looking for some advice.

[Default_Hore]

Tell him you don't want to french kiss and just to keep it more innocent and basic, you can also tell him that the blowjob was a one-time thing and that you don't want to do it again or have it progress and that you want to take the relationship slowly and seriously, if that's what you want and think it's where it's going, and kissing can depend, sometimes its just the other person isn't right for you, when you're kissing somebody you love or have a connection to it just feels right, don't know how to explain it other than that. You can always break it off and say you weren't ready. Clear your mind and become that innocent girl again if you really have no interest in it at all. I don't know why you'd give the second guy a blowjob though if you didn't really mean to do the first and that's not who you are, seems like you'd want to avoid doing it a second time because you just lost a large part of your innocence, but I don't know.

It's natural to have a sex drive and be curious about these sort of things though, you should've feel ashamed for practicing or enjoying doing these type of things, I don't think a blowjob is that important on the scale of things that could've happened or been done though. If it doesn't feel right then don't do it and just tell him or them that, if it does then just let it happen and let go of your innocence. No need to cling to things needlessly. (:

[AleDeEurope]

Obviously tell the guy you're dating. It's very disrespectful to to blow a guy while you're trying to see if you want to date each other. What kind of impression would it give you if he's fucking around with other girls while dating you? Imagine if an hour before a date he got a bj from another girl?

Tell him, try to get back your dignity and your respect by doing the right thing.

[Asker]

I'm not dating him, we aren't exclusive. We haven't even talked about dating at all. We are closer to friends than romantic interests. In reality, knowing this man I don't think he would be upset, mostly surprised. He's very understanding. It was the night before and I was drunk, I think if I told him the whole story he would understand and not be truly upset with me.

[AleDeEurope]

"We just went on a few dates..." if you've been on dates, you're dating.

[Asker]

But isn't the severity of relationship up to us to define?

[AleDeEurope]

If you run, you're running. You can say you aren't running, but that doesn't change the fact that you're running. If you're going on dates, you're dating.

[Asker]

That still has nothing to do with whether or not we are exclusive. I know what's going on between me and him so what you consider it really doesn't matter. I agree, telling him would be a good decision, I'm not disagreeing with you as far as that goes. I'm only saying, it doesn't matter what our relationship status is.

[AleDeEurope]

I never said you were exclusive, just that you're dating, and I think it's disrespectful to get physical with someone else while you're dating another person.

[Asker]

But you are treating it as if I am not supposed to interact with other guys and at the current state of our relationship I don't think it matters the same way you do

[AleDeEurope]

Not that you shouldn't interact, but if you're dating and with hopes of becoming a couple in the future, it's wrong to have sexual acts with other guys. Perhaps we see this differently, perhaps I value respect more than you, but that's how I see it.

[Asker]

But we have had no talk of being a couple, it hasn't even been suggested. That's my point. I've told him that I'm not one for dating, so that's not really where we are headed. So no, it has nothing to do as what I see as respect, nice try. It's that we have never decided to be monogamous.

[AleDeEurope]

For the third time, I know you're not exclusive. I know you're not monogamous. But if you say you've been on dates, then you're dating. It's that simple. And if you're dating and blowing other guys, it's disrespectful to the other guy. Period.

[Asker]

You're missing my point as well and I'm really tired of this discussion and I'm willing to leave it as is

[AleDeEurope]

Ok, then leave it hahahahaha

[Mustachekitteh]

What's the problem? Just sounds like a chick that's started college and wanting to experiment with things.

Though never do what a guy tells you should do, even if he begs and sweet talks you. Never give in if you don't think you will like it, best to tell them you just don't want to. You didn't enjoy doing those things is because you weren't fully into the guy in the first place. When you really like a guy and attracted to them, you start to notice you wanting to do things that you never knew you would. Until that happens not much point to do it with people you don't feel anything with.

[Mustachekitteh]

Note: NEVER drink alcohol in public if you're going to get drunk. That's how people getting rape happens, chicks regretting what they did, etc. Always do it at home.

[Asker]

Well, I was with one of my best friend's house so I didn't feel like I was in danger but I agree, it can be risky. I can't say I completely hated it. When drunk, I thoroughly enjoyed it, just very much embarrassed and in shock the next day, the guy didn't pressure me, we were on the same page, we said multiple times while active that we would both regret this. With the guy I'm talking to, I actually insinuated the blowjob, because he wanted to eat me out, which I was scared of, he ended up doing it later which i liked but I just felt more comfortable doing stuff to him rather vice verse. I just really don't like that these actions happened so close together.

