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Have you ever met someone who was "in the closet"?

Have you ever met someone who was in the closet?
Or have been that person yourself?
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If you can add, what did you say/would you say to someone who's closeted?
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  • I've met people in the closet. Many.

    1. First person I met was this close friend from high school, he was the smartest kid in class, one year advanced. He went out at the age of 15. He didn't had any experienced with guys at that time, but after reflecting he seemed to be sure about it.

    2. Second person who was sort of in the closet was this guy in my art school, studying interior design, who always wore smart clothes and had a quite expensive car. Really posh, from traditional homophobic right wing family. I spoke with a friend of his who told me he admitted to enjoy gay sex, and liking guys, but añso said that he'd never marry a guys because, in his words "real love can only be between a man and a woman". It was known his father knew about his son beign gay and that they pretended he wasn't. This is sad. I haven't seen this guy again.

    3. Third person I knew that was in the closet was a girl who was transfered for a year to the city I was studying, and she was in my college residence. This girl would join our group of friends, and through our group conversations about sex and probably beign in a new environment further from home and her religious mother, she seemed to start reflecting about her sexuality, labeling herself as bisexual... Not sure if today she would still feel bisexual or rather lesbian, because she seemed to strongly like women more than men.

    The rest of the people in closet were classmates from high school but their stories aren't that close to me. Two are people who used to be my friend but there's zero contact now. They seemed a bit soft or effeminate in comparison to other guys, so it was kind of expected. The other was a guy in my history art class.

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  • I've been that person. Even though I had asked and knew what my family thought about same sex relationships, I didn't know how they'd feel about the youngest sister (me) being bi. I found out I was bi at 14 years. Old in middle school. Later I came out to my closest sister when I was 16. Then after I graduated high school when I was 19 my mom asked me about my sexuality (she said dad did not care since if I dated a woman I couldn't get pregnant). My friends on the other hand, well, they don't know anything of it. I was more focused on family acceptance.

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  • Yeah one of my friends who i went to school with was almost certainly in the closet about being gay. People at school would tease him and called him "camp david". His mum had her suspicions and she hated gay people. Apparently he once jokingly said to her "hey mum i'm gay" and she said "if you are then you can get out of my fucking house".

    His mum was born in the uk but his family were originally from the west indies and they were the only black people in the whole town. I was friends with him between the ages of 8 and 12 and at that age i didn't even know what the word gay meant. I then moved away away to a different town, and saw him again 4 years later when i was 16. I didn't care if he was gay and i never asked, but i am sure he was.

    Not long after seeing him for the first time in years, and hanging around with him for a few months. I then had to move far away to another part of the country and i lost contact with him. I felt bad for him.

  • Yes to both. Most of my friends are LGBT, as am I, so we were all in the closet at one point. Some of us more than once

    • I tried to let them know I would be a safe person for them to come out to, but I would do it indirectly. Approaching someone and saying "You know you can tell me anything, right?" is just going to make them anxious because they'll think you already know. So what I would is casually bring up other gay people I know in a way that made it clear I was supportive. Just simple stuff like "So I finally got to meet Brad's boyfriend. He seems like a sweet guy." Or "I just found out my coworkers Lisa and Erin started dating. I think their a good match." Even if you don't know anyone personally, you can bring up a gay character in a show and just say something positive about them. When I was in the closet this was huge for me. It let me know that person wasn't homophobic and that they wouldn't care if I was gay

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I would tell them if they're absolutely sure, they should tell the important people in their life as soon as possible. Living a lie eats away at a person.

  • I have met people "in the closet" yes, and that's totally fine with me - regardless if you are homo, bi, trans or whatever.

    Many times, they are the best people too!

  • Yes, I know a lot of LGBTQ+ people

  • I currently am (male to female tg).

    • If anyone has any advice on coming out comment on my question on my profile about it.

  • Nope

  • If you know anyone who has come out of the closet, wouldn't the answer to this always be yes?

  • I was from 15 until I turned 18 and moved out

  • I'm Bi curios and my cousin is completely lesbian.

  • A burglar hiding in the house?

  • I have had freinds who turned out to be gay and when they came out nobody cared and most already knew it was normally super obvious.

  • I have met lots of teenagers in the closet and I also was.

    • Are you gay or bi?

    • I'm bi.

    • How do you know have you been with both

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  • not that i know of cause the person is in the closet 🤔

  • I've known several closeted people. They all came out eventually. You can tell it was a struggle though.

  • My brother in law, after many years - - - - but I really wasn't shocked about it - - - -

  • Yes, I've met several people in the closet. I never was close to them though, so I only got a suspicion and then got them confirmed when they kind of came out.
    One of them is my cousin, he has had partners and his close ones know he's gay (we all can tell anyway) but our family is oblivious to that fact (or pretend to, they're very traditional).

    • To be honest, I don't know what to say to someone who's in the closet. They probably don't feel ready to come out, or maybe don't feel ready to tell their secret to me, so I may make them anxious if I say something about it. I'd somehow try to let them know I won't judge them about it, through my actions.

  • I've met a lot of people in the closet. They don't really like it when you say "hey, i think you might be in the closet" and they huff and puff and storm off.

    I wasn't being mean about it. It was just an observation.

  • Am said person to a large degree.

  • Yes, a few , I'm one really,

  • If they were in the closet how would I know?

  • I am that person.. but not online

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