Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health He doesn’t turn me on sexually, what do I do?
Anonymous
So I’ve been dating this guy for a couple of months now. In the beginning, I did find him attractive and liked him and got sexually turned on by him. But he took things wayyy too fast with us when I told him I just wanted to casually date. The more we hung out, the more I got to know him and the less I became romantically and sexually interested. We got really close but for him he became even more interested in me and I’m the opposite. My interest has slowly declined and every time he would try to have sex with me I’m just not up for it. I’m sure he’s a little bummed lol but I can’t force myself to get with him like that. He’s still around though so it’s not stopping him but not only am I not sexually into him, I’m also not that romantically into him anymore. He’s becoming more of a best friend where he’s still looking at me as a potential girlfriend. I don't know if I should let him know this or wait a little more cause there are times where I am into him but not sexually. I miss feeling horny and he’s not doing that for me. I know I turn him on but when I reject him he’s probably feeling down or bummed. I know there’s ways out there to get turned on to make it work but I don’t know what. Or should I just leave and find someone who does turn me on?
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What Girls & Guys Said
4 45Let him know. The poor guy is getting blue balls thinking there's a chance. He's not going to be able to keep it as a just friends relationship so cut the cord and let him move on so he can find someone who's just as interested as he is.. and maybe tell him why things ended up the way they did. Honesty is best.
You need to put your feeling first. Obviously once you got to know him you realised he isn't it.
If it's not there, then it's not there. You can't force shit
The longer you drag this out the more you will hurt him.
You don’t need to tell him the real reason.
Leave. Why stay? Do you want to continue to feel like that? Just end it with him, but you don't have to make it complicated or over think it. You don't have to tell him exactly why (don't need to hurt him like that), just say "it's not working for you" and you're very sorry.