[Mustachekitteh]

Again don't sweat it because most people experiment and figure out what they like sexually at 18 and while their in college. It doesn't matter if it's right or wrong to others, what matters is if you enjoyed it and you learn from it.

[JellyBean333]

I know you must be feeling foolish but you've waited 18 years for this moment!! And that is an accomplishment in itself!

Mistakes happen even to the best of us and you seem like a girl who's got her head screwed on, so this two guys in 24 hours within your WHOLE 18 YEARS hasn't tainted you. You'll come to terms with it in a few days and it won't seem so daunting :)

As for the other guy you're seeing, I don't think you need to tell him about what happened at the party, you're not fully exclusive yet so it'll just be unnecessary

[DocRim]

Well that escalated quickly. I think you shouldn't have done stuff like that while being drunk, but all you can do now is learn from it.

[SovereignessofVamps]

Just don't get drunk and do sexual stuff anymore! Only do it when you're sober.

[Asker]

I was sober the second time and I've never acted sexual while drunk before. Maybe I should just keep some gal pals with me. My friend separated which I think prompted me to go off with that guy.

[SovereignessofVamps]

You should only do things because you really want to if you ask me.

[Asker]

Well, drunk me wanted to, sober me wouldn't of done it.

[SovereignessofVamps]

The 2nd time I meant. You shouldn't worry about impressing the guy, if that was part of the reason why.

[tinyclit]

You're okay. Get yourself a boyfriend and have some fun sucking and licking his penis. Do it sober so that you can enjoy it. It's a lot of fun and very enjoyable. You'll have a good time.

[MadeInAmerica]

Your passive aggressiveness for yourself is funny. Seems like your mind and mouth have broken through that innocent stage and is ready to get wild. Only was a matter of time.

[Asker]

Yes, mentally I have been waiting to do this for a long time but I'm not happy in the way I went about it and how out of control I felt.

[Sara413]

If you don't enjoy those things, don't do them. But don't feel bad about what is already done.

[mattty]

Well when you mentioned the "older guy" I was expecting someone in 30s or even 40s lol. If he's 22 and you're 18 its not realy that big of an age differenece. Anyway why did you even give them blow job in the first place? You said you dont enjoy making out but do you enjoy giving blow jobs? Anyway I kind of dont understand your question... like what are you actually asking?

[Asker]

I know, the age difference doesn't really bother me, my mom knows as well as 100% okay with it. Yeah I mean, even though I wish I hadn't done it, the concept of blowjobs does not bother me. I don't really like have someone so close to my face, breathing in my face, tongue in my mouth. Just not my thing, it also makes me anxious, I don't feel like I'm doing it right. I'm just asking for advice. I don't want to continue this behavior

[mattty]

So you dont like making out but you dont mind giving blow jobs if I understand correctly? So would you rather give someone blow job than make out with him? So you dont want to continue this behaviour? Well then just dont. Thats the best advice I can give you.

[Asker]

Yeah, and I mean maybe I just have a better strong suit in oral. Penises don't do anything, mouths move around. If I was in a relationship with a guy, yeah I might just want to skip the makeout sesh. It's just me, and it might take me time before I like them. Obviously, just not doing it isn't working. But I guess I'm suddenly losing my incredibly strong self control.

[mattty]

Well thats really strange. Most girls prefer kissing and dont really like giving blow jobs while its mostly guys that aren't into much kissing and prefer to go straight to sex/oral. Well just do it only to a guy you like the most and not more guys at the same time because you will be labeled as slut then.

[BlackPantherSpeaks]

Looks like we're gonna have a talk about the birds and the bees sweetheart...
Look, my dear you're a human being, when human beings get turned on and do sexual things (SURPRISE!!!) If you're thoroughly aroused and want to give a BJ WHO GIVES A FUCK... Now If you were in a relationship I'd call that slut behavior. Besides, YOU KNOW DAMN WELL YOU ENJOYED THAT SHIT so stop playing.

[Asker]

I know I enjoyed it, but I've resisted for a very long time so I'm not proud of my sudden change in character. I'm typically someone with a lot of self control. But I don't enjoy the feeling I get after being sexual. It just seems like not being sexual could help me avoid that.

