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Guys: do you have any female friends that you AREN'T attracted to?

Or female friends who you really don't want to have sex with? I know it seems pretty rare, but I think it's possible. I would have sex with most of my female friends and acquaintances but I actually wouldn't with my very close one. She is beautiful and has guys coming after her all the time, even in the beginning I was into her before I met my ex at that time. But since then I have no feelings for her or no sexual attraction to her even though she is beautiful. Occasionally I will joke about her giving me head or fucking on the beach, but deep down I don't really want to and am just not attracted to her in the way that most other men are. She is a great friend and there's always something to learn from her, but there are still other things about her that actually do turn me off from wanting to sleep with her or date her.

So I guess I want to know if other men have experiences of not feeling any kind of attraction to a female friend?
Guys: do you have any female friends that you ARENT attracted to?
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  • Yep, absolutely; I’m not attracted to the MAJORITY of my female friends. One of my best female friends I met when she had just broken up with her ex and she was really vulnerable and we started hanging out and had a great time always but I never wanted to have sex with her. On Halloween she was a little drunk and tried to get with me. I let her cuddle with me in bed and fall asleep but that’s as far as it went bc I said no. I had another good friend who I did actually sleep with when we first met, but I decided she wasn’t really my type and we became friends (w/o benefits 😂) and I’ve never wanted to have sex with her again even though she’s been quite cuddly with me and I’m sure it could have been an option had I wanted it. I’ve also heaps of female friends and acquaintances who have partners, and most of them I haven’t even considered it, but those that I have at least entertained the thought, I’m really not that into them, even if they became single. It’s not that I’m a purist and morally untouchable, either, because I do have a couple female friends who are partnered that I find very attractive and would be very interested in getting with if they became single.

    Guys: do you have any female friends that you AREN'T attracted to?

    For the most part, if I have a female friend I am attracted to, I will have sex with her at least once and see if there is anything to it. That’s if she is mutually into it, or course, which is usually the case. I also have a convenient chemistry that if someone gives me a vibe they aren’t into me, I usually lose interest, so I have very few instances of unrequited love (or lust 😂) . I’ve also found that it seems true for women that if you are interested in them, give them attention, and build some rapport and chemistry with them, it’s pretty easy to get a reciprocal thing going.

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  • I'd say it's (almost) a pre requisite, barring special circumstances like lifelong childhood friends, siblings/friends exes you're still cool with.

    It's rare for guys to truly just be friends with girls at a certain age when they're attractive enough for sex. Very very rare.

    Does it happen? Yes, and I have them. But half of them we've either slept together, talked about sleeping together or some element of us imagining fucking at some point.

    When that's there it's just not possible to truly 100% be friends and ONLY friends, because it's tinted with that sexual tension. Most people who have female friends they're attracted to they either fucked, wanted to fuck, and circumstances are just such that they can't act on that want.

    They might not act on it, but doesn't mean they don't want to. in my opinion if you want to fuck your friend they're not just friends. If you're adjusting what you say because you're preserving some future shot, you're not just friends.

    If you would have fucked already had it not been for social situations in place upon meeting that stopped it from happening, then you're not just friends.

    If you can honestly say as a single person that if you asked your friend if they wanted to fuck with no strings attached, that they would say no because they don't want to ruin the friendship? Then congrats. That's a real bona-fide friend.

    Outside that. Na.

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  • Aww this makes me feel sad. I currently have a close male friend, we talk alimony daily, I have feelings for him but I think I’m just a friend to him. We have been friends since high school, and although he says he finds me beautiful and I’m pretty etc etc I really don’t think he finds me sexually attractive. I have tried to indicate sexual contact in the past and he didn’t want it :( we have remained friends since and I took what he wanted on board. Since then, I’m not sure if he’s changed or now I’m not trying to fuck him he finally wants me? But yeh, visually I’m not his type, but he says all the right things, that he values me, respects me, cares for me, appreciates me, even says he respects me too much to sleep with me? Like wtf does that mean. Anyway, when we hug his hands drift all over, and he holds my hand, he makes sexual jokes too, but doesn’t wAnt the real thing, I’m not sure if it’s all classed as leading on :/ but yeh.

    • What is that it is so confusing you know each other for a really really long time why dont you give it a try forget you are not his type everything is clear and believe me if a man has a female friend who is really close being in a relationship with that woman would actually come to his mind i think you need to think about it if i were you probably would be married to him and have children already

    • The guy seems really confusing. Maybe just ask him straight out what he wants.

    • "I respect you too much to sleep with you" just sounds like a synonym for "I don't wanna sleep with you".

  • I've had guy friends that never had attraction to me (and vice versa). I even have a lesbian friend who doesn't feel a thing either lol. But really though it is possible for a guy to be friends with a girl and JUST that.

