It sounds like the two of you aren't on the same path in life, and he doesn't seem to care about your concerns, only his desires - which means that if things get tough, he's likely to be selfish and do whatever he wants regardless of what happens to you and/or your kids.
That's a HUGE red flag and this is a life-altering risk you're taking. It would be very different if you were working together on the same set of goals, but you clearly aren't. Either you need to have a serious talk and get on the same page, or you need to end this relationship. If you do neither, then YOU are almost certainly the one who will get stuck with all the responsibility.0 1 0 0Why do u think he seems selfishness
Yeah I agree with some things u said
He's only interested in what he wants, and doesn't seem to care how it will affect you, or what you want. That's selfish.
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To soon, too fast. I think I understand your concern. Please take some time. I go head over heels so fast and it doesn't work well for me b'coz I end up with wrong people for long haul. My ex and I were married in less than 2 months. I thought and knew she was the one and I believe she was not able to develop that feeling ever. She was probably enjoying friends with benefit kind of set up. All I am saying is this is too soon. You vmcan be engaged to be married exactly in one year from the day you started dating and you may want to take another year to get pregnant afterwards. So serious family planning. All the best!
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A month is too soon to know if he’s a good choice to make a family with. Slow things down. Make him wear a condom or pull out until you can get on reliable birth control.
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1 30That might be something you would start discussing after dating for six months. Discussing that after one month suggests that he has a plan and he is looking for someone to play the role of "wife" in his scripted life. Lust, then liking, then love, then commitment and sex, then engagement, then marriage, THEN babies.
0 0 0 0I see a lot of red flags here. He is rushing things and having babies is forever... are you ready for that? Are you using birth control now? I would. Doe you two love each other? If not then don't even think of marriage or kids.
0 0 0 0Then I think you know what to do.
Get on the pill now so you don't get pregnant, or you will be a single mother.
After a year, then talk about marriage. If he is pushing you for a kid already, I would be leary about him and his true intentions.
Go slow with this one.0 0 0 0After a month? He doesn’t even know you. Are you on birth control? Do you want to marry him? He sounds totally clueless and desperate. Don’t even think of marrying him before you are 25. if you don’t get pregnant I predict this will be over in another month as you get to know him.
0 0 0 0U think he’s desperate bc he’s older?
Tell him no more sex without protection. It's that simple. You gotta stand up for yourself.
0 0 0 0A month is extremely too soon to know if you want to have children with a guy. This guy has issues, or he wouldn't be no needy this soon in a relationship. There is something wrong there. Either he has relational issues, and likely personal emotional issues also,, or he is using you. Bet thing to do is get out before you invest more into this screwed up situation.
0 0 0 0How would he use me
He may be sexually using you, and it's definitely odd that he already talking about having babies. Something if off.
He sounds awful
0 0 0 0Why?
Unless I'm understanding wrong, after only a month he's pressuring you into having kids? Amd making promises about marriage? At the very least he doesn't sound like the kind of guy who thinks thigs through or commits to anything
It's your body so you make the rules. If you want him to wear a condom then he should do as you ask. Be careful he doesn't secretly slip it off. You could tell him it's nice that he wants to have kids, but you aren't ready for them yet, but you will be at some point after you get married. If he wants someone to get pregnant now he may want to find a new girlfriend.
0 0 0 0Asking your ring size is a looooooooong way from being married.
Get married first, unless he is playing with you. If that is the case, move on.0 0 0 0You will want to get to know your partner quite well, knowing that you can trust them to have a good life with you, before getting married or pregnant.
Before that better to use condoms, or even better to abstain from sex.0 0 0 0yeah, that seems super weird... i'd run for the hills.
0 0 0 0Hold out for marriage with the right guy.
0 0 0 0Don’t let him pressure you. If you don’t want to get pregnant then just don’t. Make sure you are taking a pill so that you are in control of that too. And if he is pushing you then walk away.
0 0 0 0Uh... get on birth control or require he use a condom. Simple as that.
0 0 0 0Get on birth control until you are ready for children.
0 0 0 0I mean, there’s also birth control pills you can use. Win-win-win. It’s win-win because you both win and I win because I have successfully mediated this conflict.
0 0 0 0If you are on a contraceptive of any sort then let him know. Chances are you're safe. If not, then tell him he either uses a condom or gets the ring, if you are interested in a lifetime commitment.
0 0 0 0He wants a family, you don't, it's over. Break it off and find someone else.
0 0 0 0After a month? Yea ok.
Sadly, you'll keep screwing him0 0 0 0Your have to do what's best for you and if he can't understand that them more on if he loves you he'll marry you
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