[BlackPantherSpeaks]

Sudden change in character you're clinging to something thats not there... We grow and evolve over time THROUGH experiences, when we cannot except the changes and challenges that come our way we build guilt and weight on the soul... TRUST ME, I CHANGED. I HATED MYSLEF FOR A LONG ASS TIME AND I won't GO BACK... Look you've got to come to terms with the fact that you like doing sexual things my dear. Its natural, I mean I understand you might feel like a liar for telling the guy you've never kissed and then kissed and gave a blow job a little while after. But shit life is gonna get real hard for you unless you can accept this, trust me!!!

[BlackPantherSpeaks]

Hope I helped...

[Asker]

I'm not scared of the fact that I'm sexual, I'm scared of being out of control.

[BlackPantherSpeaks]

😒 out of control... You've been introduced to something new, self restraint is possible but its probably not going to get under control until you get bored. "Oh look a cock, I wanna suck it" *sucking noises followed by climax * moves on with day

[Rissyanne]

I don't know... maybe don't get drunk.

[zorro8888]

Well. there's no sense in beating yourself up over past decisions. If you hate what you did so much, then aim to change. Don't let things escalate so fast.

[BeerFarts]

In two days, that went from 0-100 real quick. Bahaha.

Don't sweat it. You're not going to be innocent forever and it just happened. I know it wasn't the "perfect" moment, but what can you do? It's over with.

Water off a duck's back.

[springocelot]

Stay sober and focus on building an emotional connection with him first before doing anything physical.

[abundantlyrich]

You were sexually repressed. Your inner horny girl came out to play

[CaliSoccerGuy]

exactly! by no means a bad thing

[abundantlyrich]

@CaliSoccerGuy no she's religious. They go the extra mile than intended to.

[ManOnFire]

Was it deepthroat? Just curious.

[Smmyskittles]

lmao! I saw you commented and knew you'd ask!

[Asker]

@Smmyskittles... yes... not the point though!

[ManOnFire]

I knew it! I knew it was deepthroat! Aw, man, I'm so jealous. So you can deepthroat? @Smmyskittles Of course I had to ask ;-)

[Asker]

apparently...

[Smmyskittles]

Asker - Don't encourage him. XD He'll keep asking you really personal questions.

[Asker]

@Smmyskittles So he's every guy on GAG?

[ManOnFire]

Don't listen to her, she's just gonna try to poison you. Have you always been a natural at it? Or you learned how?

[Smmyskittles]

Next he'll ask about your boobs and questions of that nature. I mean, if you're into that, go for it.

[Asker]

Hahaha, I can only imagine if I hadn't gone private. You've got a very memorable picture, as do I. Pretty sure we got in quite the debate on one of your takes. Nice to see you in a different setting.

[Mustachekitteh]

not surprised that you asked this. :P

[ManOnFire]

You mean me? We've gotten into a debate before?

[Mustachekitteh]

No just from the message box.

[ManOnFire]

@Mustachekitteh Are you the one who asked this question?

[ManOnFire]

@Asker Have we met before?

[Asker]

Mhmm.

[Mustachekitteh]

lel no, I'm 24 you n00b. :P :D

[ManOnFire]

@Asker Hm. Interesting that we've debated before. People have told me my avatar is pretty memorable, yeah. I do that on purpose, kind of an artistic play on the eye, since I do art. Hey, PM me. I'm not gonna judge you about your question or anything I just wanna know who you are, this is curious =)

[Bandit74]

One of the reasons why I prefer girls who don't drink.

[melme16]

I don't know, but that's kinda hot.

Anyhow, don't feel bad for what happened. Bc you know what? Shit happens. Can't really change the past. But only move foward. So please don't feel dirty.

[Asker]

In the back of my mind, I know it's rather kinky but morally I'm not proud of it. The likelihood that this will happen again is slim but I am very disappointed in myself. I think taking in the shock of the first time and in a way receive the aftershock of reliving it was more than I could chew.

[SomeoneImportant]

Always wished I put myself in position to benefit from girls making poor/regrettable decisions...

[FakeName123]

You shouldn't be ashamed about the act itself but the lack of a backbone you have,

You clearly have confidence and self-esteem issues when you just do something that you not particulary want.