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  • You first have to define "friends" - in my opinion this excludes people already in relationships, people you see less than 6 times a year, and people YOU didn't choose to bring into your life (i. e., people you work with, friends of friends, etc.). A lot of people say "oh yeah, I have friends who are girls that I don't want sex with", but those girls aren't single, or they're really just acquaintances.

    For me? I'm pretty sure I've been attracted to all of my actual female friends, and I think, under my definition, MOST guys would have to say the same. There will be a few exceptions, but not as many as people pretend there are.

    • "A lot of people say "oh yeah, I have friends who are girls that I don't want sex with", but those girls aren't single, or they're really just acquaintances." - This is definitely true. Mine is a very good friend. We met on my old job and even after I left there we've stayed friends ever since. She is beautiful and lots of guys are into her but I really can’t ever see fucking her or even dating her, she just does not have some of the deeper qualities I need in a woman. She's great to hang out with and talk to, but there's no future there for love.

    • @ManOnFire Fair enough. There will always be a few exceptions to any rule. But even then, I think you'll agree that this is definitely an exception.

  • No and same with women. We do not hang out with those who repulse us. It is hard enough in the work environment to navigate the Business-Sexual energies as they work out in a Deal.
    If one also surrounds himself by women friends he will eventually betray either himself, the girlfriend, and/or the friend. It is irresponsible and any single person noticing a girl or guy hanging out with mostly opposite sex is NOT a serious relationship option.

  • I have a few guy friends that we were never into each other sexually or even romantically. It’s never been an issue 🤷🏼‍♀️

  • I'm Seventy; most women MY generation have reached a degree of elective decrepitude and prefer platonic interactions.~

  • I am not really close to anyone. But yes I have had many female friends I didn't want to have sex with.
    My friends range across the spectrum of age. So some are an obvious no.
    Those who where attractive and in a sensible sexual scope age where just not my type. And I have had a few that where attracted to me and confessed their affection who I had to kindly disappoint their expectations.
    I for the most part don't see men and women I see people. So my actions around both are quite the same. I am pretty sure I am not alone. I witness this same disposition among many of the people I have hung around.

  • It's pure friendship between me and my male friend. There is no romantic or sexual feeling. Something like brother and sister.

  • I have female friends I'm not really attracted to. They're not very close though. When I was in college I had more.

  • Yes.
    What helps me with my female drinking buddy is that I'm way much more interested in alcohol and getting (staying) drunk than sex.

  • This isn't really an opinion, but I came arvross this and I am scared for this girls heath...

  • Qell I'm not very shallow so if all the stars aligned like, I dodnt have a girlfriend, they weren't dating/married to my friends, and they wanted anything to do with me sure.

    None of them are perfect or anywhere near a supermodel, but I've got no problem with real women sooo.

    I see very little issue being attracted to your friends, hell I find most women attractive, just don't be weird about it, no one is ever gonna know that sometimes when she walks away you can't help but notice her great ass, just keep that thought to yourself, in your head, don't comment on it.

  • I have one male friend were is really purely friendship and I would put my hand into fire that this will never change!
    I'm not his type, he is not my type, we respect each other and that's it.
    I really appreciate this friendship. We don't have much contact lately tho, we went to school together and yeah it's a cool and chill friendship

  • I used to. Not anymore. Care to know why? Here is why:
    Why it’s almost impossible for men and women to be “just friends”

  • Yeah my now ex girlfriend after she reads this!

  • there is at least 16 of them, women that are friends to me (different "levels" of friendship, closeness)

    and no, I'm not going to have sex with them... they're friends, not my girlfriend

  • Yes, I do.

  • I have quite a few female friends that I don't want to have sex with and not remotely attracted to.

  • Look I'm gonna just be honest asf I got female friends no I don't like any of them now if I got a female no u can't have guy friends no it's not cause of you maybe it is who knows but I know how guys are and this isn't me being ignorant it's just facts and if my female wanna have guy friends then go ahead I'm just not gonna be the guy to put up with it ✌🏽

  • I am more interactive with my female friends than with my regular friends.

    All of my female friends are just friends and nothing more. I really feel nothing about any of them. But I would surely prefer a girlfriend or wife with their skills.

  • Yea, a few. They are beautiful woman in their own way, but platonic with me. A couple enjoy nudity with me but neither of us gets sexually motivated or aroused. We compare notes so the other Fender's perspective is known in a nonsexual way. My genitals get examined sometimes, like thier's do too, but no erecting or flushing of face and skin take place. If my girlfriend thinks something odd about my nuts, I get them examined by my not girl friend female friends, and find out what woman really think.
    Vice versa is also the case, and I let them know that thier body parts are appealing without getting all hot and bothered like thier boyfriend's might.

  • I do have friends like that.

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