[Asker]

That's the thing, I'm rather confident and comfortable with myself. But when he starts making moves i just feel like I'm supposed to follow his lead. I also think in the back of my mind I wanted to but knew that I shouldn't/would regret it.

[FakeName123]

Then a major part of your confidence and being comfortable with yourself is a facade to yourself. An universally strong-minded person wouldn't belike "when he starts making moves I just feel like I'm supposed to follow". So there certainly is some self-insight and roadwork to do.

[Asker]

I think confidence is different for everyone. Or that there are many sections of confidence. Overall, confident, but I have holes in my overall confidence and sex life might just have a hole.

[FakeName123]

You could very well be correct, but those holes are clearly quite deep from the way you explained what happened as well as how you feel afterwards. And once again, if you were really strong-minded to your core you wouldn't feel like you are supposed to follow the guy into something you don't particulary want to do. This should ring all red flags and alarm bells for you.

[Asker]

Well, I was running low on characters, otherwise I would have touched basis on the fact that in the moment I REALLY want to but also don't want to. Part of me is super into it and loves it but I know I'm gonna wish I hadn't or middle of it, think it the back of my mind "i don't like what's happening here" so it's hard for me to really think in that way. So if he interacts in a way that says "hey, lets try this out" i'll be against it in my mind, but then start to enjoy it. Because while I don't actually commit these things (well prior to this) I thought about them often.

[FakeName123]

Then maybe you should just sit down and ask yourself this important question: "What do I want?" Because it certainly sounds like you are going back and forth about this.

[Asker]

I am, for sure. But I've always been this way, about everything. This one is just different from the others.

[FakeName123]

What do you mean with beeing like this about everything?

[Asker]

I flip back and forth about a lot of things. I don't commit to things well. I'm flimsy.

[FakeName123]

Then you should work on that, because it will cause more harm than good. At least about possibly life-changing things you should learn to make a firm decision. In this case if you want to experience sexually or if you want to wait for the right partner. I doubt you want to be like a leaf in the wind your entire life.

[Asker]

I'm working on it, it's not necessarily easy. I want to wait, I decided that beforehand but I definitely failed myself, or at least until I'm completely on board.

[FakeName123]

Thing is since you have now done it once it becomes even more difficult to refuse the next time simply because you have done it now. So the step to take has become a lot smaller each time and could easily cause a slippery slope from one thing leading to another (blowjob to oral on you, etc)

[dudeman]

i would stop talking to the older guy. if you guys start to date and he finds out thats not going to be a good thing. best to move on from your mistakes.

[Asker]

Knowing him, I don't think he'd be super upset, we aren't exclusive of anything. I really don't think he would be. He's very understanding but I don't really want to be in a relationship with him, I'd like to just be friends and I don't know how to go about that.

[Nomad69]

Nicely done, wanna make it 3 and then write a book about it?

[Asker]

Not planning on it

[Nomad69]

My girlfriend doesn't drink so she's probably a recovering sex addict according to this.

[blustar]

Can I get one next, OP?

[Asker]

Uh, I would but I think I'm busy, for the rest of my life.

[Toad-1]

@aledeeurope what do you think of this question and the girls responses to her?

[AleDeEurope]

Check my opinion. As for the girl's responses: it doesn't surprise me, many girls in GAG don't know much about respect towards the person they're dating/in a relationship with, they just believe in the "it's my life, I do what I want", that's why they believe it's ok to cheat. If this girl wouldn't be dating anyone, then yeah, give head to whoever she wants, but while you're dating, even though not exclusively, you shouldn't give head to other guys, it's disrespectful. I wouldn't be surprised if she ends up cheating in the future.

[Toad-1]

@AleDeEurope It just astounds me how positive they're being when if a guy posted something similar like this, they'd bash him crazy for it...

[AleDeEurope]

But that's how GAG girls work xD

[Asker]

@AleDeEurope Could this be done in some DMs, perhaps. Instead of deciding what type of girl I am. I can guarantee you, I am not the cheating type. This man has no sort of ownership of me. He can do whatever he pleases, he is a grown man. We have not made any sort of commitment. We talked about situations similar to this before. Just because other girls on GAG would bash a male for it, doesn't mean it has anything to do with me or my personal situation.

[HonestWhiteGuy]

Figure out what you want first of all. I think you should try and date the guy you are talking to now 22, and just forget the other time and dont mention it